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Posted by jen1812 (1365 days ago)

Hi everyone, great to see the adoption thread being active again recently! You're right, My Thoughts, we had our joint interview today. It went very well, our case worker is real nice and friendly. We were there about 1.5 hrs and she basically asked some questions about us to get to know us better, in a way, and at the end also set up our individual interview dates, which are scheduled in the coming two weeks. Things are moving in the right direction and speed and I think (according to her anyway) we should be approved by end of April. Trouble is, though, we may have to wait quite a long time to be matched. Our case worker told us that in the recent months there have been very few babies available and many, many more couples applying to adopt. So the demand far outnumbers the supply, and last month there were only TWO babies available for matching!! This is the info we were given, to paint a realistic picture. On average there are about 40-50 couples waiting and there are less than 10 babies available each time, geez. I sure hope I have a child by Christmas this year! Our case worker said that the more open and flexible prospective parents are about the baby's conditions, the faster they'd be matched. But then again, she also did say that it's a lifelong decision and we have to be very sure we can cope with the decisions that are ticked on the preference form - this mainly applies to those who are open to a baby's disabilities, health problems etc. I'm so ready to bring my daughter home now but I guess the waiting period will be good for my patience (never a virtue of mine!) and I'm going to use the remaining months to relax with hubby while we still can enjoy our own time together, and get organized. The waiting is the hard part, as Bernedetteway mentioned. But hopefully it'll pass pretty quickly if we keep ourselves occupied with things to do! My thoughts, you aren't the only one who found the shopping choices overwhelming. I'm feeling exactly the same right now and don't know where to start looking! Everyone seems to have a different opinion on what's good, although for some things it's pretty obvious that brands like Graco or Peg Perego or Bjorn stand out more than others. For those of you who already have kids, please share your thoughts with us first-timers so that it'll be easier when we go shopping for stuff. The last thing I want to do is to buy something that's not going to be useful and end up occupying more space in an already small apartment. As we all know, space in HK is a big problem! :)

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by my thoughts (1365 days ago)

I think we SHOULD get together bernadetteway, start a little adoptive mummy-to-be group that becomes a baby group when our babies come home :-) I guess that only makes sense if we're all fairly close by, but it IS nice to know other mothers in the same situation and in our case, it'd be nice for our kids to be around other adoptive families.

I think the Quest gets easier to use once you're familier with it, it certainly is popular so people must like more than how it looks. HKchoichoi loves hers and that's a strong endorsement. It didn't do if for us though, for one thing, our daughter HATED it, seat too firm when she was very little, and for another, the sunshade was absolutely useless. I ended out buying a light weight Combi with a huge adjustable full cover sunshade and a comfi padded fully reclinable seat when we were in Singapore. It's not as snazzy looking as the Mac's, but I've been really happy for that sunshade. I wouldn't have known to look at Combi's btw (a Japanese brand) if it weren't for the stroller reviews in Baby Bargain's. It's not that great for long walks though, even around the Lugard Trail, not as well sprung as some of the all terrain types. So think through what you think you'll be using it for.

There are 3 things I'd spend money on: A good crib, a good feeding chair (for mummy) and a baby bjorn. Our daughter is still happily in her crib and she's 2 1/2, so it's been a very good buy. It's a Pali, and it's great. Easy to use rails, very comfy mattress, nice looking, and wasn't so expensive. Lots of kids her age are climbing out of their cribs though, so one thing to look at is how low the mattress can go. The lower the better I'd say, keep those toddlers safely in their cribs rather than wandering around loose at night!
You spend a lot of time feeding a young baby-- it's lovely cuddle/attachment time but you should be nice and comfortable so you really enjoy it (instead of wanting to delegate) :-)
I've talked loads about how much I loved carrying our daughter around in a baby bjorn. Granted, I'm pretty fit and she's not big, so it worked really well for us. Having her always within my hug was really cosy and allowed us to "communicate" a lot, long before she was verbal.

Jen, it's nice to hear your interview went well today! But disheartening to hear so few matches last month. We were really hoping for a match this summer....:-( Yep, take all those romantic weekends away now while you can. Also places you've been meaning to get to that aren't so child friendly, like Angkor. We visited friends in London for two weeks last summer, we had a wonderful time but I never saw a sight and I shopped just two short afternoons. We did play in loads of playgrounds and parks though :-)

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Woody (1331 days ago)

Hi jen1812,

We started the adoption process in July, 2004 and by December 2004 we were 'approved'. I remember how anxious and frustrated we were at the time for things to move faster. But looking back now it seems quite insignificant.

