Posted by
stilllost
17 yrs ago
we have two helpers, very long term boyfriend/girlfriend (>10 years). however, it seems that our helpers ex wife is upset that they are now living together. we had numerous phone calls to our home number at all times of the day and night (until we changed our number), including calls from people claiming to be from bogus govt depts asking lots of questions about them and us (these calls were from the ex wife and other random men). the thing that finally made us change our number was she spoke to our female helper and threatened to kidnap our kids.
we don't want to fire our helpers as we like them, but feel that we must report the threat to the police. for a start, we worry about the kind of message it sends out that someone can make such a serious threat and we take no action on it.
i am worried though that this may cause problems for them in the philippines or locally. i'm also concerened that i don't necessarily understand the cultural issues (we haven't been here that long).
does anyone have any advice re the implications of this?
thanks!
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this is the thing, we think the ex is just threatening us as she wants her estranged husband and his girlfriend to get fired. she lives in the philippines so i don't think she could do too much, unless she has friends in hk.
have other people had similar threats against their families?
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Tell the caller that all calls are being taped. All threats will be reported to the police with the recordings as evidence. Also that you have reported their meanacing behaviour to the phone company and the phone company is tracing all the calls. (Even if it's not true, it will scare them) For the record you should call your phone company and tell you have been receiving threatening phone calls.
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stilllost, you just happen to be in between of an angry wife and a cheating husband, if this wife is an "ex" she will not have guts to be giving threats. I can tell you, there is no divorce in Philippines. And if the wife is in Philippines that means your helpers met here and fall in love...maybe....and then the man totally abandoned his family thats why the wife does this kinds of things.
As an advice, talk to your helper.....he will solve his own problem.
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And I can tell you, there are a lot of cases like this in Hong Kong, men come here to work, they leave their wives and met GFs here...and not only one GF, who knows maybe the one threatening you is not the wife maybe another GF who happens to be also in HK. I am a filipina and I know them.
Anyway, if your helper still legally married to your the wife back in the philippines, there still a possibility that the wife will report the husband to the Philippine consulate or sue him especially if she have proof that his husband is living with the GF, he will go to jail anyway...thats the law in Philippines. So better yet try talking to your helper ASAP
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thank you abby78! i certainly don't want him ending up in prison. i could do with the ex ending up there though...
i know that he hasn't abandoned his family, as he still seems very involved with his daughter back home, he's very proud of all her achievements.
we did talk to him, but he didn't do the best job of sorting it out. the threats came AFTER he'd talked to her. he has given us her name and address in the philippines, so we certainly know where she lives!
would reporting her to the police in hk cause trouble in the philippines for him do you think? also, is this a common empty threat in the philippines? or is it something that someone would be likely to actually carry out?
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to OP:your helper (the husband) is liable to be put in jail if he havent been LEGALLY seperated from his ex-wife (Phil Rep Act 9262) for psychological abuse/violence. we dont have divorce in the philippines but we do have annulment.. ask the comsulate about the rep act and you'll know what i mean, you can also find basic info about it here..
http://gtalawphil.com/wordpress/?p=22
anyway,
(to the risk of sounding rash) if the "ex-wife" wans to have your kids kidnapped she certainly have to have TONS of money to be able to put it off.. you and your kids are in hk and she is in the philippines.. (if the ex is loaded her husband wont be here working as a helper) IMHO...
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I do not believe that the wife is threatening to kidnap your kids......i can't imagine a person who is miles and miles away give threat like that. And I think this is a personal problem of your helpers.
What I think is that the wife threatens the husband that she will come here....maybe thats why the husband is making a way that you will report the wife to the police so that the wife can't come here. If I am you, tell the husband to solve his own problem without you in the scene because as aloneforaday said you have a lot of money to do this kind of thing...you should have connections too.
Why not tell the husband instead that you will give him a chance to solve his own problem or not fire them if you still get this kind of mess....I AM SURE HE WILL SOLVE IT VERY VERY FAST, BECAUSE THEY BOTH KNOW THAT IT'S NOT EASY TO FIND EMPLOYER LIKE YOU...
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