How to get revenge

Posted by Solie (355 days ago)

My husband married a chinese girl a while ago. She has 2 kids and one is his. I started the proceedings here in my country to anull the marriage that was registered in the French consulate in Guangzhou. What can I do to make her life a living hell. He has started paying (he is in jail). It is now HER turn. I would like her publicly humiliated, discriminated (I read some Chinese are traditional and would never accept someone who had done something like this) and specially losing her kids. Any ideas???

(I am based in Other)

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Posted by DakLak (355 days ago)

Sounds simple.

China does nor permit marriage concurrently to two spouses. He therefore broke the law.

Assuming he is French, he also broke the law of France (getting married on 'French' soil). Wait until he gets back to France!

Go to your consul, report the crime and ask for assistance in notifying the Chinese authorities.

I assume you know where he was married. It will have been done at the Foreigner section of the provincial capital.

China's monster computer system will quickly link him (using all the data you will be able to supply - including passport number) to the serial wife and then you should be able to sit back and watch the fun begin.

Once you have 'scored' forget him and carry on with your life.

He'll never forget YOU!

(I am based in Vietnam)

Posted by linchee (355 days ago)

if you are planning on revenge (I am not certain what you have in mind), you might NOT want to contact any police or authority regarding your husband's bigotry because that will automatically give you a motive.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by clan (354 days ago)

I agree with Daklak....if you feel you need to take revenge, revenge done this way makes sense and I can understand how you feel. However, your husband knew he was married too,,,,?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by FOC (354 days ago)

Solie, before you embark revenge on the GIRL, I suggest that you carefully consider the following. I understand your hurt and empathize with your current situation.

(a) How do you know that the GIRL is a party to the current dilemma? The current doing could be that of your husband alone. Let me explain. I was based in China for a number of years. I have seen many local girls who are pretty naive and innocent. They ended-up being "sweet talk" by the other partners, particularly foreigners. Many claimed either they are currently on the way to divorce or they are still single. It works both ways - there are foreigners who are being cheated as well by local girls.
(b) Suggest that you approach the girl and have a feel for it .. you might be surprised at what you discover. You may chnage your mind about revenge. Good luck.

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by Justin Credible (353 days ago)

Revenge is such a negative thing...

I'd say skip the revenge bit and be the bigger person and just get on with your life and make it a good one.

And yes, it is as easy as it sounds.

(I am based in Unspecified)

Posted by Jack Thelad (353 days ago)

i agree with JC - just move on, with your head held high

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Island Dweller (353 days ago)

Authorities in China couldn't be less interested in your case.

May sound blunt, but if they were interested, they would have checked the marital status beforehand with French Consulate and their "monster computer system'?

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Well I'll Be (353 days ago)

you gotta get rid of the anger and think straight if you wnat to pull off the revenge

First, the lady in question is likely to be after his money and/or promise of a life away from her country. Chances are your hubby is an expat with all the perks and priviledges.

So, what you gotta first do is to find a partner in crime. preferably a younger, handsome male.

You track down this woman and get you accomplice to move in and make a move for her affection. He has to be sincere, and full of integrity. If he can fake that, he's got it made. Of course you'll need to finance his ability to project a lavish life style while maintaining a solid, down to earth type of personality.

The objective is to get him to get the woman to dump your hubby.

The real icing on the cake is to make sure this fine young man also has some kind of sexually transmitted disease (AIDS will be good)

The ending should be fun to watch.

Good luck.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by balzac (353 days ago)

For everyone's reading benefit, a compilation of mingg03's posts:-

Posted by mingg03 (454 days ago)
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There must be westerns around, just keep looking. I am married to a married western. I had a kid from another western. Who cares, take things the way they come. Don't expect Mr. Right riding in an armour. When your time comes you'll meet him. Good Luck!! Life is not perfect.

Posted by mingg03 (454 days ago)
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I do not think you are stupid. You just love him. I met my husband and had a 3 year relationship before I found out that he was married, YES, MARRIED and had a kid. We decided to continue the relationship because he said he loved me. over 3 years have passed. He is married in his country with his wife and here in China with me. I do not care. His wife does not know and will probably never find out. Life is the way it is so you have to take it the way it comes. I sometimes feel that I do not trust him but I love him and he helped me when I got pregnant. It is a shame my kid is not his.

