I have some really pretty girl mates and for some reason they are all single - why??? it's not like they're horrible people, they're friendly, young and fun. They just don't get approached. maybe guys in HK just don't get their style? they're smart and independent, is that the problem?
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man, most of them, are like what women think about in their own minds.In my view, man, not all, maybe most, like the women who are not so like career women and so energertic in front of ambitious.The character is determined by human's nature, which is that men should conquer women.(it's personal idea.)
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dude, we are in 2005 already. where have you been?
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CGM, I have exactly the same feeling with you. My girl friends are pretty, tall, cheerful and awsome. They are still single. Where are all the guys scare of? What are they fancy of now?
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ohoh
20 yrs ago
tall might be an issue, haha....
well, if you're too pretty, then men would think you must be fully booked, and don't want to take rejections, or even you pretty girl hang out with him, he might find a sense of unsecurity, unless he's also on a very casual playground...
just like if a man is too handsome, tall, well-built, having good sense of humour, out-going, would an average lady feel secure with him?
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The answer's easy.
A common misconception that both men and women have about beautiful women is that they have suitors chasing them constantly. Noone wants to put themselves up for certain rejection. Men shy away because they think they won't stand a chance against the rest.
A secondary reason is that some (just some) beautiful women fall into a trap. Because life goes easy on them regardless, they fail to work as hard as the rest of us on our friends, developing a personality, sense of humour, humility etc... A few end up shallow, boring, disinterested in anyone but themselves.
Despite the drivel you hear on this website, alot of men are interested on what's on the inside, (after the first shag anyway). This is another reason why the stunners are often single.
I guess the third reason these women are unattached, is because the only men who've approached them so far are Stupid and his brothers.
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ohoh
20 yrs ago
nice reasones, brainy woman!!
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Mong
20 yrs ago
WomanWithBrain>
you hit the nail on the head with your 2nd reason.
" I have some really pretty girl mates and for some reason they are all single - why??? "
I suspect the reason is fairly obvious! but to be fair, any guy who has lived here for a while has come across enough golddiggers to make him wary of a certain type of females.
Are your " really pretty girl mates " another bunch of skinny long-straight-black-hair clones who stand out from the crowd like needles in a .. stack of needles?
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ohoh
20 yrs ago
dear all,
we are all like that: live long enough to find the right one!!
http://www.gekihyo.com/gekiho/encuentra.wmv
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Maybe somebody can tell me where those pretty girls are. Everyone here is pretty bad looking.
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This may sound very cynical but most guys consider that attractive women in this town, particularly local chinese but not only them are looking for one thing, to land a rich man & win the jackpot. Local rich boys aren't interested as they are off to their Harems in Guangdong and the mega-rich remaining are either looking for Miss Hong Kong looks & dumb enough not to be after their cash or a simllarly well heeled woman.
I like local girls but I'm afraid that unless you've brought proof of income or your investment portfolio with you its easy to be ignored or be considered substandard. I'm afraid taking a risk on a guy who has good potential is often too much risk - especially when you can find older & apparently more wealthy local guys around [especially if you're not bothered if he's already married].
I used to live in Singapore where there is a large numer unmarried professional females who have set unrealistic partner criteria & won't comprimise - we all know aboutthe 5 C's. The poorer guys don't mind because there are literally millions of young, attractive women in China who will do literally anything to get out of China.
I always thought that an educated, relativly kind & considerate man with a good future potential was what most women wanted - but I'm obviously wrong.
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ok thanks for your response y'all, all v interesting but i'm afraid you've really confirmed all the things I hope I wasn't going to hear. when i say i have pretty friends who are smart and friendly, i guess i didn't clarify the fact that this doesn't mean they are bitchy, nor golddiggers, nor pretentious prats - but these are all the characteristics you've associated them with. no wonder they are still single. On the contrary, they're well educated and self-sufficient financially. They are not local, nor from mainland china. I'm talking about overseas educated chinese, a couple of them are mixed race. and no, mong, they are not all needle-type thin with straight long black hair.
from your comments, it appears that people, both guys and girls, are so suspicious of meeting someone both pretty and intelligent. are we all so insecure about ourselves? or is it just that the quality of the average girl one meets nowadays are increasingly poor? If so, it would explain why our society has been rendered pessimistic, so that, were we given the chance to choose between seeing the good or bad in people, our default mode would be to opt for the latter.
