My helper wants her aunt to come work for me, TOO.

Hello. I am in my early pregnancy and i already have a nearly one yr old boy.


My helper is SUPER NICE. Although I can see that she's not the sharpest knife in the drawer but i really have NOTHING to complain about her. She loves my son, great personality, cares about our family. She really is a loving person. I can not imagine my life without her at this moment.


I am a working mum, with a dog as well.


I will have my new baby next year and I know that it will be impossible and not fair to have her one helper to take care of all of them. She has disclosed about her 'worries' that she doesn't know what to do if I hire someone she doesn't know. She was telling me in a quiet and friendly manner. I can understand her worries personally because my home is not an office, you have a close connection with someone who's working also as a helper. All the time you would be staying in the same kitchen and the flat - which is not like 3000 sq feet, just around 1500.


I also figure that (my guess) my son has brought up by her and she may feel abit of jealousy if someone else is going to take care of my son. Of cuz i am going to give the baby to her because i trust her completely.


Anyway, she suggested about her aunt (around 38 years old) to me. This aunt used to work in HK for 4 years earlier and due to her family issue (her husband died and her daughter became lonely and etc) she had to terminate her contract which was nearly by the end of the 4 yrs, to go back to stay with the daughter. I have seen her picture and she looks like a nice enough person.


I have asked my helper what if i feel that she is not working hard enough or she may think you are younger than her so she will ask you to do everything? She said she will take care of it, if she is lazy and it's her responsibility to tell her to go back home. My helper says her aunt is a very hard working person.


I can see pro and con about this.


1) They could work really well together.

2) If they have issues back home, would that effect the quality of the job? Do i have to take care of their emotional parts?



Thanks for your advise. I would really need it.

Hire the auntie

Well! I had a helper (the mother), working for me, and she managed to talk our next door neighbours into employing her daughter. We, and our next door neighbour had lots of issues, because of them working in such close proximity, and their family life became an issue as well, they got 'up to no good' between themselves.

You don't have to feel sorry for her aunty, or any of her family, FDH's will always try to employ relations if they can, and taking care of two children, a dog and a small home is not a difficult task, most Western women who have never had FDH's and stay at home, look after all that and far more.

In the end it is up to you, but you will then have two members of one family under your roof, and they may not always get on, and you loose a bit more of any privacy you have.

I think you should go ahead and interview her aunt, as well as other candidates as well. Do all the background check, and see if you can speak to the former employer to verify the reason for her departure.


It's very important that the two helpers get along otherwise it will be lots of headaches you. I wouldn't mind hiring her aunt, but that shouldn't be the only reason for hiring her. You should look beyond the nice looking photo and see if she's experienced with new born, good with housework or whatever qualification you're looking for.

Don't go on the picture only. Ask her to come to Hong Kong on entry (usually 14 days) and you can interview her. Then you can decide. Usually if they are one family many things would be good for you. such as you will not hear any complaint against each other. if you decided not to hire her, i would suggest you to go for a maid with different nationality.