In January, 2005, one month later we were offered a child. The child had some significant 'issues' and because I am a pilot and go away for 4-5 days at a time, we didn't feel that my husband could cope with that child by himself. The child had already been adopted out twice and returned and one reason was for hitting the sibling. Since we have an older child we just didn't want to go down that road. I think that the adoption unit does try to see how far you will go to accepting special children.

So the next child was offered to us in March and she sounded just perfect to us. Medically she had no major problems, she'd been with the birth mother for 5 months and then she had been in 5 foster homes. The first two foster homes were emergency foster homes and then a more permanent foster home and then another short term foster home and then the permanent one which is where we started to visit her. She was 1 year old and three days.

The foster home was in Tuen Mun and it was so tiny you just wouldn't believe it. There were two parents and two teenage children plus my daughter crammed into this tiny, tiny unit that had two closet sized bedrooms. The two teenegers shared and the parents and my daughter shared. My daughter had 5 very broken toys that she played with on the floor of the tiny, tiny living space. She had on so many layers of clothes she looked like the marshmallow baby.

We visited with her on the first day, a Wednesday, with the social worker plus another social worker who was there to support the foster mum who was giving up her first foster child. Actually, that side of it was quite hard because we were actually taking a child away from a mother that had grown very attached to her.

The next day I came to Tuen Mun and collected her to take her to the doctor in Discovery Bay. I picked her up and travelled on public transport straight to the doctor to get her examined. The doctor peeled off layer of clothing after layer after layer. She had on five layer of padded clothing. Finally, I saw my daughter in the flesh for the first time. I gasped and put my hand to my mouth in shock because all over my daughters bottom was significant bruising...or so I thought! I had never seen or heard of 'blue bottom' but apparently many asian children have it and the doctor assured me she was OK. I had thought she being beaten at the foster home.

My husband then joined me and together we took her back to the foster home. The foster mother was upset with me because I had left off some of the clothes. She immediately put them back on. I just smiled and let it go because the situation was extremely delicate and as I said to my husband - she's been overdressed for a year - a few more days won't hurt. The next day we came to Tuen Mun and just walked her around the shopping centre locally, trying to get a smile out of her. She was very vary of us still and always looking for the foster mum. I can only say that that first week was totally emotionally draining and exhausting. So much travel every day to see a child that didn't want to see us!!, etc.

On Saturday we then came and collected her and took her back to our place in Tung Chung to meet our son for the first time. When the foster mum was not around, ie after we left her place, our daughter transfered her dependance onto me. She just clung to me and I couldn't put her down. This was a worry to us because I had to go away on a trip in a weeks time.

On the Sunday it was the fifth day of going Tung Chung - Tuen Mun - Tung Chung - Tuen Mun - Tung Chung. We again had her at our place for the day. That night we went back to Tuen Mun and took the whole foster family out for dinner and I told the mother that the next day I would collect our daughter the next morning and I wouldn't be bringing her back. I gave her some clothes for my daughter to wear the next day. I had been in contact with the social worker describing how things were going so they were in the loop about this.

The next day I collected her. I didn't stay long because I could see how upset the foster mother was. That afternoon the social worker came to our home to complete the paperwork which essentially makes us the new foster parents for the next six months until the court hearings were completed.

My daughter attached to me very strongly and had to be held by me for a while. When I went away she transfered her alliance to my husband and a few months later we got our first helper and she transfered her alliance to the helper. After one year she still does this. Because of her insecure beginning she latches to one person only. It was such a problem that we had to dismiss the helper (I found her another job first). Now, because I regularly leave town, our daughter favours my husband by far. But I can cope with that, just not the helper. If my husband is not around then I am her second choice.

In personality she has changed totally. With space, stimulation, etc she is now a loud and determined child and she copies her big brother whenever she can.

My husband attached to her very quickly and to be really honest it has taken me longer. At first I was quite concerned that I had such intense feelings about my natural son - like I would die for him if need be -and I didn't have the same depth of feeling for the new daughter. But now after time has gone by my feelings have changed for her. I really love her and she feels like ours and one of the family. She looks so familiar to us we don't see her as being Chinese - just our daughter.