Please can someone convince me that this is not the case - I am getting disillusioned.
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bubb
20 yrs ago
hi chinese gwei m.
well, i wouldnt mind meeting ur friends!! :P
in fact i dont mind meeting anyone. although i'm not abc, i did come back from states and do not think like a local (never did).
i'm interested in friendships, if something romantic happens fine, if not hey at least were still friends. so..give me a "sign" :)
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chinese gwei muy, are your friends Chinese? Are you Chinese? It is not clear from your post (I guess your screen name gives a clue), although many of the replies here presume that they are local Chinese girls. I wouldn't be bothered with some of the replies here though. The issue with some of the responses to this thread is that the majority of the readers on this site are non-Chinese expats (my impression at least), and may not totally relate to your friends' dilemma.
Anyway, assuming they are Chinese, whether one is unhappily single should not be dependent on whether one is "approached" by guys at bars (by the way, are you concerned that they are not approached by any guys, just Chinese guys, or just Western guys?). There are other venues for your "smart, pretty, independent" to meet men. If your friends are so smart, can't they figure out other ways to meet men? Can't they approach the guys? Having work colleagues introduce your friends to good guys is another option.
And, yes, most men are intimidated by one thing or another. It could be the girl's looks, it could be her intelligence, it could be her large number of girlfriends, it could be her better job, it could be any number of other things. If your friends are truly as impressive as you say, then alas they suffer from being too perfect. As others have said, even smart attractive men don't want to approach someone who is too beautiful, especially if there is no semblence of brains behind the make up.
Personally, I am attracted to smart, career-oriented women (or rather, I should say I am married to one! :) ), and I find it distressing that some women (including friends) are too picky until it is too late for them. Like it or not, the shelf life of even the most attractive woman is easily 5-10 years shorter than an average-looking man, anywhere in the world but particularly true in Asia.
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Chinese Gwei Mui,
Are your well educated & attractive but lonesome friends looking for love in the right places? Call me a cynic but if like many overseas chinese babes they spend their weekends down at Lan Kwai Fong then they're only going to meet overpaid drunken expats & pretencious locals pretending that HKD 600 for a round of vodka redbulls isn't ridiculus!
I am greatly generalising here but many overseas chinese girls I have met here are generally looking for professionals rather than the more common "Dae-Poon Lo" which means the competition is going to be tough. If they're really looking for someone special & are not pre-occupied with wealth & status then they need to go to some new places, wear shorter heels and don't give that "I'm not available to you look" down their noses.
Then I'm sure you'll be getting Engagement Party & Hen Night invitations by the dozen.
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ohoh
20 yrs ago
combination gal,
"dae poon lo" = someone working at the construction site
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Most pretty girls are very high maintenance, even those not-so-pretty ones are high maintenance including many of you here.
No matter how much money I have, I would not marry a high maintenance girl. I would probably date one but not give her any money.
High maintenance girls are the worst kind because no matter how much money you have, she will spend it all and demand for more. She will then look down on you because you cannot afford her crazy lifestyle.
Not sure if you are high maintenance? Just count how many pairs of shoes you have. If more than 20, you are high maintenance! Yes, the 20 include all of your shoes! Slippers, sandals, highheels whatever.
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If handbags, the number is 5, including the laptop bag and no matter how you have paid for them.
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Paper Tiger,
So you reckon you wouldn't marry a high maintenance girl but you would date her....but not give her any money. Yeah, right..in your dreams my friend. If she was cute enough & said the things you wanted to hear you'd be whipping out the old platinum visa card as swiftly as the rest of us.
Lets be honest & say Guys are always a sucker for a goodlooking woman, regardless of race or nationality, and she'll flutter her eyelids, wiggle her hips or do whatever she knows will do it for you, the glands will go on double shift, hormones will pump into your bloodstream and you'll be rendered helpless. And if she's just in it for the cash she'll just eat up your money until its gone or you've got fed up or she's found another reserve with easier access elsewhere. But that isn't always the case and in my opinion with women over 30 in Hong Kong its very different, under 30 & often they're still looking for the millionaire [USD of course] & haven't got bored with being the girlfriend of a married, rich older man!
