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susannah
19 yrs ago
Had helper for 4 months and gradually she is doing less and less. She is a lovely girl and great with the kids and we by no means are slave drivers but feel now she is just taking the mickey. I am ex[pecting our 3rd child in 4 months so really need her to pull her socks up! I know I have to speak to her but am really worried about her reaction as think she thinks she is super helper! Anyone been in a similar boat as I can do without sulking and door slamming etc.
Many thanks.
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cbdc
19 yrs ago
hi susannah
yikes, this is the last thing you need right now!
we were in a similar situation and while my wife was on bedrest she actually wrote a very detailed job desription for our helper.
my wife said that with the new baby arriving it would be hectic and she would be forgetting things, that she thought it was best to write down our expectations, so that there would be fewer miscommunications and upsets.
tell her in advance that she is not in trouble, but that you and your partner want to talk with her, and for her to take the time to write down any concerns she has. (some helpers might feel too intimidated to voice them, but it is good to at least make the effort.) and then, give her the "job description", let her peruse it, and go through it together. give her a copy to keep.
hope this helps.
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ness
19 yrs ago
agree with the previous poster - why not put it in terms of a "review" - whatever job we do we will at some time have to discuss our performance, job description etc and since there will be an addition to the family and the structure and way that the family/household will function will be changing in any case. Especially in setting the priorities of what is most important to achieve once baby is here.
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communication is important between helper and employer ,open up to her.Tell her how'd feel lately in that way it will make things work out for both parties.Thats what I always do to my helper and it works,shes been with us for almost 5 yrs now.Whenever I felt something w/c was not right I will tell her immediately.
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RiceT
19 yrs ago
i totally agree too; the printed job schedule is a great way to go. especially as you are expecting and thus things will change; i'm about to give our helper our new schedule since we brought our babe home. it's a good opportunity to make sure to cover needs without insulting, to revisit and amend where necessary, etc.. as someone mentioned above, definitely give your helper the feedback on the things she's doing well too.
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