Helper issues...help please

Hello All,


we have been having numerous issues with our helper who came in Jan this year.


in past 2.5 months, we have been subjected to lots of lies and complaints.


i.e. inc. the agency calling me that I dont let her sleep before 1 am. when I asked her she said she did not even mentioned anything like that. Then her husband finding a job abroad and she asking me who will take care of her kids. Then in 1-2 days, the husband's job just disappeared again. When I asked her if her mother can take care of her kids? she told me that her mother had died many years ago.

Now last week she said she want to go home and give us 1 month notice and I said its OK. then today she came crying saying that her mother (who had died many years ago) has passed away and she needs to go home asap

i did not say anything

she said she cant give me 1 month notice


Now in this situation, I have been given 1 day notice and have 2 young kids.

Am i supposed to


1. pay for her ticket?

2. pay her last month salary?

I spent 5k on herin Jan inc. agency fees etc and with this kind of attitude I dotn want to pay anything unless its legally required.

I am feeling very bad that I am being deceived . I did not say anything on her mother's passing but I know its a lie. She also mentioned that if she stay any longer, my kids will be put at risk!!!! now i am feeling ver unsafe with her. I am planning to have her sign the notice of termination (from her side) today and then will ask her to leave tomorrow morning.

If you ask her to leave, you're terminating her contract. That means you need to pay her one month salary plus the ticket to her home country (etc.).


You said you paid about 5k to bring her in, but the helper definitely spent more (or promised to pay more) than you did just to come here.


It's a bad situation but only you can decide what to do...

I wil let her go now and take care of my kids myself.

let her go today or tomorrow does not make much difference.

I can not stand a helper like that so will let her go immediately.

Call up the labor department for legal matters.

she has to give you one months pay in lieu of notice.

Since no notice then compute her salary and airticket minus one month notice equals the amount you give to her.

make sure everything is written and signed by her.

Hi rs2000 I am sorry this helper has done this to you, It wouldn't surprise me if your lying helper has already found a new job, with what she thinks is 'greener pastures', and used her lies to get out of the contract with you, as she probably has another unsuspecting employer waiting and wanting her sooner, after charming herself into a new job, probably with more lies to the new employer.

What I find particularly awful, is the fact some helpers can lie about the fact of family members 'dying' many times, she isn't the first to do this, and some will do this habitually just to make more frequent trips back home, make sure you document and sign everything, and try and get her to write her reasons for leaving you without notice-- ie her mother dying for the second time, keep original copy, let Imm have the photocopy so that at least they have a record of what she does and hopefully stop her being employed by somebody else.

Make sure she has an actual one way only air ticket- rather than the cash she would probably prefer, if you do this online, you will have a record and proof you have supplied and payed for it, and she can't sell the air ticket or claim the money back if she doesn't use it.

Watch her pack, and make sure you get your door key back if she has one.

Not all helpers are rotten liars but I've come to realize my helper lies about everything and anything to the point I can't trust her any more with anything. she lies about so much from the stuff that doesn't affect her job like telling me she is 28 when she is actually 31 and telling me she is single and then I find out she is married, to the much more serious stuff like being seen by my friend talking on her mobile phone and not paying attention to my (then 20 month old) son playing by the main road with cars zooming past at 70km/h then flatly denying it, even though I couldn't get through to her mobile when I tried to call her. -or telling me she scrubs the bathroom every week, when for 2+ months I can see the mold on the grout growing thicker....you get to a point when you just can't trust an individual any more and then that happens the relationship whether it be professional or personal, is doomed...