All high maintenance local women who haven't met their beau [or they have but he's already married] get to the point where they have to decide whether they want a relationship and the chance of marriage etc or just the stability of cash every month but with the latter as soon as your looks start to diminish [accepted that asian women stay younger looking longer - I work with a 42 year old woman who could pass for mid-late twenties back in South Africa] you could end up without a man, without financial support & alone. High maintenance women aren't stupid - they just push the envelope that holds the rules of the game.
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Hey Chinese Gwei Mui,
You still haven't told us where your pals go "hunting" & what they are looking for?
Combination Girl, I hear what you say about looking for the best offer [& I know its reality for Hong Kong] but this is supposed to be about love, and if not love then certainly care, respect, companionship - its not an investment or a business venture & the one who has the most amount of cash, best performing portfolio, most expensive car or most impressive apartment isn't necessarily the best choice of boyfriend/husband. I work in construction & know many good guys in their twenties who earn between 15-20k/month but daren't ask any girl who doesn't live in a Government Housing estate for fear of being told to take a hike! They have become tired of the "cash is king" attitude of local girls & gone to the Mainland to find a wife - further reducing the pool of available talent for local women. Surely there are worse things in the world than dating a guy whose really into you, treats you well, looks after you but isn't loaded?
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Observatory - I agree there are plenty of Gwei Mui looking for a cash cow as well. I think the difference is they conceal it better & are not so overtly candid in stating their principal requirements - perhaps local girls are being too honest & many people [myself included] don't want to face upto the reality that modern marriage has been reduced to something like a business relationship for many people.
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Observatory - for my opinion if a girl wants to dress up [or wear less] as "Eye Candy" for a cheap night out then I really don't have a problem because to be truthful I don't think you're going to realise that anyone you bump into in KEE club is a future partner, when you do bump into them!
However, if that's how your friend is looking to find a true partner then it will probably be a Bumpy road.
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One thing that I have also noticed about some Chinese ladies, and other races for that matter, in the region is that when you try talking or to break the ice you hit a concrete wall if you don't meet their criteria! What I mean is that if you're not considered potential partner material [which is a 2 second assessment process based on how tall, fashionable & affluent you look] you get totally ignored or 1 word answers until you take the hint - is everybody just out manhunting??
Combination Gal - you talked about wasting time on "sh*tty losers" but how do you decide & is this process completed before you speak to him?? I sometimes get the impression that unless you're at least 1.83m, no more than 85kgs, dressed in designer clothes & driving a luxury European car you're destined to find your partner outside of Hong Kong. Its even worse in Singapore although some of the Indian & Mixed Race Girls are up for a bit of fun [I don't mean sex, I mean going out for a drink/eat, movies or something] and they don't ask for a credit reference or bank guarantee!
Having said all of that I was once chirped "I need a Oke [man] not a joke" in a Cape Town club!
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I'm not scared of pretty girls, why should I? I get all sorts of girls coming up to me in bars and clubs, from girls next door to 6 foot blonde models, from Indian beauties to Chinese chicks. Sometimes I chat them up, sometimes they chat me up, sometimes they walk away, sometimes I turn them down, it's fun! Girls can be as pretty as they are, but deep down everyone needs someone. If anyone is being stuck up, they probably wouldn't be able to find any true friends, let alone true love.
Currently I'm not going out with any of these girls who I met in bars and clubs but we are really good friends, proofing:
1. You can make decent friends in "superficial" environments, which leads to point 2 and 3
2. Not everyone who hangs out in these places is superficial
3. Not everyone who is superficial hangs out in these places (geeks, write down the logic equations!)
We hang out together not only we enjoy each other's company, but we also make each other look more attractive. I even get guys for my girlfriends because sometimes they feel shy.
Girls don't have to be pretty to get decent guys, and guys don't have to be handsome to get sexy ladies, as long as they have the right personality, things will work out, look at who Kate Moss is dating!
When I drop by HK next time though, could any of you take me out to there bars? Likewise, if you come by London, drinks on me!
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maxt
20 yrs ago
hi YMBL
i'm curious, how do u approach a girl in a public place? what do u say to her? keep in mind in HK, if try to strike up a conversation w/ a HK girl out of the blue, she thinks ur trying to:
a) rob her or
b) molest her or
c) cheat her of money
d) thinks u must have some hidden problem and further involvement would lead to problems for her.
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maxt
20 yrs ago
sindhi crawford...u must be a local girl. in denial.
