Blowing Hot & Cold

Posted by MahiMahi (303 days ago)

Hello!! I am back on this forum. I have a problem with a guy (what's new).

He blows hot cold. When I don't call, he will call or SMS. Then I will feel really good as he makes it seem like he is very keen to meet me. This usually happens when one of us are out of town.

Then when both of us are in town, he will act cooler with me, and he did not pick up my call, nor reply to my message.

I know a lot of you will say "He's just not that into you" blah, blah, blah. I know all these and I am not looking for analysis on this.

The reason I am posting is to help get ideas on how to ignite and retain his interest.

(I am based in Singapore)

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Posted by jwm (303 days ago)

Are you a boring person? Are you sexually active with him? Only really you know the anwer to what you are asking here. You have not given any information on the opinion you are looking for so, cannot really comment.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by MahiMahi (303 days ago)

No, I am far from being boring. If I was I doubt he would have stuck around for months. We have seen each other on and off, although nothing on exclusivity or expectations have been broach. I view this as a potential relationship that I would like to grow, not a fling, or I wouldn't have bothered to post here. Posting here means I am at my wits' end.

Sexually we are not active yet. We fool around and make out a lot, but the actual deed has not been done. But it would happen pretty soon, and he knows it.

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by candice billove (303 days ago)

if he only shows interest when u dun call/text him, then i guess u can simply do just that. and when he does....dont initiate calls/texts him no matter how much u want to. then he cant play cool cos he would have to be the initiator if he wanted contact....in other words, play hard, but not impossible, to get.

that'll hopefully ignite some interest on his part. good luck.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by jwm (303 days ago)

You have been seeing him for months and have not slept with him, perhaps that's the problem...

(I am based in Hong Kong)