Ok, so there is a LOT of advice to wade through and here I am to add my 10 cents.
First and foremost, Julliette, you are not married, you do not have kids. LGMV is likely married with kids. So his perspective would be similar to many others who are married with kids. Its actually none of your business and you really ought not to stick your nose in it when your hand in this would mean the end of a happy household "as the KIDS see it".
Adults fukk up, adults are hardly the epitome of how it should be done, but we can kinda do our best to save the next generation from our misdeeds. Its all well and good for you to be saying you have your friends best interests at heart but you do sound a bit sanctimonious and outraged that anyone else may actually see it the husbands way. Like "this is NOT the kind of man I would want to be married to!" and hence you somehow need to save your friend! *SMH*
Until you've had kids, you do not, you can not, really know how this would impact what we loosely term as FAMILY.
Selda, your advice is great and as a non-parent, that advice would be great...but again, as someone who comes from a home with parents who have been together 45 tumultous but very currently very content and loving years...I would say, damn am I glad they didn't get a divorce coz of my fathers wandering dong.
My folks go on cruises like good old folks, they are happy, each others best friend and worst enemy, but doesn't mean they didn't have a lot of similar stuff in their life. But now they are happy. Lucky for them they were left to deal with their own problems without the "help" of "do gooders" with unsolicited input on how they could get more sex on the side, hire detectives or how to question each others fidelity!
Did I think that they should have been divorced many times before? Sure. But now, as an adult and as their child, I think, shi* am I glad they have each other...
Now Juliette, I am sure you mean well, but just don't. Its not whether anyone will believe you or whether you tell the truth or whatever, the core of the matter here is its not your life, its not your place, its not your business whatsoever, so keep clear of it and hard as it would be to just let that shi* slide...do.
Happy ending massage places, my brother hits them up, he doesn't view it as cheating. He gets sex from his wife on holidays and birthdays, apparently after some complaining to her she has upped it to once a month...but they basically don't get along great, so why would he even want to go there? When asked "Whats it like" he said "Its hardly what you think. Someone fully clothed jerks you off, its not sexy, its merely.....release."
So yeah, I wouldn't go making this out to be some fantastic experience with hot college age women...its likely pretty clinical and cut and dried. *shrug*. Just sayin.