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rats
20 yrs ago
Why everyone here has such bad opinions of the HK girls/women? Maybe you should get to know them more before judging them! The girls you met at volar/Dragon-i may belong to less than 10% of the girls in HK :P
Soutie, true that a relationship is about love/care/respect, but you can't deny so-called' unconditinoal love' never exisits. Let's put it this way, why do you love your wife and why did you marry her? There must be something in her fulfill your 'criteria' and these are all 'conditions'. Some girls may need to find a financially stable partner and I can't see anything wrong with that. Girls who like rich men doesn't mean they are materialistic, they are just looking for men who are smart, *be careful here, trick of logic-being smart doesn't mean being rich, but being rich is probably being smart (enough to make that money)*. Who wants to be with a dumb a**?
Papertiger and Soutie, are you suggesting that 'true-love' means we should only go for beggars who look like MJ?
Personally I think love is love. If getting a bf/gf is only about 'companionship' , I find it rather pathetic. Anyways, I do enjoy meeitng people who are genial and smart but broke (and it will be even better if they are good-looking, hey, who doesn't like pretty things??). :D
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First of you, you guys make those posh bars in HK sound very awful which makes me want to go, would anyone take me there when I next visit HK?
Personally I'm not into local girls (it's not you, it's me!), I tried really hard to make friends with them but it just didn't work out. I also met several girls who claimed to have lived abroad. As we started talking, they were trying to impress me by "sharing" (sounded more like showing off) their overseas experience in front of me and they did it specifically in front of their mates. I didn't know what they were trying to proof but that was completely unnecessary, grow up people!
But then a majority of Westerners seemed to be very stuck up too, at least when I met them in the very beginning anyway. Some of them thought I was trying to clime into their "superior" society and get into their old boys' network but I was like dude, chill out and don't be so naïve (suddenly, HK sounds like South Africa). Where I work in London, I manage a team of people from various ethnic backgrounds and we all get along really well, but why can't they do it in HK?
So, what's all this got to do with pretty girls? My mates (from all over the countries) and I came up with this theory. A majority of pretty girls in HK are really stuck up, regardless their skin colour. Why is it then? If you really think about it, the number of pretty girls in HK is relatively low, which allows them to do so. The ratio of pretty girls in London or England is higher, only some of them are trying to be arrogant. However, if you go to countries like Spain or Italy, while everyone is so good looking, there is no need to play hard to get, they are all very relaxed. Is that it? No! Guys, be more confident and get those manners going then you are in, money comes in later. Deep down, HK girls or girls in HK in general could be very money driven, but I'm sure a small number of them are very down to earth. Failing all that, take a step back and do the maths, the world is full of hot girls, why not try your luck elsewhere!
PS Maxt, I'll show you how to approach girls, where are you from?
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Hey Mysterious Girl, what's your story? Are you one of the small number of pretty girls who is down to earth but get ignored all the time?
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maxt
20 yrs ago
YMBL, I was born in HK, emigrated to States and came back...
I started a new thread about the mentality of young women in HK entitled "All HK girls that goto LKF are goldiggers!!" not to bash local girls but its more a phenominon and requires more in depth discussion.
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maxt
20 yrs ago
hey 'boy' are u a guy or a girl?
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very simple, because they are losers, they can't take the challenge. All good men are married, well, i would say they are trained to be better by their wives, not themselves.
So, stay being urself and keep ur standard, don't degrade yourselves for those losers...
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Well all i can say is i agree with most comments here..if i wear a suit in an expensive bar with a bunch of cash and smart friends..you are king..same person in jeans on a ladies night (where they all drink for free) man you dont get boo out of them! haha i know all this is mass generalisation and happens all over the world...the answer? who knows..just rock and roll and have fun and hope you run into the gal of ya dreams..independantly rich..hard working..sense of humour..not too much attitude..and if she is HOT after all that..tell me where they all hang out!...good look to ya..Willy P
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Um... if that is the case ur girlfriends' can't meet any guys, introduce them to me. Better yet, I will approach them, just tell me where u hang out and when.
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lara1
19 yrs ago
Aaiiyahh! Like attracts like. If you spend all your relaxation time going to places where people tend to drink too much, dress to impress and that aren't conducive to genuine conversation (although that is possible for some of us who are able to easily access our heart), you will meet those who are also in that mode of self-expression. What is it you love to do? Pursue hobbies, sports/activities or join groups that share your interests. Then you will meet 'like' individuals in a more 'real' setting... If that fails, you could get a t-shirt printed with 'I've found myself, now I'm looking for you' on it and wear it daily for a month (hee hee)!
