Posted by
clara34
18 yrs ago
i needed my maid to help me out for half a day which is sunday till noon and i gave her some money to compensate for the hours used.she seem appears to be a little offended,face went red and said something,:i will not help you out again if you gave me money again..(
unwillingly appears to be,she accepted the money.)
the inital story was i gave her a whole day off on monday to compensate,she decided to take the half day instead.We didnt talk about money but she agreed to help out anyway.
Do you think im sensitive or indirectly makes her feel small or something..that she is helping out because she likes it...?mabbe..
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Who knows? Best to ask her directly. Maybe she thought it's "illegal" to compensate hours for holidays with money.
I always ASK my helpers what they want whenever I need some adjustment in schedules. I tell them directly, I need you on "whatever day and hours".... what would you like? Would you like your holiday moved to XXXday? Or should I bank it? or should I pay you for the extra hours? Often my helpers say to me "No need ma'am".... then I will ask them if they are sure. If so, I remember these favors..... and return them accordingly.
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cd
18 yrs ago
I think you'll find its illegal to pay your helper for working on their day off or bank holiday. If we need ours to work on a sunday, we give him the following saturday off so he gets a longer weekend.
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well,she told me i bought her shirts few days ago,so according to her,shd compensate for it already.
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Congrats! Sounds like you have a really nice helper working for you. She seems very reasonable.
Just wonder how long she has worked for you. If I were in your position, I would get to know her a little bit more, what her values are. Observe how she treats you and chances are she would want to be treated the same way.
Honesty, gratitude and good character are not something money can't buy. Our helper has been with us for over 4 years. I would have liked her to work in a faster pace but she is always willing, takes initiative and is loving, honest and with a gentle personality. It is more important to me that I have someone whom I can trust and am comfortable with. I treat her as a member of our household.
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i cant agree more.she has been with us for over 3 yrs.
we have our differences in the beginning,but mostly she follows instructions.initally,when things goes wrong,i do blame her,but now if she,for eg-just the other day,forgotten to bring back the baby bottle from the resturant,i didnt blame nor mind at all..hihihi,mabbe im also forgetful,things like these,i do forgets sometimes and is no big deal,although i know some of my gfs would have scream and complain.she has a lot of pride no doubt.hubbi insisted i have given her the money the wrong way.i would pay to renew her contract if things still work out well.i understand sometimes a helper mabbe slow,but the possibilites to get things done are so much more,beetr to have someone you trust than total stranger,changing maids is a hassles,but not everyone are lucky.
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i cant agree more.she has been with us for over 3 yrs.
we have our differences in the beginning,but mostly she follows instructions.initally,when things goes wrong,i do blame her,but now if she,for eg-just the other day,forgotten to bring back the baby bottle from the resturant,i didnt blame nor mind at all..hihihi,mabbe im also forgetful,things like these,i do forgets sometimes and is no big deal,although i know some of my gfs would have scream and complain.she has a lot of pride no doubt.hubbi insisted i have given her the money the wrong way.i would pay to renew her contract if things still work out well.i understand sometimes a helper mabbe slow,but the possibilites to get things done are so much more,beetr to have someone you trust than total stranger,changing maids is a hassles,but not everyone are lucky.
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Hi Clara,
My hubby also feels that I am a bit of a softie when it comes to managing our helper.
I put myself in her shoe. I am not perfect so why do I expect her to be 100% perfect. I ten to focus on her strength (skills) and virtues (personality, value). I discuss with her if we are faced with new situations and establish how to go about it so that she has to input to a task and be comfortable going about doing it. It has worked for us because she can achieve much better results than just simply do what is told.
It is quite tedious process so I don't do it for everything otherwise we would end up discuss everything. If I find somethings which she repeatedly does in ways different to mine, I ask her why. Some times, I learn from her because my way was not necessarily the most time efficient or whatever.
I fo find that at times, she is slips and is not thorough in dusting and cleaning. I sit her down and make sure she understands that this is not acceptable. I am firm but no personal insult or attack.
It is not easy managing people. You would have thought that hubbies would understand since they are managing staff day in and day out. ;D
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