There were a lot of issues originally that needed ironing out. Like she had been fed predominanatly on formula and Ferrerro Rochers!!! that she wouldn't touch nutritious food. Feeding has been our biggest difficulty which we overcame with time.

She is a FANTASTIC SLEEPER, more than 12 hours a night which we never got with our son. And she just turned 2 and is already toilet trained during the day.

A few months after we got her we had the foster family over to our home for the day. It was very special - I could tell they were very excited to come - the mother and daughter had matching tshirts and shoes and the the son also had new shoes on. We took them bowling, then out for lunch and then swimming in the afternoon and finally dinner at our home. By the way, they only spoke Chinese so it was a day of smiling and nodding,etc. I think it provided good closure for the foster mum to see our daughter so settled into our home. Afterwards we got a lovely card from them saying how 'brave' our daughter had become. Well she's even braver now!!! It is proof to me that the environment we raise our children in is very important.

Two weeks ago my daughter joined her big brother at nursery school. She is coping well. She will learn Chinese fluently like her big brother and write it as well.

So that's our adoption story and I am happy to answer specific questions if you have any.

Cheers.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Woody (1330 days ago)

My son had been part of the discussion about getting a little sister. Since we started the process we always referred to when we would get a sister and the changes that would occur. At this stage they share the same bedroom in bunk beds. We kept saying that when the sister came our son could move up to the TOP BUNK! which he really wanted to do. And many other things like that - emphasis on the priviledges of being the big brother. Actually, since we got our daughter our son has always shown a lot of love for her and helped her. I have seen a couple of pushes and pinches here and there but nothing significant.

I do have a personal feeling that sibling rivalry is caused by not enough attention. My son is so busy with his own activities which include nursery, gymnastics, Kumon, chinese and school interest classes that he looks forward to solitary playtime at home. He is rarely in a position to be competing with his new sister.

We have told him that there are many ways to get a baby. He knows that he came out of my tummy but his sister came out of somebody elses tummy but they couldn't look after her so we were the ones chosen to look after her and be her family. He has learnt the word 'adopted' and says to anyone who's interested that his moi moi (little sister) is adopted (which is obvious!). He doesn't see she looks different because every single person in his class is chinese - his teachers and all the parents are chinese and his little sister is chinese. He is so used to chinese that he doesn't realise why so many people stare at us.

By the way, if you haven't adopted before be prepared for the staring. People in Hong Kong openly stare and look at you with puzzled expressions - I think adoption as a process of getting a child doesn't occur to Chinese quickly. I have already been asked how much did she cost to buy?!!! Try not to get offended - I put it down to ignorance and I try to demonstrate in our community (specifically our Chinese school community) how wonderful and loving our family is so that their minds are broadened. Narrow-mindedness is a result of circumstance and can be improved upon!

Regarding buying things in advance of adoption I would say hold off. I know the inner feeling of anticipation makes it very tempting to buy all the gear BUT I did buy bottles, dummies, clothes etc only to find my daughter had been using some cheap bottle with winged teats and didn't like the expensive avent ones I had bought... And she only liked a specific dummy (not the ones I had bought)... And the clothes were too big so I had to go and buy smaller sizes and then the next season those too big clothes were too small! Because it is such a huge upheaval for adopted children to come into a new home I found that for at least a month I tried to keep our daughter more settled my doing familiar things. Same bottle, dummy that she liked, serving her the same formulas, making congee even though we don't eat that. After a month then I started to say well you live in our house now so this is how it's done, etc.

As for maternity leave - no. It's not offered in our airline for adoption. The whole airline industry will need more time to accept women as pilots and especially mums as pilots. I had nine days off at that time which were just days off between two trips.

Cheers.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Woody (1328 days ago)

I noticed that some of you were looking for children under 4 months old. This will most likely really slow the process right down. It could take you years. In fact, it may never happen for you and you will become so frustrated and impatient that you will ring up your case worker and say you change your criteria to up to one years old and then you will have an offer within two weeks.

Our daughter was one when we got her and she was 'attached' to me within a week. Also because she could give us some feedback (smiles, laughing,etc) I think we attached to her faster than a small baby that is very demanding but gives little feedback. I am just mentioning this not to change anyone's mind about a young baby but to give a different perspective.

