What would you do?

My DH has been with us for 6 months and our relationship is like friends. We shared all the chores and taking care of the 3 kids. She is really a good DH which i couldn't ask for more. But there is a few occasion that she pull a long face as there is something wrong! This is obvious as this is a different side from her daily cheerful character. What would you do? Should i ask?

"My DH has been with us for 6 months and our relationship is like friends."


Exactly! What is supposed to be a boss and subordinate relationship is now only good on paper.


"But there is a few occasion that she pull a long face as there is something wrong! "


Perhaps she felt on those times you werent exactly friendly to her...she might have felt slighted.


"We shared all the chores and taking care of the 3 kids."


Absolutely nothing wrong with this. I intend to do the same. But with the full understanding, im just helping just because...i was there, i has nothing to do..etc,. I would never want her to think that its my job and she should wait for me to do it everytime it needs to be done. Otherwise ther will be a similar long face situation.


Also, because of the relaxed atmosphere, she has become quite comfortable. It shouldnt be a problem so long as she knows what her bounderies are and responsibilities. otherwise, a small comment or criticism will always feel like a betreyal of your friendship.

"What would you do? Should i ask?"


its not so much as asking but making things clear, your expectations of her and that she should deliver. And if there is any thing uncomforbale to her, she should tell and if you can help it, tell her that your going to work on it. so eveybody is happy. that being said, she might feel offended again, uncomfortable definitely. because this talk will remind her that you are boss and she is employee. I mean when was the last time you told your friend..she doesnt meet your expectations and then continue on what was wrong.

As i said.. she is really a good DH and her performance is beyond my expectations. She is capable of handling 3 kids and all the chores without my assistance at times which i find it quite amazing. My previous maids can only handle either the chores or the kids at a time.


I tried asking her if there is anything wrong but she replied 'NO'. Maybe i should just wait and see...

If its only sometimes, maybe she has PMT. It happens to us all.

And you can't expect her to be happy all the time.