Posted by
aquagul
16 yrs ago
Ok, I even feel embarassed to talk about it but it is quite an awkward situation I am facing. Till now I thought my winter wardrobe was quite ok. But since last winter I feel quite embarassed if my helper joins my husband and me.
She doesnot have many winter clothes but the one she wears most of the time with us as well as all the adhoc work outdoors is fantastic. It is a Lorenzo leather jacket. Everytime she wears it I feel like throwing away all my clothes. I know she didnot buy it. It was given by a friend whose employer gave it to her. But it didnot fit that girl so she gave it to my helper.
Now what do I do? How can I face the situation?
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Build a bridge (and get over it). Who cares what your helper wears. Why do you have go look better than her?
You can't stop her wearing it, it belongs to her. It sounds like you a behaving like a 15 year old.
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If that's the biggest worry you have in life you should consider yourself very lucky. This is your problem not a helper problem and you need to grow up a bit and put it into perspective, either get over it or go buy yourself a nicer coat.
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feeling self conscious about your clothing is difficult, but you are probably the only one who has noticed the price disparity between your helper's jacket and your own. personally, this time of year, the jackets i admire most are the ones that look the warmest!
what can you do? realise that although this seems important to you, this isn't a big deal or being talked about by anyone else.
how can you face the situation? as optimistic suggested, you can get another coat, or you can just not worry about it.
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Bob!
16 yrs ago
Gosh....I wish my woes were that simple!!! Just be thankful she hasnt dragged you through the criminal courts for all sorts of false allegations for over a year and had you backlisted at the phillippine consulate with her lies!!! So long as she doesnt lie to your face, does an honest job and doesnt borrow your money then dont worry about what she wears....
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As optimistic pointed out, this situation has nothing to do with your helper or her jacket, it's more to do with your own self esteem.
If you're not happy with the way you look when you're out in public, do something about it! Christmas is also nearly upon us, could you perhaps request a coat from your husband as a gift?
Please don't resent your helper, she has done nothing wrong. She is simply enjoying her beautiful coat, as any woman would! You're lucky to have a well dressed helper, I cringe at some of the skimpy and inappropriate outfits I've seen some helpers wearing.
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OMG. How shallow are you?
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you are so funny, woman! you can hire a maid and cant buy a decent jacket...??
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hahahahaha, how funny!
You're worried about your helper being better dressed than you???? Well, that is, "worried", or "jealous"?
What's the matter with your wardrobe? As mothercricket asks: why can't you imporve it? The real question is: do you NEED to improve it because of ONE jacket your helper has that's better than your stuff?
Bob!, I think this helper should drag her employer to the courts for being poorly dressed!!!! I mean, seriously, it's outrageous!! Dressing too well or too badly should be against the law, I think.
What are our lawmakers doing??? Urgent action is required!
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I think the question to ask here is whether the coat the helper wears is proper work attire and would it interfere with her tasks at hand. As a professional, I know my boss would not be impressed if I show up at the office either underdressed (e.g. t-shirt and jeans) or overdressed (cocktail attire or evening/party wear). If her coat is not inappropriate for or interferes with the work she does, let her have her fun.
Carry yourself with confidence and don't worry about her wardrobe, which I doubt would affect others' perception of who the employer/employee are anyway (not that this matters).
Look on the bright side, people may actualy think you treat your helper so well that she's dressing so nicely:-)
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This is hilarious! If it bothers you...
1. 'Request' that your helper only wears the Lorenzo on her days off, or
2. You buy her clothes and ask her to wear them when you go out together ('going out attire'), or
3. Buy an LV/Chanel leather jacket for yourself (it's sale season now!)
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LV and chanel goes on sale in hongkong!!!????? you gotta be kidding me! it doesnt go on sale here in tokyo.
i dont think high end goes on sale. does it in hongkong??
sorry, off topic.
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