There is another adopted girl living in our building. The baby is from China and they got her when she was 1 year, 1 month. They also found the attachment was very quick - within a few weeks.

Originally, my husband and I wanted an older child of similar age to our son. There was a great emphasis in the classes about considering special children including older children. BUT when we were waiting to be matched the case worker said there were no older healthy girls available and there hadn't been for a while. In fact, she said the oldest child that she'd matched in the last year was 18 months old. The adoption unit actually doesn't get many older children BUT when they do get them they are very hard to place. That is why they do ask you to consider older children but actually they do not have as many as you might imagine on their books.

In September we had the last court hearing when we were officially granted adoption. There were six families there and you may be surprised that there were no small babies. There was one boy about 8-9 years old and then the other families all had children above 12 months old. There were 3 that were walking toddlers, including my daughter. We were the only gweilo family except for the parents of the 8-9 year old boy.

By the way if any of you are Aussies you may want to know of the greatest injustice there currently is in Australian immigration. If you live in HK and have a natural child s/he automatically is entitled to an Australian passport. If you adopt, however, your child is NOT entitled to an Australian passport even though both parents are Aussies. The child must live in Australian for more than two years before she can apply for a passport. Natural children, however, do not have to live in Australian for two years.

As we live in HK for the forseeable future my daughter will be on a HK passport and this is very complicated when we travel to the States and elsewhere. She needs different visas and her length of stay rights are different to ours in different countries. Australia changed the rules in April, 2005 regarding adopted children and it now very discriminatory. Natural children and adopted children DO NOT have the same rights.

I had done all the research in late 2004 and we were matched in March 2005. The rules were changed in April but actually I never knew until my father sent me a newspaper clipping mid-year. By then we'd already had our daughter for a few months so there was no question about keeping her. I have already written to immigration and the ombudsman and received only an acknowledgement from both and no further correspondance. It is very frustrating.

Cheers.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by my thoughts (1298 days ago)

Hi Jen--I'm so sorry to be this slow replying to you. We were out of town on holiday and since then I've been a blur of activity getting ready for our daughter's (very small) 3rd birthday. I have a lot to say about books too, so I wanted to have a few minutes to answer properly. I've got 3 adoption related books now: "Raising Adopted Children" by Lois Ruskai Melina, "Attaching in Adoption" by Deborah Grey, and "Lifebooks" by Beth O'Malley. The first is excellent, I've read it cover to cover and have xeroxed loads of pages as I've borrowed the book and will need to return it. One of the bigger take-aways for me was that the early days with your new child should be as similar to what they know as absolutely possible...same schedule, same bottle, same formula, same clothing, even same laundry detergent..there will be so many changes anyway that trying to keep alot the same will help them ease into their new enviroment. This was something I hadn't thought about, but makes a lot of sense to me especially as I think back to how aware our daughter was in the early months and how much she was affected by (any) changes.

The second, Attaching in Adoption, is a very practical guide to improving attachment, respect, cooperation, trust and caring in the family. Complicated situations are treated as the rule, yet the underlying theme is very positive. There's a lot in this book, it promises to be a valuable reference tool for us for many years.

The third, "Lifebooks", is warm and wonderful. It is all about creating a treasure of memories and history for the adopted child--something that's presented as all important to helping build a connection with their past and a grounding with their forever family. This book really reasonates with me, so much so that I'm working on a "lifebook" for our biological daughter as well :-)

And on just basic baby care--I have several Gina books and find them useful mostly as a guide to what sort of schedule is appropriate at what age. (I also found her potty training book really helpful.) Lots of people are Gina fans, I'm not really. And with our adopted child, we'll place comfort and attachment as higher priorities than a strict Gina person would. If you'd like another suggestion, I absolutely LOVE Penelope Leach's "Your Baby and Child". Warm, practical, nurturing, helps one see the child's perspective and respond as a caring parent. I ordered it from www.paddyfield.com

Oh, and we've been approved! So now we're in the queue (so to speak) ...the next matching committee is May 11 but we're expecting it'll still take months....

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Daizy (1201 days ago)

Hi everyone! I was just reading the whole thread again and its so much fun going through it. I just love it. Let me tell you our story.