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Yahooo! Go Lara1. . . love your form, I think we can sell lots of those T-Shirts. Go girl, you rock!
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lulu
19 yrs ago
i must be pretty hahahahaha...
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I prefer the T-shirt i saw once on a Chinese guy..."Once you go Asian...you can't go Caucasian." Made me laugh, still does...reminded me of, "Once you go Black...you can't go back." Lighten up people...and don't take all of life's crap so damn seriously.
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lara1
19 yrs ago
well...I went caucasian,black and asian. Ummmm, still not satisfied. Think I'll go eurasian next (ha ha ha)Btw MM55104 pretty girls dont necessarily trust good-looking or ugly guys. You can't generalize. If you do, you miss out on some pretty (!) decent people who are out there.
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It's an interesting debate. I'm one of those pretty girls. At least my friends tell me so. I've lived here for 8 years. I've been single for the past 5 years. In that time, I've been asked out twice. It's quite hard to get my head around, and quite disconcerting. There has to be something about HK, because when I go home (UK) or to US then I always get approached. I don't think I dress differently or act differently. I'm not money motivated nor ambitious though I do have a good job. I'm extremely loving and self-confident. I laugh heartily and I'm genuinely interested in people. Yet, though I may get the odd glance from a guy, no-one approaches me. I wish those days of flirting frivously were here again! But then again, perhaps I'm looking for a little more. Are there any guys here who are truly looking for a long term relationship? Perhaps this may be part of the issue? Whatever the answer I know this, I miss men, gentlemen.
I've decided to take action. I'm leaving my current career and traveling for a while to do voluteer work. Perhaps I'll meet someone who's confident enough to say, "hi". Perhaps someone will see me... neither pretty nor not.
Good luck to yous out there!
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I could not blame those guys who get scared of preety girls. I myself is one of them.
In my opinion, it is an "EGO" issue. I feared to be "imbar...sed".
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I wouldnt be afraid of beautiful women, you are only talking to them. Most are more than happy to chat a bit. If the are snotty about it, who cares, a little rejection is good for us all, and its probably her loss anyway ;)
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Well, this is totally off the topic. I wouldn't mind to say hi to pretty girls. no scares. no I'll travel to HK in the next couple months. I'm wondering any pretty girl would like to walk me across.
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it's a funny fact that guys in HK (china?!) are particularly scared towards confident girls (pretty or otherwise). i am not really outstanding in the outlook dept but i'm outspoken and confident about myself. I dont really get approached by local guys.....is it really just about ego?!
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hi again, checking out if there's any reply. obviously there's none. lol. but I'm just curious that is it just me, a guy, who's fell in the women only forum in here? ill go to check the medical aisle then.
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I have a friend 33yrs old- has a masters degree, is also a doctor- British born Chinese 5"6 and is really good-looking- she doesn't wear make-up but she still looks fantastic (general agreement among my male and female friends), very outgoing and friendly. When you meet her you remember her face, but when you speak to her you remember her personality, very cheerful and has this charm about her.
She's just broken up with her boyfriend and is still optimistic about meeting someone right. I'm personally not that sure that she can meet someone special in hk that she deserves since Chinese men seem to have a pretty low esteem and a doctor might frighten them off- let alone her good looks and height...
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This is actually what we always wonder (me and three of my girl friends). I wouldn't say that we are all beautiful, but at least attractive enough, and smart and independent (We do pay our shoes and handbags by ourselves). The problem is when we go out, no guys will try to talk to us, meanwhile we see girls not that attractive flirting with guys everywhere......around us. Are we narcissistic? Oh no that is even worse.
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whether pretty girls, smart girls or independent girls...it's like this...MOST men usually think that when they saw something of a positive in women, they're thinking they're taken already...so, they don't approach at all...
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RL
19 yrs ago
new to the discussion, but v interesting...
isnt it true that most people, girls and guys, tend to lost their innocence in asia - quicker than anywhere else...? its just THAT kind of place. for some reason, views and objectives get tainted. misconceptions get magnified and its always easier to see the bad rather than good.
