Posted by
NotSure
20 yrs ago
I have recently placed an internet ad on a dating site and had a few interesting responses. I have decided to email a couple of men for a short while rather than meet all men who have responded immediately. I think you can establish after a few emails if you have interests in common etc and can make the decision to meet an informed one rather than rush into things.
The problem is that I have just met up with one man who is absolutely lovely - but have also made plans to meet two others over the next week. I feel terribly guilty about this as he had said he will not meet up with other women he did email as he is very pleased at having met me and wants to establish a relationship. Advice please ?? Do I cancel the other dates and see what happens here or go on the others just as planned?
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oh, yep, why should stop ur plan when u just started?? Only if ur heart feel love towards him and u feel lose interest to others. But it's obviously can seen from what u post here, u still want to meet others, but u just feel afraid to lose him.Or u are just too kind and don't wanna hurt him... Anyway the one belongs to you will be right there, go and explore it..Good luck!
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i knew a guy who wrote fantastic letters, witty jokes, artistic and sensitive stories and had an interesting/quirky online diary.
In real life he was a freaking jerk!
I still can't believe it today.
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OK, I'll put in a male point of view: I've put in 2 or 3 internet ads over the past year. I've had brief relationships with a couple of women (one of whom I'm now quite good friends with) and shagged a couple more. But the purpose of the ad is to find a permanent partner.
My conclusion is internet dating sucks. The main problem is you can have an entertaining series of emails which someone who may have similar interests, is obviously intelligent etc... but when you meet them there is just no 'chemistry'.
The other problem is sometimes it can feel like a business meeting.
Anyway, your question: meeting multiple people from an internet ad is par for the course. You should be doing it and you should expect that the person you meet is doing it to. Someone saying they are not doing that is wierd. It's almost a guarantee that they *are* doing it but are either desperate or trying to put you on a guilt trip.
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Thanks for your advice,and all taken on board. In fact I met with my "lovely" first date again last night and it went very well. BUT I will meet another for coffee over the weekend because it is quite naive and short sighted not to ! Wish me luck and a BTW it an ad on this site to answer your question about where I posted it!There are interesting decent men out there.
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NotSure: There are "interesting, decent men out there" ummm..PLEASSSSSE tell us out where??! In China? Glad to hear all is working out for you tho, gives hope to us all :)
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