Disappearance

Posted by starry eyed (183 days ago)

I'm new to this and have a question. How do you all think of disappearing on someone you've been going out with and being disappeared on by someone you've been going out with? The premise is that it's not a full-on relationship yet but more than casually dating. Thank you.

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by fatkid (182 days ago)

I think as long as u make it clear that u dun think it's gonna work and dun intend to take it any further before hand it is allright, so that it's not all out of the blue keeping the other party wondering wtf is going on.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Little Carmen (181 days ago)

It happens...if its "not a full-on relationship yet but more than casually dating" I am assuming you mean you are either casually shagging or regularly shagging but you arent admitting to anyone important that you two are in the biblical way...then dont go taking it too personally that you have been disappeared on or if you feel like disappearing on someone...the most likely reason for the disappearing act is simply that there is another "not a full-on relationship" thing going on in said disapearee's life!!

It would be nice if people could communicate something as simple as "Hey, I am now casually shagging someone else and they are better/more fun/more me than you" but not everyone does that...so maybe do a bit of Simon & Garfunkel and read the writing on the wall and do yourself a favor, maybe next time dont get into situations like this.

Good luck.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by len_in_shanghai (165 days ago)

Well...I used to be a Houdini myself...so talking from experience, many times I have tried to explain why I want to stop the relationship (casual or not) and is hard to put in words something like "listen, this is a big city, I got bored of you and I got a new toy" so dissapearing is quite appealing to me. Furthermore, the few times I tried to explain the girl goes in tears or gets into a personal vendetta against me (court orders included, I kid you not) so currently what I do is start acting like an a**hole, or ignoring them, until they get bored and decide to break up with me.

Nothing like making the other person break up with you to end a relaionship, is the most efective way.

(I am based in Unspecified)