Feel so violated

We are a family of 4 with 2 kids under the age of 6. I hired the first helper and 3 weeks into her contract, she asked if I would be interested in hiring her cousin since I just started my own my business. She claimed that her cousin worked 12-14 hours a day and was mistreated. After meeting her, we decided to hire her so she resigned and 3 months after that she started working for us.


For the first year,' things went relatively smoothly. A year after, I noticed that the two of them started fighting and having the silent treatment. We went home for 3 1/2 weeks in the summer and the two of them stopped talking to each other completely and my electricity bill went from $3,000 for 2 months to $5,000 during our time away.


Long story short, I confronted them regarding their relationship and the electricity bill. Eventually, I went home one day and one of the helpers came to me and said the other one was angry with her and took it out of my girl and stomped on her foot when my daughter didn't listen to her.


I was furious but I know the two were not getting along! After long discussions, I let the one who hurt my girl go. She then told me she was sorry but that's not the shocking part, she told me she and the other helper were not cousins but lovers instead. They broke up as she had an affair and now she has another girlfriend. I was angry and confused. She has been helpful for the 19 months and so I offered to pay her extra 1 month on top of the one month notice if she left immedietly. On her way out, the other helper asked to have her money back. It was quite a commotion and I was all alone while my husband and kids were at work and at school.


I am relieved but also feel incredibly stupid and violated. I trusted her and thought it's nice to be able to help others.

The other who stays is trying very hard to do a good job and I think she is not bad at her job.

Things can be settle in a nice way. Even how big their problems is they should keep it on their own and should not affect their job. Lying is not good. Telling they are cousins and yet they are lovers?thats disgusting. Find better ones who are more professional in handling their own personal life.

no need to feel stupid and violated, you did try to help others but it turned out they didn't deserve help. it would appear that they have both lied to you and probably best to find another maid; go on recommendations from friends and colleagues rather than domestic helpers. most are pretty good but there are some who know how to manipulate their employers and are not afraid to do so. if you go for two maids you might consider hiring from different countries.

It is not your fault. You wanted to help.

Get another helper and fire this one that you have. If you only need one helper only hire one.

Wow, this story is sad!, if I found out anyone beat my KID, I would bury that person 6 feet deep, my advice for next time, get a hidden camera installed in your home, have heard this is your only backup. Also, TRUST NO ONE!