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Oceanview
20 yrs ago
I'm debating whether to terminate my DH or not. She's been with my family for a year but things are not working out. However, I'm a bit worried that she may become vengeful after I terminate her. I've seen her arguing with some Filipinas over the phone and I certianly don't want to be on the wrong side of her. Anyone heard of any cases of DH becoming vengeful towards their ex-employer after termination?
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I've terminated my helper 2 months ago and she spread terrible rumors about our family among the other helpers in the complex. It was very bad talking about us and it really affected us to find a new helper ! Nobody wanted to work for us because of what she told.
It's such a common behavior after termination, 2 friends of mine experienced this kind of behavior too. It's sad but that's how we lived it !
However it shouldn't stop you from terminating her if you're not happy with her. Since our helper is away, we're much happier and feel much more confortable in our house :-)
And we've managed to find a new helper at last :-)
Good luck !
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Ugh....sounds all too familiar. Our helper finished with us on Friday. She tendered her resignation cos she knew a sacking was most definitely on its way. She was with us for a year too. Cant really stop them talking...they all do it basically...very few discreet one from what I can see. What could she possibly do if you are on her "wrong side"? Her friends obviously know that she is an angry individual. No reflection on you. All the best and good riddance to bad rubbish is what I say!
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Well, prior to her hiring, I used a part time helper for a month which is illegal. She knows about it and I can see her reporting it to the authority if she gets angry. I know she reported on some DH whom she had a dispute with for working part-time and the other DH got arrested for it. I just don't want to have to worry about whether she will do anything crazy if I fire her.
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DH's can be quite spiteful and not entirely honest when they are dismissed. (True of most people though I guess!)
We terminated our first after our 6 month old daughter came home from her afternoon stroll in her pram with a black-eye and bruised jaw. According to the DH she fell! Odd when you think our daughter was bearly able to crawl!
Suffice to say we terminated her by giving her a months notice in lieu etc etc. All above board and according to contract law. I wanted to report her to the Police etc but hey, you know what its like when your dealing with a DH who can produce 5 witnesses!
It took us sometime to find a reliable replacement. Why? Our former DH had spread rumours throughout our neighbourhood about how illtreated she was, not fed enough, etc, etc.
To be honest, if these accusations were true our DH (any DH) would report it and not hang around for long. As for your concern (Oceanview)that your former DH might report you for having employed a part-time out of contract, I would not worry too much.
If your DH is good be grateful and treat her accordingly. If she is not, kick her out and don't hesitate. Too much is at stake!
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SF, thanks for your comments. But isn't hiring part time an illegal offense? What would be the penalty if my DH indeed report to the labour department?
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Some helpers have employers who don't charge them with a 24-6 schedule.
Some of them also work part-time on the side since they're legally working here with the employer.
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Angel
20 yrs ago
There's must be a reason why...maybe ask yourself too...i believed that if you didn't do anything against them ,i am sure they won't revenge or spread to the whole world that you are very tough employer.
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Ouch. Does anyone monitor these posts for racism?
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Ed
20 yrs ago
The racist comments were posted in the middle of the night - I have suspended that user and issued a stern warning about posting racist rubbish on this site.
Racist comments = account suspension.
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admux
20 yrs ago
noticed my post was deleted....
M.A. I'm half pinoy married to pinay, lived in manila, now living here in HK.... my comments were hard but true, as a pinoy yourself you know how bad and spiteful some of our kaibigan "country people" can be
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admux
20 yrs ago
the truth hurts buddy.... and i am pround of my pinoy background, but also ashamed of how some of our ppl give us a bad rep. also pinoy's can be pretty discriminating, you ever heard some of the converstaions you hear from DH's about their employers ???
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You are ashamed that some Pinoys give Pinoys a bad rap?
Telling the world about "how bad Pinoys are" doesn't fall into the same category, I guess. I see...
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admux
20 yrs ago
pathof.....
i wrote rep as in reputation... not rap
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admux: "rep" = "reputation," and "rap" means "blame."
Either way, you're not doing Pinoys any favours.
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Angel
20 yrs ago
Admux, you are one of those pinoys that you said giving you bad rep.you talk a lot of crap!!!
MA Johnson- I understand you! eventhough some of your co-fil are bad person you're still fighting with them..you have a really really good heart.. GO GIRL!!!
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guest
20 yrs ago
I fired the maid also 2 weeks ago. I'd suggest that we develop a list of bad maids to prevent unnecessary sufferings again. This forum doesn't allow to post names, so where could we share this kind of information. Any ideas?
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admux
20 yrs ago
pathof.... not trying to do anyone any favours... just speaking my opinion (open forum after all)
Angel... don't think you quite grasped what i'm saying how can I give myself a bad rep by speaking (what i feel) is the truth ?
U lot can flame me if you like but unless you can put forward an argument that that will sway me ( calling me weird and saying i am talking crap don't count as good arguments) them i'll stick with my original thinking.
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This has veered sharply from Oceanview's original topic of termination.
Please, let's stick to that topic (or related ones) and cease replying to ignorance and racism.
guest: Your idea has merit, but who censors it? Looking at Thursday's SCMP article on a falsely jailed DH would indicate this woman is a terrible DH and should not be hired, but after months of court action it turns out the employers were thieves and liars.
So, this list could be dangerous to those undeserving.
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Admux... now you're giving me a bad reputation as a Filipino because of your cr*p. So please let it go.
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