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abiagil10
17 yrs ago
I have hired a new helper. She has only been with us for just over a week. I came home unexpectedly during the day and found her watching a film in her room. I waited outside just to see how long this would go on for one hour later she came out of her room. Of course she was surprised to see me and said she was watching a movie because she was homesick. She had also taken/ borowed a portable dvd player without asking.Also her work was not done there were dirty bathrooms dishes in the sink etc. She has also told me a few lies which i won't go into. Her work is also not that great. She was previously in HK for 5 yrs so i think she knows that it is not okay to watch a movie when her work is not finished. Should i give her a chance to improve or if she is not working at such an early stage of the contract should i let her go. I would appreciate any advice
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Personally I would let her go as I could not have someone in my home I couldn’t trust and the fact she is doing this after such a short time in your employment is not a good sign at all. If’ she’s been in HK 5 years she would not still be homesick and even if she is she still has a job to do if she expects to get paid.
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i think you should give her a written warning stating that her work is not acceptable and what your expectations are.
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in your heart, you are not happy with her work anyway, hence this thread. terminate her before she does start playing up more. if she gets away with it once, then it will happen again. in my experience, if you are nice and sit her down and talk to her why it's not acceptable or give her written warning, it goes in one ear and out the other.
key point that you made is that she should know better ie. having worked her for a while AND she hasn't finished her duties. if she'd finished,that's another story
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ShazP
17 yrs ago
When a new Dh starts, normally she should & would try to get on the good side of the employer. Get the job done well & fast, impress the boss, be a hard worker & make the employer want & like her.
Your DH was on her own, not expecting the boss back & so conveniently let the workload stay so she could do her own thing & get the job done before the employer is back so it all looks fine.
If I was you, I would sit her down, be straight with her & tell her to buck up. support that with a warning letter.
Either she takes you seriously & does her job well or does not. Keep an eye on her. If you yet are not happy with her, let her go. You need to trust the person looking after your home...if that trust is lost, you would not want her in your home anyways. All the best....
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homesickness is homesickness regardless of the length of time you have been away..
anyway, the helper is at fault here... but the "mistake" in question is not enough to reason to get fired, but it is enough to warrant a warning letter if the employer isnt really happy with it.
its amazing that some peoples answer to every thing is "sacked!!" she's been there a week!! and that incident happend once.... if you had caught her repeatedly doing and not getting anything done, by all means sack her you are paying her to do a job after all.
i am a helper who is left alone at home all day. i can do my work and my own thing as long as i finish my chores. but there are time that my boss will come back earlier than usual and im not finished yet. but i never did get a warning. its not p*ss taking... but some times we get tired too, and need a bit of a break.. after all DHs are still humans.. we are not robots well even if we are robots still break down.. but still i make sure that all of the major chores are done before i take a break.. minor ones i leave for later..
but hey, that my system and it works for my boss and me... i hope you can find a system that works foryou too..
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As aloneforaday said, a warning letter should do the work. And do tell her you are aware of her lies and if she wants to keep her job, she better straighten up and should start up with honesty.
Us, maid do have time tables and and we do have long dayd and easy days. Mondays and weekends usually are the long ones, for obvious reasons. But for someone like me who is a night owl I tend to " leave " some work towards the end of the day. Sometimes, it means that I have to finish later than normal, but it does not matter for but I know I only have myself to blame. Dirty dishes though, has to be washed ASAP or put in the dishwasher.
My only concern about the your story is that of her using the dvd player without asking permission.
spare_ribs, contrary to bwhat you said, speaking for myself and most helpers I know , we try to improve our job performance ONCE we got the good side of our employers in order to keep our jobs.
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why not give her a warning letter and then give her a timetable outlining her chores and rest periods...
one week isnt enough time to get to know your helper, right? and if she is THAT lazy, surely she would have been working in hk for a number of years would she?
the only thing that bothers me is that she used the dvd with out asking the employer unless you told her she can use it.
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ShazP
17 yrs ago
Soufflequeen,
In the beginning of any job, be its DH or office work, you are learning the job & so do your very best to get the job done to the best of your capibilities. Once you know your job enough, you set a pattern & then improve on your performance. At the beginning you do not start with taking it easy. If you do, how is your employers supposed to be happy with your performance? How can you get on the good side of your employer if in the start itself your employer starts finding unneccessary faults with you due to your negligence?
What abiagil is going through now...if the DH is starting her first week in this style, how is the DH going to improve her performance later, if abiagil is already contemplating sacking her?
Yes aloneforaday, everyone needs a break when working however...take a break by sitting down, read a book, just daydream.... but watching a movie ( about 2 -21/2 hours long) is a bit much, not when there is obviously so much work to do.
Ok...so I am not a dream employer...but I have my priorities.....which obviously do not match yours.
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like i said spare rib.. a warning letter... and i did say that the helper in question is at fault.. and i didnt say that i should be/am watching a movie on my break time...
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ShazP
17 yrs ago
I was not talking about you personally, aloneforaday.
A warning letter is what I had advised too in my first reply.
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