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hogdog
17 yrs ago
She gives a large portion of her salary. almost 40% to this TV evangelist in the Phils.
what do I do? this is really concerning me.
btw, she is the best helper we have ever hired. i feel concerned she is being totally victimised by the leader of this sect.
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im filipino, i know this site.. its a christian sect back in the phils.... its not a cult..
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Does it affect her work? I guess from your comment that she is the best you ever had, then let her donate as much as she feels like it.
It is possible that you care so much about her that you feel bad that she gives her money away to a certain group when you might feel most of the money goes to the leader. It's natural, I would feel same as you if I had a helper like that. But it could be that if she donates her money like that, it makes her happier with her life hence happy DH---> the best you have ever hired.
In some countries people 'donates' over 50% of their salaries to Inland Revenue, and trust me they are not happy. :-p
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"Does it affect her work? I guess from your comment that she is the best you ever had, then let her donate as much as she feels like it."
I agree. She's a big girl and you would be infringing on her privacy if you try to convince her to stop. If it affects her work or she tries to convert members of your family, it's one thing. If all she does is give away the money there's not much you can do.
"its a christian sect back in the phils.... its not a cult.."
A sect can be a cult and a cult can be a sect.
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well i would be concerned too. try to talk to her, but otherwise she is big enough. Pity that maybe her family needs that money more than that cult or sect or whatever...
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Why does it concern you? After you pay her, it's up to her what she does with her money isn't it? Even if she is "throwing it down the gurgler." On the other hand if she suddenly finds herself "out of pocket" then she may start stealing from you and if that happens then you have a right to be concerned, but I think until such events occur (hope they don't!), then I wouldn't worry.
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actually I am with hogdog on that one:
a) I am sure the girl could make better use of money - her kids, family, her own savings for the the future for pity's sake!
b) it would annoy me personally if the money I pay someone (even tho well earned) goes to a sect!!
Have you tried talking to her? Does she have family - arent they her first priority? What is she going to do live on when she is older and cant work as DH anymore? Along these lines..
And applebubble - what is the difference between a sect and a cult - to me, not an aweful lot...
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Frankly it really isn't anyone business what this lady spends her money on, but if you know her well enough as a friend you can perhaps put the thoughts if her head about providing for her future etc then you have to leave her to make her own decisions.
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Ed
17 yrs ago
Lets keep on topic here - cult/sect are not the issue... Question is should the employer give advice to a helper who is giving away a substantial amount of her income to a religious organization.
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Being presistent about it and talking to her for more than once can even be seen as trying to convert her from her own beliefs. Maybe an appropriate approach would be to do it "her way". Try quoting or raising the issue which clearly is stated in the bible about donations to the needy( I am sure she thinks her money goes to the needy) and that donation is set on 10%. I think that would be great donation which would satisfy everyone, no? :-)
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"In case the employer is a good friend of the helper, he/she can give advice regarding these matters or discuss about them."
You have to watch it though. "Good friend" is not conducive to a good helper/employer relationship in most cases.
"Maybe an appropriate approach would be to do it "her way". Try quoting or raising the issue which clearly is stated in the bible about donations to the needy( I am sure she thinks her money goes to the needy) and that donation is set on 10%."
That might be perceived as "below the belt". Her preacher/pastor/priest/minister likely has the counter-arguments down pat anyway.
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alamb
17 yrs ago
I am a Filipino domestic helper here and I know the kind of church the helper goes to. Can you give an advice? I would suggest that you talk to her about why she gives forty percent. I'm sure she would not mind. But one thing I can tell you for sure is that no matter how much you talk to her about that money she is giving to her church the is absolutely nothing you can do to somehow change her mind, if she goes to that church every week. I would say brainwashed, and you are blessed she does not give you envelope once or twice a year to get some money, this also goes to that church.
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Jctom
17 yrs ago
Hogdog tenderly advice your DH to live a balance life. Also financially, does she have enough savings? for retirement? for her relatives in need? for education? If your DH ignores other important aspects of life. If she follows the TV evangelist "blindly" then it is not healthy. In the end, she'll regret what she did. It's not bad to give 40% or even more if she doesn't have other financial responsibilities to take care, especially herself and her family.
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I have seen such blind following its not even funny. It may not make sense to logical people, but I have tried talking sense into a helper who believed her heart disease was "cured" because some religious fanatic prayed over her, and who has refused simple valve replacement surgery against all doctors opinions... what can you do?
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