Please advice

I need an advice here,my helper was in trouble.Once in a while she will stay over to a friend boarding house when there is a special occassion like friend birthday on saturday night.Last Saturday she called me up and said she was beaten by a fellow Filipina.She was in Pengchau w/c is 20 mins away from our house,my husband and me rent a boat since its already late and there was no more ferry availabe.We saw our helper,half of her face was swelling and we brought her to the police and took her to thier clinic for further check ups.Since they dont have a doctor on duty during the night time the nurse ask us to take her to Queen Mary Hospital w/c is very troublesome so we decided not to take any further action.We just made a complain to the police.

I dont know who's right and wrong as both parties said "oh shes the one who start the fight".I trust my helper as she never had any trouble before . Now I am so worried as my helper's enemies was a group of Filipino people,involving male and female and I heard that all of them is working in Discovery Bay as well.Im worried that" what if my helper took my children to the park and suddenly they will beat her again",or I will ask her to go in Parknshop and she will meet them there.

That night we went to the police I found out that all of them was a "stay out helper" obviously thier employer never know about whats going on with thier helper.Also I heard from my helpers friend that this is not the first time they make trouble in that place many times but unluckily this time its my helper.Also,I heard that those people only a sponsors,someone sign up thier contracts and work for partime to different houses,the men works for different kind of jobs like renovation,house paintings or moving.They rented thier own flat in Pengchau and they're free to make trouble.How to report those people to ID?and what are the procedure of reporting??

It's also illegal to let your helper sleep outside your home. It's your responsibility. Also, if you report this case to ID they will definitely question why you allowed the helper to stay out of your house at night.


As to your worries, well, I think you are very right here. Do not let her walk out with your kids on her own. At least for some time.


BTW, my firend's helper was beaten once by a friend. However, later the helper admitted that she owed lots of money to a gang of helpers. That was the real reason for beeing beaten.

I think your helper is allowed to stay outside your home for 24 hrs. But check


So I would not pretend it didn't happen for fear of letting her out on a Sat. night. I think she is allowed to stay over at a friends house.


Her getting bashed is much more important.


ID would be more interested in pretend helpers doing other jobs and part time, than that your helper who is 100% legal stays at her freinds's house when they have birthdays etc every so often.


Also, because she came to you and called you for help indicates she probably is innocnet and that she trusts you. It sounds like she is responsible and you should get rid of those others from Disco Bay.

Well,I allowed my helper to sleep over to her friend house during special occassion only and Tiger is right this is not illegal.Shes been working for my family for 5 years and shes been sleeping to her friend house many times and never involved in any trouble.She is very responsible person.

The fight began in Karaoke,in that place theres a Filipino Shop that had one Karaoke machine,according to them you need to put $2 dollors for one song,my helper started to sing in her favorite song the lady came over and grab the microphone from her hand.I heard from my helper friend that they always do that but no one complain since most of them working illegally.

When we are in the police station the officer ask me if I want to pursue the case and told me the procedure.It will take so much time,it will need my time,my helpers time w/c is very inconvenience since I am a full time working mother and my husband travels a lot.So we decided not to.

I just wished those employers who has an arrangement with thier helper please check out what they are doing outside.You are the one should be responsible on your helpers whereabouts.

miminq,


You write:


"I just wished those employers who has an arrangement with thier helper please check out what they are doing outside.You are the one should be responsible on your helpers whereabouts."


Sorry, but I don't see any difference between those sleeping out permanently and your helper sleeping out sometimes... Both ended up in the same place. As you mentioned in your first thread it's a place full of troubles.

You should be concerned. Your domestic helper is now a target for this gang, which means your children are as well. If they can't get to her, whose to say they won't get at your children.


Hire a new domestic helper. There are plenty about but you only have one set of kids. Its a situation you don't even have to think about. Terminate the contract and explain why, and pay her the one month salary, or even two months.

You have the rest of your life to work to gain back the compensation. Ask yourself this, is it worth the worry from now on wondering where your kids are everytime she is late..also are your kids worth only a two months salary.


There is no point for you to get the ID card and names of this gang. You do not want to start a war with them...you don't know who they are but they know where you live and who are your kids.


Terminate the domestic, and if she wants to press charges, then it is up to her.


As for her staying out overnight, I don't think that is a big problem since if its her day out, then she stayed late. But anyway, too late now...cat out of the bag so deal with it.


I think it is far easier for you to deal with immigration over the "sleepover" than it is with your maid's enemies.


Also, is your maid able to take proper care of your child now. Will she bee looking over her shoulder everytime she is out at the expense of looking out for your kids.


Yes, you were kind enough to look out for her...but now ....PUT YOUR FAMILY'S SAFETY AT RISK.

When we are in the police station that night,I also had a chance to met them since the police went to thier home and brought them too to the station.They wrote a statement that they will not make any trouble again.Well,Im not sure.

I spoke to my helper that she is not allowed to stay overnight anymore and she understand.I also did not allow her to go outside alone with my kids for the meantime.I had a friend nearby who look over them when we are at work.

I had inform ID and they will investigate,they said they will put that two places under surveillance and will gather more evidence.

Hi miming,so sad to hear your story.Do you have by any chance to inform thier employers or thier sponsors?I have a maid before and was also had a fight with fellow Philippina because we live in same building then I informed her employer about what happen and she warned her helper too.Since then they never fight.