Posted by
luojia
17 yrs ago
This is the first DH i have. She kept exaggerating
food cost which is very annoying. I have to check the expense everyday and required her to get everything from supermarket where there is reciept. I hate micromanager her.
Does this happen to you too? She is good with housework and the new baby, but bad at cooking and shopping for food. I feel there is no trust between us and don't know if I should just fire her. I don't think i can change her perception that exaggerating cost is wrong. Probably she thinks we have a lot of money and food cost is no big deal.
this makes me feel very low and don't know if i want to try to get another DH again. But with the life style in HK, without my parents around to help, it seems impossible without DH.
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How does she exaggerate? You give her cash, ask her to buy the list of things you write down, she comes back with the receipt(s) and the change.
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I gave her $100, and check the reciepts in lumpsum. sometimes the supermarket doesn't have the vegi or bread we want, so she buys from local store/wet market, and just put an amount on the note that's way high. I am checking the bills everyday, but in the long run I may get slack on it, and she will go back the the behavior again.
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If your helper is good in other ways then perhaps you can do the food shopping and cooking yourself. I always believe that it is unrealistic to expect these women to be good at everything and to choose a helper who is great at the most important aspect of having a helper to you IE childcare or housework if you have no kids. That way you can keep what is otherwise a good helper as there is no guarantee your next one will be any better.
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I agree with cara.
I would terminate a helper if I felt she was consistently stealing money from me.
It's ok to say that you can't expect a helper to be good in everything, but it's ridiculous to say that you would accept stealing within your own household.
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You must be sure of your facts but if your DH exaggerates the cost of household purchases resulting in you giving her more money then she is owed this amounts to theft. What more needs to be said?
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