My husband and I are not Chinese but we lived in mainland china for many many years. You might think we are an older couple, but we are not (turned 28 today). We moved to Hong Kong in Jan 04, and sometime in March I called the SWD to get information about adoption. The lady told me that we had to stay in HK for at least 18 months, for some reason that frustrated the hell out of me and I asked to give me a good reason why? She said she would talk to her manager and call me back. So she called me back and said the reason is so that you get familiar with Hong Kong resources. I asked what that meant? She said you know the hospitals and stuff, I replied I am familiar, can I apply for the adoption process now? I had no intention of starting procedures immediately, I just got mad because they said I had to wait, so it turned out as a challange.

I don't remember what happened next but I might have spoken to someone else and explained that we had been living in china and that HK is a part of china and that my husband travelled to HK frequently and miraculously they asked us to attend the trainings :) hurray!!! We got in :)

So from May to November we completed all the steps and three weeks after our final approval we got a call about the cutest boy on earth who was 2 months old. His foster family lived in Fo Tan. They had 3 or 4 other foster babies before our son, the lady was Malaysian and her husband was from Hong kong, so we spoke Mandarin, everything went very smoothly.

The HK side of the adoption was very effecient, the US side took forever. We did the court hearing last July and we got our son's US passport in April. If you are a US citizen and want to apply for a US passport for your adopted child, it is very tricky. I followed all the steps and got the passport and then received a letter saying that he doesnt have a certificate of citizenship and a new door full of problems opened. Anyway, I won't bore you with that :)

We have travelled the world with our 22 month old, we have been to Singapore, Houston, Alaska, Beijing, Dubai, India, Kuwait and Hawaii. We will go to Taiwan end of this month for a week. On some flights he sleeps like a little hawk and on others he is a terror.

If you guys do meet up, please let me know. I would love to meet adoptive parents. I think its important for our children when they grow up to know that their families had other adoptive family friends from the country they are from.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by my thoughts (1197 days ago)

Congratulations Jazzy :-) Wow, such welcome news for you. I think you can pretty safely buy a crib and get room blackening drapes/shades for the nursery....the rest of it (carseat, buggy, baby bjorn, clothes, diapers, bottles, bathtub, etc.) well, age will impact those decisions. But as Daisy said, window shopping and keeping note of what you see where and the prices of things, will make it all much more efficient when you ARE matched. When that happens you'll be wanting to spend as much time getting to know your baby and his/her care and won't be so interested in schelping throught the stores. You'll safely have 2 weeks from the time you're matched until you're expected to bring your baby home, that might be enough for you on the helper front. Although certain times of year see more helpers available than others (Summer is good with expats leaving)

Sorry Jaims, I saw your note a few days ago but things have been a bit of a whirlwind around here. I think three years gives you plenty of time to adopt here though, even if you aren't able to talk your way into an exception like persuasive Daizy was (nice work Daizy!) I would certainly talk with SWD about how to best get into the queue so that you're actually ready to go the moment you've been here 18 mo, assuming you'd have to wait per the policy. Minimally, you'd want to get the introductory workshop out of the way and get started on, or at least prepared to start, the application. My husband and I were quite motivated on this, so we got our application done, attachments and all, in a weekend. And then we got into the very next set of (2) workshops, but still had to wait 6 weeks for those. I think we zipped through that part of the process about as quickly as possible. Although yours might go yet more quickly as most of the activity is with placing very young babies. So they might be quite happy to process an application for an older child quickly, especially if there are older children who are appropriate for you.

I wanted to suggest two books for you Jaims--I may have mentioned them above--but they are both really really good, and, importantly, they address issues that one should be prepared for with adopting an older child: "Attaching in Adoption" (Deborah Gray) and "Raising Adopted Children" (Lois Ruskai Melina) Even if you aren't a reader-type, I think these two books would be well worth your time. There are some really beautiful stories of older children joining established families and it would be very special if that were also your family's experience. Attaching in Adoption is also a good reminder of the kinds of (outside) support that may be necessary so that this is indeed a successful and wonderful thing for all members of the family.

Now for OUR news, which will explain why I didn't come forward with the stats from the last matching panel--WE were matched! To a 3 mo old little boy who is darling. We've only just been able to see him, so twice now. But I have a question for all of you who've taken a baby home....how long did it feel like the child you were matched with, was meant to be YOURS? He is very sweet, and very happy to be held, fed, bathed, dressed, rocked, cuddled, etc. by us....but I don't feel a "connection", at least as yet. Is that to be expected? My husband almost wonders if perhaps he's not the "right" match for us. I'm sort of inclined to think it's OK for these things to take time....but I would love to hear others experiences. Both the love-at-first sight experiences, as well as any others.

