Ex bf of 3 years ago...

Posted by patrickd (503 days ago)

Still missing my ex bf that I broke up with 3 years ago... Saw his recent photo on the internet and the feeling came back again, what should I do? :(

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by tyro (503 days ago)

Relationships are like homework assignments, we are assigned people from whom we can learn valuable life lessons. When a person leaves, it means the assignment is over and it's time to move on to the next lesson. Let yourself hurt for a while and then chalk it up to experience. Don't forget there are better men waiting for you.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Sasquatch (502 days ago)

Why'd you split? Was it a problem or just some nonrelationship thing that swept you apart like work assignments in different places? Maybe he thinks about you three years later too. Id say drop him a line and dont be all "lets get back together" but just say hi. See if he grabs hold of it or not. Cant hurt anything to remind him you still walk the Earth.

Id love to hear from a few of my ex's that I left on good terms with. My wife wouldnt want me to hear from them LOL but thats a different matter.

(I am based in Guangzhou)

Posted by Kiwi_Elaine (502 days ago)

I guess you always want something/someone that you can't have. There is a reason why you guys broke up at the first place but it doesn't mean that you can't drop him a line to say hi (as per sasquatch recommend).

Maybe I should also call my ex to say a be-lated Happy Chinese New Year haha

(I am based in Unspecified)

Posted by Straw_berry (502 days ago)

Two tough weeks had passed and really don't know where the tough times would be over... He broke off with me abruptly the week before Chinese New Year & formally told me on the eve of Chinese New Year... Am missing him badly but what can I do...

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by cute_sense (502 days ago)

Do take care of yourself, "Straw berry". I felt for your heartache. After some tears, you must be strong again and smile :-)

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by Straw_berry (502 days ago)

Dear cute_sense,

Really appreciate your replies... You probably can understand well since you mentioned you have experienced it... Somehow, I felt I had pressured him to "crack" and hence decided to break up...

If you don't mind, cute_sense, would you like to be a friend since you are based in Singapore?

Regards,

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by pinolino (502 days ago)

contact him and say "hello" how is it going?...What else can you do? Oh yes, nothing...

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by patrickd (501 days ago)

We broke up because he had to move to another country and we didn't see any future of us. I'm afraid I can't find another guy whom I love that much. :(

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by the_poor_man (500 days ago)

I don't think so. You may not have found another guy -- YET -- but if you allow yourself, you will. It just takes time.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by zelda (500 days ago)

the only way to get over an ex is to get under him. Once or twice, till you realise that he really belongs to your past. Pining is a waste of time.

If you can't meet him, then write a poem, or a novel . At least something good will come out of this ghost. Obsessing is bad for your health.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by naima (499 days ago)

Zelda's right. You need to get it out of your systems by absorbing everything until your heart and mind finally gets tired of these thoughts and cries "enough".

(I am based in Guangzhou)