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ihc
19 yrs ago
agree with u RL. people don't want to spend time to know more about people before making judgement. so unfair & untrue
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RL
19 yrs ago
true. but in all fairness, the hk lifestyle is just too go, go, go... im certainly guilty of this - who isnt???
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i just want to know how do you kow if the pretty girls are taken or not. i am a man and i feel very scared to talk to them because me like a llot of men dont like to be rejected and a gilr that is really really sexy, and a real eye catcher makes us feel like we will have an instant rejection.
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that is a very easy question to answer. pretty girls intimidate guys, not matter how good looking the guy is. guys don't want to make a fool of themselves in front of good looking girls. They get nervous and start stuttering like fools and talk about stupid topics because they want to come across as interesting and confident etc.
and NO, it is not a 'misconception' that good looking people always have people 'chasing' after them. it is a fact, they have a much higher choice of gf/bfs than a normal person because they are better looking. Therefore, they can afford to wait for someone they like instead of settling for whatever they can get.
Either way, I have been to HK every year since I left and honestly I have yet to see a pretty HK girl except in movies. Therefore, either ur friends are either not really pretty, or they are not from HK.
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I m from Europe belgium and i just read and i m not agree with the man who said that afraid to be rejected imgine what will be this world if both men and women thinks the same we will just look each other and doing nothing , those pretty girls i thinks it means nothing being pretty or not i met sometimes some of them very sad but me i m not a playboy just a funny guy and let those men being afraid it is a chance for me to meet those girls Just a belize buseness man in Sganghai tonight
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luqi
19 yrs ago
so, can that mean It’s affordable to be rejected by medium looking gal rather than the attractive one!? Not all the attractive women are money driven. Even if so, you should not blame them. Coz, everyone has got a desire for life. Everyone has vanity. It just how far you carry it. Actually, the attractive ladies around me tend to be lonely. It’s a misery when they find out the guys are much more interested in their beauty rather than personality. Even worse, some of them get dumped at the split second when their so called bf realize it’s impossible to have sex with them currently.
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I'd like to respond here with some of my own experience. Most of beautiful women and men, having been spoiled by our society, don't work to make and keep friends.
I have a drop dead beautiful sister, barely brain 1 and totally centered on herself. A younger brother also blessed by what we all percieve as good looks, it has made a bum out of him.
Finally, I don't think people care about love anymore. I have not heard here and other places where people still believe in, and look for love. It's too easy to curl up with your favorite subsitute for human companionship, in the name of being 'Safe'.
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Someone pass the bucket please
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NicoIe88 - ROFL! Your post cracks me up... i have sat across the table from exactly what you describe and had a good laugh.
But... we have to remind ourselves, that just because people conduct themselves differently that our cultural norms/expectations doesn't make it wrong or less desirable. I'm sure there are many Asian (or other ethnicities) of men who find noodle slurping, belching, dog-breathed, granny-panty clad women VERY desirable.
Honestly, i wouldn't claim to be a big fan of any of the traits that you mention, but if it were the right girl, and the chemistry and attraction were there for me, I could love a woman with all of those traits. I'm sure I have my rough edges too, and i'd hope my partner would see past them.
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wow i am so depressed now....asian women better than western women? western women loud and unfeminine....ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! what a generalisation....im white and western and believe it of not im neither loud or masculine! Girls and guys writing stuff like this is some of the reason why there are dividers going on between us western and asian people. I say there are beautiful men and women where ever you go...there are some common asian women and common western women out there. Those of you who have been able to say british women are this or that obviously have not met enough. If you hang out in sh*t places then your gunna meet the sh*t! sorry folks but this thread made me a tad angry
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Im single still,21 Y/O GAL I WONDER WHY MY MR RIGHT STILL NOT APPEAR ? TOO STRANGE !
I THINK IT SHLD NOT BECOZ IM NOT ATTRACTING, OR NO CHANCE TO APPROACH THE NICE GUY ?
COULD YOU PLS ANALYZE FOR ME ?
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Ladies and gentlemen, I was in the stage of putting myself advertised on billboard with neon lights and yet not even a single man notice me.
The only thing I don't have is a decent height. I have almost hit to the perfect list. Yet, men did not noticed me. Sigh!
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Yes, i full understand that. It happens on me too. My friend told me, if he were local man, he wouldnt dare to talk to me. As i am a nice looking girl,intelligent, full of confidence. I guess it might be they lack of the confidence.