And, since we were in this session, I don't know how many others were matched, sorry!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Woody (1196 days ago)

My thoughts,

I would also like to offer my congratulations to you. Is the baby in foster care or an orphanage?
At 3 months old you should be able to bring the child home quite quickly.

I remember from your previous posts that you have a biological child already. This is similar to our own situation where we have a natural son and an adopted daughter.

From my own experience I can say that the attachment is very, very different between a natural child and an adopted child but in the long term both attachments are just as strong.

When I had my son he was a typical ugly, smooched newborn and amazingly I instantly loved him and was tuned to his every cry and noise. With my daughter in the first few weeks it was the strangest, almost unreal experience to go through. Because someone had cared for her for the first year with a different parenting style to me she didn't feel like my daughter. My hubby has just reminded me of what we said to each other on the first night she came home and we were looking at her sleeping in her cot. 'It's like having a stranger in the house...' She did NOT feel like a family member.

Over the first six months we had her she changed so much because of our own parenting style. Lots of stimulation, early to bed, early to rise, routine, international travel, outgoing lifestyle like swimming, bike riding and all that. The social worker wouldn't recognise her now. But the first six months were hard because we didn't feel like she was ours and I had a very small, private worry that we had done the wrong thing.

It's now one year and five months since we got her and I am so happy to say she fits into our family PERFECTLY. She and her big brother are as thick as thieves - the best of friends. I couldn't ask for more. She is a gorgeous girl and she just adores her big brother and her big brother just loves to care for her and look after her.

Of course I don't really know, but I imagine that it is easier to attach in adoption if you do NOT have a natural child because you aren't comparing that attachment to how it was when you gave birth to a child. One of the good things I found with our adopted girl was I was able to be a better parent in areas of discipline. You know, controlled crying, time outs,etc. I was able to be more consisent and tougher because my heart strings weren't as involved initially! You see, there's always a good side to everything!!!

My thoughts, I look forward to hearing your story. And how your daughter is going.

Cheers.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by jen1812 (1196 days ago)

CONGRATULATIONS, My Thoughts!!!!!!! Oh wow, this is fantastic news and I'm so happy for you!! We were in this journey together at around the same time, so it's great that you got matched not long after us too!! :)

For us since we have no biological children prior to adopting, we were completely open to the baby right from the start. Hubby and I are Christians and we began praying for the child as soon as we began the adoption process, and I journaled as often as I could, and I'm intending to give my daughter this journal/keepsake one day when she's old enough to understand and appreciate it. For me, I already loved my baby before we even got her. The day we saw our baby for the very first time, hubby and I were both excited and nervous - that's so natural, isn't it? I mean, you're going to be seeing your child for the very first time and you have no idea at all what she's like! We went to Mother's Choice and when the worker carried her into the room, I took one glance at the baby and tears came into my eyes. It was instant love, in my case, and for my husband too. We just totally, completely, absolutely loved our baby from that moment, and we're still besotted with her! :) Initially we had planned to spend 2 hours at Mother's Choice that first day, but after hubby left for work, I couldn't bring myself to leave so I ended up staying half the day. I fed, bathed and cradled my baby that first day, savoring the delights of finally being a mother. It was an awesome and in some ways indescribable feeling, one which I will never forget. We brought the baby home after a week, but in the meantime we went to see her everyday. Having her home the first night was so funny, we were so elated and dazed by the fact that we HAD a baby in our home that we just kept sitting next to her cot and looking at her while she slept. :) Needless to say, she fit in right away, without a doubt.

Adopting a baby is the best thing that's happened to us and we feel extremely blessed that God has given us this precious baby. I know no one's perfect but to me, our baby is perfect, haha. Our social worker has been amazed at the baby's growth and development during her monthly home visits, and she remarked that it seemed like it was meant to be. I guess it truly was.

Keep us posted on your news! I am so excited for you!

Hope all the rest of you who are still waiting to be matched get your babies soon! I know from our social worker that in recent months there have been increasing numbers of babies available and matched successfully.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

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