Posted by mingg03 (454 days ago)
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Things worked out well I think. We keep in touch and if he ever decides to leave his family I am here for him. I am in a relationship now with my kid's father who happens to be married. I guess I can't complain. I am not alone. Everyone respects me. I am happy
Posted by mingg03 (348 days ago)
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Posted by mingg03 (450 days ago)
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13th Apostle, I reckon you misunderstand my statement. I had been in the relationship wiht my husband when I found out that he was married. He told me he would not leave his wife because of his child so although I told his wife I would disappear from their lives, we kept in touch. It was after some time that I got married but my boyfriend is married so could not marry me. So I make a call and he came to China to marry me.As I said everyone wins! I have a cute white kid and am very happy. My kids father supports me and I went back to work.Can't complain, can't I?
(I am based in Guangzhou)

Feng,
Do not worry much if he has kids I doubt his wife do anything at all. I am in the same situation like you, difference is that my husband is french.Who cares, although my husband continues living with his wife and kids we continue pretty much in touch. I hope he will soon come into his senses and accept to divorce her. Just as in your case my husband's never registered their marriage (USA) so I won after all. He does not care crap about her otherwise he would have never registered our marriage. Whether his wife finds out or still I just do not care. She and the kids do not exist for his government. I live very happily and I even have a son now. It is a pity that my son is not my husband's but another married foreigner (somone who has lots of businesses here in Guangzhou). In fact I am already trying to get pregnant again. I do not know if I will be ever be able to go back to my husband but from the time being I am extremely happy.
(I am based in Guangzhou)


Posted by mingg03 (346 days ago)
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raincatcher, I do not know Feng's situation in depth but in my case. My husband still lives with his family in USA. I have a beautiful blonde son from my current lover who is unfortunately married and has 2 kids with his wife so he will never leave them. They live here in Guangzhou and his wife does not know. I have a good job and he also supports me. We are trying to have another one soon so your advice is late. I would love for MY HUSBAND to leave his wife but he adores his son. It will happen sooner or later I am sure. I just have to wait. When the times comes I will see what I do with my present man. He has a lot of money and connections. You know i guess how all these works. I am financially stable and I am not planning to let that change.
(I am based in Guangzhou)



Posted by mingg03 (340 days ago)
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Raincatcher, you certainly are right. I have nothbing to be ashamed for. I love "MY HUSBAND" and "HE LOVES ME". I could care less what any of you think, this is open to any opinion. I habve respected BY EVERYONE who knows me, at home & at work. My family support me completely and I even live with my siuster who helps me with my child. My child is happy and so AM I.

Posted by mingg03 (339 days ago)
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Pizza, there is no need to feel sorry for me. As per chinese/french government I AM MARRIED!!! no matter what you all say. Being that his first marriage was NEVER registered that one, does NOT EXIST. All this shows that the only woman HE LOVES is ME; he does not care about his first wife or kid. When he dies I will be the one to collect his money BECAUSE I AM HIS WIFE!!

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by Raven767 (353 days ago)

Wow. It is pretty obvious she knew. But, is your marriage legal? I only ask as she openly states all the above which seems pretty honest to me.

My advice.... check the status of your marriage. Then report him to the French authorities so they can get him when he arrives back in country.

However, if you have children.... are you going to tell them you had their father arrested?

(I am based in Taipei)

Posted by Island Dweller (353 days ago)

Raven767 : You are advising how to get justice, but she's looking for a revenge.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by jwm (346 days ago)

Revenge is a pure sign of inmaturity

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Nuts&Bolts (346 days ago)

But - for all that "iMmaturity" - most people would agree that "Revenge is Sweet" [when THEY are the instigator].

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by linchee (346 days ago)

if you really want to revenge -
it is possible that your "husband" is expecting you to pull something off.
it might be more effective to do it when he and she least expect it.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by thingumy (345 days ago)

I would have mingg03 and Solie hunted down , caught in a net and placed securely in an assylum. There is more than a hint that they are not mentally capable of handling lifes ups and downs.
Are they the same person? ... those are really disturbing messages.

(I am based in Hong Kong)