Posted by
Max_HK2012
13 yrs ago
Hi all,
we recently moved to HK were I work full time. My wife would like to work as well (part-time if possible). We are considering to have a helper taking care of our baby (age ~10 months). Does anyone has experience with helpers taking care of babies of that age when both of the parents work?
Thanks in advance for your input.
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I would advise you to ask around friends, maybe they know of a helper that is leaving an employer because of relocation with good provable experience with young babies, with an employer you can actually speak to.
Some are very good, and some average to bad. The fact helpers say they have children of their own does not mean they know how to bring them up, as they have their own children are brought up back home by relatives.
You also need a helper who will follow whatever you the parents decide on how to bring up your child, to your standards.
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Hi Cara,
I was wondering if people have made good experience with a helper taking care of a baby. If both of the parents work, it means the baby will be 1 on 1 with the helper 5 days a week, ~6-7 hours a day, no pre-school or kindergarden at that age of 10 months. How did you select a helper, how do you now if everything was ok during the day (the baby can not talk to say if something was wrong). So far, we have met many parents in HK, but non of them work both when they have a baby of that age. If you say that there are many who do it that way, that would confirm us in proceeding with the search for a helper.
Max
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Don't be afraid that that the kids love the helper. This is a good thing. Children have a lot of room for love in their hearts, and don't limit it to the parents. They do know who their parents are unless said parents are absent and/or cruel.
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I also still disagree (and still agree with cara). My wife has at times been away for 2-3 weeks out of 4 on business. The kids have not shown the least sign of making the helper their substitute mummy. They adore auntie but she is still "just" auntie. Mummy is mummy and will forever be mummy.
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Agree with Susie - Helpers who have children does not mean they know how to take care kids. Way back just after my son was born we hired a helper with 4 kids of whom the other pair (tweens). She said she's excellent with kids and she took care a newly born baby in her previous employer.When she started working alone one on one with my son it was a disaster on my part. I almost gave up my job if not with a rescue of a friend who introduced a 20 years old helper, single no children but she was awesome. She took care my child with all extra care and just the way I wish.
Followed the do's and don'ts I listed for her. My son likes her but still when I am home I still feel that love of a son for mom.
Wish you the best Max
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I don't think there is ever a substitute for a parent carer at home with baby, if not full time, then at least part time. There are all sorts of alternative arrangements available in the world..childcare centres, nannys, grandparents, foreign domestic helpers. If it was me, i'd wait until the child was at least 2 or 3 before leaving them with someone else full time. After all, you only have them this young for a very short period..not enough time to really make a huge dint in your career (if that's the issue), or your finances (if you plan ahead properly).
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