DH and gambling problem

Hi, we have two DHs and we suspect that one of them has a gambling problem.


We have never had any issues with her until recently, when she started asking for advances on her salary for a 'sick relative'. Just a couple of days ago I learnt that she has started borrowing money from the other DH.


We also have a full time Pui Yuet looking after our newborn, and I hear from the Pui Yuet that this DH sometimes turns on the tv during the day (when my wife and I are at work) to check the racing channels.


I don't have any concrete evidence - all of this is circumstantial and hearsay. However, I want to nip anything in the bud before it turns into loan sharks calling me up and making threats against my family. I don't know how severe her gambling problem is, or whether she has it under control.


On one hand, what she does in her own time with her own money is her business, but equally, when it could potentially impact on me and my family's well-being, then it is a no-brainer as to which comes first.


This DH has been with us for many years and, apart from being a bit slow, she's always been pretty reliable and dependable.


Any ideas on how to deal with this? If it ends up that she has to go, I want to do it amicably and quickly. She already knows a lot of private info about my family and I don't want her leaving with a grudge.


Thanks

ask her. there is a good chance you will know if she is lying or not.

Well, as she's already taking advances on her salary, and borrowing from your other DH, sounds to me like she doesn't have it under control. Sick relative? ... Maybe, maybe not ... but watching the racing during the day??? If she was watching her favourite soap I could understand it, but the racing?? As the above poster suggests - trust your instincts.