Going nuts by DH!

I have tried everything...to no avail..so am here just venting it out!


Have a DH since 15 months, from the begining she is very forgetful, eg: leaving the iron on, gas on, lights on, etc. She is very unorganized & takes forever to do her chores.

We have a 6 yr old daughter, so my DH does not have to see to her like one would with a baby. My husband & I are both working & therefore need someone at home, to see to our child while we work.

My DH knows that. We have tried every method possible to get her to be more careful, be sensible & responsible. She does the tears bit, then the grumbling bit & then the answering back finally.

I thought after all these months, she would & should be improving...but have realised that she now seems to be getting worse.

While she has started being careful about the gas & the iron, all the other stuff has deteriorated & when I do correct her, her reply today was " You get angry for any little thing".

I have reached the end of my line & have decided, enough is enough.

One can only improve if one sets their mind to it. With my DH, she obviously does not want improvement, what she seems to want is, us giving in to her.

I cannot do that. I am not the type to check on her or her work. I believe in trusting someone to do the right thing & correcting them when something goes wrong there & then. I am straightforward, but not the yelling types.

I feel really drained putting so much into training someone & having her look after my home & child & then to just start the whole process again.

BTW, she seemed to have joined us only to get her medical bills paid for. She seems to want to see a GP every month ( even twice most months) been to the dentist about 4 times so far. She is insured but her dental isnt, so we keep paying & paying. She supposedly had her check up done before coming to us, and it was all cear, but I have never seen a DH frequent a GP so often.

So...here I am on the lookout again...

I have had my share of DH nightmares - it sounds like you are making the right choice by letting her go. She's doing more harm than good...not too impressed with her response to you today either. 15 months is a really long time...she should know the basics by now...she's not into her job.