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shirleythien & all the pretty girls out there, let me say the reason why guys are scared of pretty girls is because they lack confident atleast most of them.
Since the pretty girls are so beautiful already, they are bound to have someone in their life. who knows they are single!
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Frankco, even if I have my forehead tattooed 'Single and Alone!' they still pretend to be blind enough to notice me. Isn't men should be braver than me?
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shirleythien, i agree mem should be braver than any girl but they will think differently if your forehead was tattooed 'single & alone'... let's just say, when you want one, and you'll never get one but when you're not searching for one it will just pop up!
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Girls, please don't be so desperate! Everybody has and deserve its stake. The appearance does not count much weather you're pretty or ugly, whether you're white or black or yellow, whether you're tall or short. It's just the matter of time. And if you want a serious relationship, patience is what you need.
There's an old adage which goes like "if you chase after love, it runs away from you, but if you don't think of love, it comes to you". It does not mean though that you should leave it to your fate. Change the place you're used to go where there are only old faces.
And Murphy's law is also applied here, if you think you are not approached, you are not approached!
So cheer up, girls! Feel happy and you'll be happy!
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Frankco, agreed with you. Trust me, those who appeared are supposed to be dispose on my block list! You know what I mean. Now I really sounds like a reject!
Wildorchid, be it I am chasing or not, nothing comes! It is not nice being a decaying apple and on 'unwanted list!'
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Shirleythien, that is what you think you are a decaying apple. And want it or not, the thought itself is somehow expressed by your look then, or your behavour. I believe that the so called auto-suggestion helps. Have you ever tried it? If not, please make a try! You'll have much a positive view on the situation!
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I tried all sorts of things, wildorchid. Nothing seems working! Which auto-suggestion?
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shirleythien, the same thing you should give yourself a chance to explore the beautiful life out there. One can never know what to expect in the wilderness... Maybe we could take this offline! :)
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I have read some of the answers here and I understand that the question here is: why are guys scared of pretty girls right? My answer is that we are not scared the thing is that the girls are not that pretty once you take off the accessories you end up with a carton box and culture zero that is why we clever guys just use the ones who "sell" themselves as pretty for a one night stand and keep the real pretty ones for real life.
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Mr. Pons, I don't understand your answer provided!
Frankco, thanks for your advise. Seriously, I even tried giving myself a chance for everything and all I got was zero results! Pathetic!
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Oyster, we are never the hard players but just being plain genuine smart women. Now I am placed at 'expired sales products' shelves or some might declared it as decaying apple, yet nothing seems happening. Trust me, I am never play hard to get but simply playing smart out there.
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Same here. Mine was worst...they don't tell you if there are married or not till you have to check on their fingers!
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Some good male mates told me many times (when I was not with my b/f yet) that smart girls should pretend to be a tad less smart then there will be more chance to meet more ordinary guys. That was and still impossible for me because I am so strait, cannot hide my feelings, in short, I am not an actor.
Fortunately, I could meet my man, we were in pure good friendship for nearly 2 years till the day we both realised how much we are attached to and in love with one another.
My point is that, keep on being yourself and loving yourself, looking at things positively, being patient and one day you will "report" to us of your happy days!
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Julie12, guess we are in the same boat!
Wildorchid, you are lucky! That is all I can say. I rather shoot myself if I have to pretend to be as dumb as a real dumbo. It is humiliating myself! No way Jose! What if at the end of the day I fail to "report" to you that I am still single and alone?
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shirleythien, you see, instead of thinking like "yes, one day (God knows which day!) I'll tell you there about my hally end, you started again with the thought about failure!
BTW, could you share how you feel when you meet/see guys? What you think about them, etc.
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wow, wildorchid, you really read my mind! How did you know??? So far the guys I have met are great. Of course there are pro's and con's. Pros, I've learnt a lot from men way of thinking and still studying it. Con's, they lied most of the time when comes to women issue or feelings. Well, guess it is normal. Not sure. Hope I answered your questions.
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I think 'intimidated' would be a better word. We are intimidated by those who have pose a higher level of attractiveness because we fear of falling short of their expectations. It's not just in this sense, but a part of everyday circumstances as well. People just need to have more courage and self-confidence and no matter how inadequate they feel, to have that sort of self-assurance will definitely win them some attention.
