Posted by
Slammy
16 yrs ago
Hi,
Would you hire a helper whom you knew had some personal problems in the Philippines?
We found someone we really like, but she has some problems back home - namely, husband has another woman, and her young daughter is going to have an unplanned baby. Our 'would-be' helper is very very upset about the situation and doesn't yet know what to do.
Some of my friends tell me we shouldn't hire her (if she decides she will stay in HK) because she wouldn't be able to concentrate on her duties and care for my baby when she has all these problems back home and it's best not to take all that drama onboard.
What do you think?
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As much as it would be nice to give the benefit of the doubt that she would carry her personal problems over to you, there could potential.
I hate to say it, but I agree with your friends. Too much drama, you don't need it if it starts affecting her work, particularly with a baby to care for.
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Hi all.
Thanks for your replies! I'm surprised that everyone is in agreement about not hiring her.
Is there anyone else who has another viewpoint?
I mean, what helper in the Philippines doesn't have problems? If they're married and their husband is by himself, usually he will have another woman... if they are married then usually they have lots of kids at home to put through school. If they're not married, will they be going out all the time in HK or risk becoming pregnant etc.
Is it really fair to hold this bad news against her?
Still undecided but leaning towards 'not hiring'...
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"It is A FACT that DHs with problems affect the employer in some negative way."
Hi GreenValleys - loved your analogy with the bruised apple. But as Beancurd pointed out, can we really say it's a fact that DH with problem will definately affect the employer?
What about the saying: "Better the devil you know"? We like this woman and thought she was perfect...
Maybe I'm becoming disheartened because it seems so difficult to find the perfect match. And at the same time, I see my friend's helpers and they all seem so great!
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"Maybe I'm becoming disheartened because it seems so difficult to find the perfect match. And at the same time, I see my friend's helpers and they all seem so great!"
or pretend to be.... 80% (just my estimate) of married domestic helpers have problems with their womanizing husband. It seems that 2 years is kinda long period to wait that most of our husbands fall to temptations back home. Asked some indonesians counterparts and they told me that they have the same problems.
yes, we have sort of problems at home but we're still doing our jobs as domestic helpers. we're already an apple bruised upon taking that plane to hongkong.
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What Beancurd said is absolutely true. I have hads maids all my life and NONE my parents hired or me have no problems. I think a good majority of phillipinos women's husband ran off with another woman. If on rare occassion they have a husband taking care of their children back home they have huge debts. You must hire her based on her experience and maybe tell her not to discuss personal matters to you or borrow money or something. Set the record straight what you like or don't like with the helper you are interviewing and if she is OK with it then go with your gut feel that she will do a good job.
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Hi Marie,
Yes... I think we feel her experience is great. Anyway, it may all be a moot point because I think she will be going back to the Philippines. Damn! Back to square one with maid hunting...
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bing2
16 yrs ago
if she changes her mind, i would hire her if i think she is a perfect match despite all the problems. give her a month or two probation time. if she's much affected, you can always replace her. everyone has problems, DH or not DH, but we still need to work and make a living.
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Hi Bing,
She's going back to the Philippines to deal with her problems. Just out of curiousity - how would the "probation" work? When you sign a contract with an FDH, either party can terminate with one month's notice or payment in lieu. If you were to do "probation", how would you work it into the contract and would it be legal?
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