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Joanna2006
17 yrs ago
I've just found out that my helper has been taking pictures of my 2 month old and 2 year old son on her mobile and showed it to her friends on her day off. she accidently slipped and told me about this. i dont feel very good about it, especially when she did this without asking for my permission. am i over reacting? how do you feel about this if your helper is doing the same thing? please, if you have anything sarcastic or nasty to say to me about this, thanks but no thanks.
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I think it's pretty harmless (assuming the pictures are innocent/ appropriate) and it shows that she is proud of her charges, thinks very highly of them, and takes pride in her job. I know quite a few helpers that take pictures of the kids, not just for their friends and family, but to show the parents the fun things they have done that day. Of course if it makes you uncomfortable, you could just ask her not to do it anymore.
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My helpers do that too. They even ask me for photos of my kids so they keep them in their wallets. Their friends ask them what my kids look like, since they take care of them since they are newborn. My helpers show my kids off.... I think your helper must think your baby is cute... otherwise, who would bother taking photos of a "not " cute baby on their own mobile? Right?
If you don't like her doing it, just tell her. But I think it's because your helper likes your child, that's why she would take the time to do such a thing, and would show it off to her friends on her HOLIDAY right? Helpers who do not feel any emotion to the kids they take care of.... couldn't care enough to bother with taking a photo of your child!
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our helpers take photos on their camera and print them out and send them to their family! My husband is not happy about it, I think it is ok.. this is their life now, these are the children they care about, what can you do.. Be happy she is fond of your little one!
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it's not so much of taking my children's photo that upset me, but that she did it without asking for my permission and i have no knowledge of it. if she never let it slipped, i never would have known that she has been taking photo of my kids, i find it a bit sneaky and it's making me uncomfortable. it also made me think what else has she been doing with my kids when i am not around.
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there are so many things helpers do without asking us! every now and then something comes up (they let it slip etc)... We all get upset every time.. this is just the fact of life, I try not to let it bother me too much (as long as it is within reason of course)..
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Miggy
17 yrs ago
I think not asking for your permission was not done deliberately. She probably thinks there's nothing wrong with taking photos of the kids she is proud of. My helper has a whole album of my son's pics and has her mobile phone full of videos of my son. She's just really fond of him and is proud that many people find him adorable.
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My helper loves my daughter so much, and says she is cutest children she has taken care of. She takes mobile phone pics and will often show me or her bf.
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my helper also has heaps of pics of our kids. she never asked, but i don't think she ever would have thought to. she's proud of them and she gives them so much love i think its great. she also has pics of the kids she used to look after and she brings them out to show me from time to time. i think its really good when helpers are attached to and proud of their kids. i've seen some helpers in our building who don't like the kids they look after and i feel so sorry for those kids.
i think in a way it should give you great peace of mind! i know our helper would get hit by a bus before she let anything happen to our children.
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Like everyone said, your helper adores your kids and is proud of them. I should worry more when she does otherwise, unless she could make money out of it by selling it to magazine/paper.
I still have photos of me and my first ward 15 years ago and we are still in touch. I've taken load of photo's of children who came during one of the countless parties my employer throws except of one kid--- for being rude. She is 6, threw a plate on the floor my co-worker came with a broom etc and she was asked by her parents to say sorry and thank you for cleaning up after her. She said, in Chinese " No, she's a maid " I know she is a kid, but obviously she knows the difference between a helper and not, then she should know what is right or wrong. Well, she gets everything as everyone else's, I just don't like taking her photo since ( lol )
And yes. agree with jwm.. just tell her to stop if it bothers you that much
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