would you look for another helper before firing your current one, to time it so you have one starting soon after the other one has left, or would you fire the one you don't like straight away and make do while you are trying to find a replacement?
my helper is so annoying (as some of you have read from my other thread) but i can, for the moment, tolerate her. my husband and i find her attitude becoming more complacent and ill mannered towards us. she's nice to our baby, and wants to care for her more, but under the circumstance we do not leave her alone with baby unless absolutely necessary.
she doesn't bother to say good morning when we first see her each day, and she uses my baby's things as placemats (by accident??) for the food at dinner. she won't as me if i want a cup of tea or something to drink unless my husband is there (as he always wants tea)
i'm in two minds and wonder if i should look around first and not say anything, or should i just nip things in the bud and terminate the contract and just find legal part time to come during the day to do the cleaning.
any advice?
Please support our advertisers:
Once you've decided to fire someone (whether economist or DH or engineer), prepare the documents and just do it. Nothing more stressful than running it over in your head wondering how it will go.
Please support our advertisers:
cd
19 yrs ago
Why would she ask you if you want a cup of tea?
In 9 years of living in HK I've never had a helper ask me if I want a drink and wouldn't expect her to.
But to your question, it certainly wouldn't hurt to start looking for another one if you're not happy, when you find one then give your helper a months notice.
Please support our advertisers:
ritad
19 yrs ago
my god...your helper is like mine...same thing...good morning never....and the thing is i am nice to her....sop i always ask the kids to say good morning to auntie...then she half heartedly says it....and always tired looking cause on the phone constantly....i will give you a private suggestion..i will mail you
Please support our advertisers:
ritad
19 yrs ago
can't find your mail...email me..try to find mine..cause i will tell you wjat i do..your helper is like my helpers twin sister
Please support our advertisers:
cd, I think the point is that the DH is sweetness and light when her husband is around, always offering tea etc, and then becomes ill mannered when he is away.
Divalicious, I would just terminate and start looking for someone else right away. We had the same problem, could have put up with our DH, but it was a trial. Ours wanted to raise the children and let me do the housework, whereas I had employed her for the opposite reason.
The reason for terminating immediately and giving payment in lieu was that the chats, warnings and training were getting us nowhere. We did not want the children to get too attached if we were not going to keep her on long term. It was also quite selfish, we did not want to interview, find the perfect helper and then have to show her the room and explain that we still hvae to give our current helper notice. Not exactly the type of employer that I would want to work for (even though it had crossed our minds). Actually, it has been 3 months, and our new helper does not start for another month, and it has been a pain, but I am still glad that we did it this way.
Good luck with it.
Please support our advertisers:
ritad, i can't seem to find your mail. and stupid me. i don't know how to pm you as when i click on your name, it shows me nothing.
sorry
and mum of 2 you are right, though my husband doesn't say it's sweet and feels she has no manners but to ask him if he wants tea but not me.. i mean i get it myself anyways but it's a bit obvious that she does not ask me.
Please support our advertisers:
zay
19 yrs ago
divalicious,
do u want to hire a new helper, i can reccomend to u a helper if u like....
- zay
Please support our advertisers:
Please support our advertisers:
bbvv
18 yrs ago
divalicious, how long have you had this DH for? We are thinking of terminating ours too but as the contract worked for is still under a year, we can look for a replacement and terminated her when the new one arrives. I wouldn't bother giving her one month's notice as I have heard stories of DH's stealing from the employers, mistreating children, adding foul ingredients to cooking etc whilst working through the last month. I would much rather give her payment in lieu to leave straight away.
If your DH has worked for over a year, then Immigration requires the DH to be terminated before processing visa for the new DH. A new one will arrive approx. 2 to 3 months depending on how quickly Immigration process the application.
Please support our advertisers:
bbvv
18 yrs ago
Hi gogis,
Did you manage to carry over your tax levy payment to the replacement helper as I was told by the agent that this cannot be so if I fire the current one when the replacement one arrives.
I have terminated one before as I was told by the agent that this is required in order for the Immigration to start processing this current one which we will eventually terminate. Am rather confused. We will start looking for a replacement this weekend and obviously prefer to terminate the current one when the new one arrives.
Please support our advertisers:
can i have your agent's number gogis?
i would prefer a helper who is a little older and is able to cook western and chinese food.
thanks for all your information.
Please support our advertisers:
You must be logged in to be able to reply.
Login now
Copy Link
Facebook
Gmail
Mail