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Pretty girls need money (not all for sure) but most of the time (especially in HK): No money no Women.
Don't take me wrong ladies, it's not a question of showing off, but being financially stable and comfortable.
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So, can i generalise that there are two kind of pretty girls. The first sort is pretty girls with intelligence, they know wut they want, not desperate for guys. They are confident so they seems unapprochable(and thus no boyfreinds). The other is the shallow pretty girls, golddiggers which is another kind of unapprochable. I dont think pretty girls are all shallow. And, i dont think good-looking guy are shallow too. Maybe all good-looking person are all spoiled with flatters and compliments which make them have a greater vanity, but it doesnt mean that they have bad personality and a great greed for money.
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Hey I am NOT scared of pretty girls! If they reject you, then you always can say "hey take it easy I never said I liked you, just wanted a friend to chat. You don't have to be so rude" Then, all you have to do is wait for her reaction, normally they try to justify and will be nice to you. (but I was never rejected, guys, you have to be polite)
Sorry to dissapoint you girls but I really cannot answer for the guys that do not approach the pretty girls.
But if you give me your contact I surely will approach you!! :)
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I'll echo what many others have said above.
Guys think that hot girls will reject them and they don't try.
Personally, I don't get it either. Even if your chance of success would be 10%, your chance without ever trying is 0%. So why not give it a shot? You might pull it off.
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Hi there, Im a HK girl, single yet happy with being single! I go clubbin with my friends almost every Fris and Sats and many ppl no matter what race s/he's of, think I m pretty.
And I find the negative comments most of you've given to us HK girls are unjustified and too subjective!!! Maybe some of you met some bitches there out clubbing,on the street, in office, but there must be some nice girls like me and my friends who are nice and kind out there who you thought you were not worthy enough or too shy to approach!
I met some guys last year and we liked each other a lot but because I spent too much time on Trailwalker's trainings, the upcoming marathon's training and other stuff, they just thought that I was too pre-occupied and we stay being good friends. So, the reason why some of us stays single not because we dont want love, but because you guys cannot take the challenges and do the things we do or whatever.
But anyway, different ppl have their different lifestyle and rpeferences, ppl ignore you doesnt necessarily has to do with their being c*cky or money minded or whatever, it just mean that you or she or he is not the Right One.
Keep peace in yourselves and things will work up if you are as nice as you described!
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Here it is from a so-called pretty girl who KNOWS!!!
Here are the stats. I am aparrently very cute & pretty (I'm not full of myself, so I have been told by many men & women!!!)
I really have a thing for shy, smart, intraverted, intellectual chinese guys. Always have always will!
Being who i am and looking the way i do, I have never been approched by a single guy I liked. The truth is I get hit on quite a bit but only by muscular c*cky guys with HUGE EGOS!!! YUCK!!!!
I have nothing against those guys, but it really bugs me that because you look a certain way, guys just assume i want the Prad Pitt type. Most of these guys are so into themselves and their supposed good looks, they are so over confident and c*cky!! They assume that I will just drool over them and wanna be their girlfriend. The worst is when i reject them and chase a cute quiet Chinese guy instead, they freak out!
Maybe they haven't understood that some women, prefer substance over vanity!! I don't care if the whole world wants some guy, I don't!
To answer the initial question, If you want to hook up with traditional chinese guys(that is not to be racist or stereotype, but most, not all in my experience tend to be more reserved and there is nothing wrong with that!Personally i like the thrill of the hunt!)As I was saying to get with chinese guys as an attractive white girl, you have to do the chasing!!! Usually they are a little shocked, some may even be turned off, but obviously thoses ones aren't for me. Bottom line don't just stand there waiting because you'll wait forever! Personally, i've never had a strait rejection if you just approch them with an open, honest and friendly demenor. Usually they are extremly flattered and they make the best boyfriends!
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it is all about the subtle flirting, thus giving a sign. My experience is that good looking women, tend to behave arrogant. There is no fun or relaxed behaviour at all. And that also scares us, if you act and behave to seriously. Just standing there being pretty, is that all there is?????
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I was just trying to help out and maybe boost a guy's confidence if he's interested in a girl. Wow! you guys seem really bitter & pissed off. I'm sorry if some girl totally ruined you but that attitude isin't going to get very far!
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rats
19 yrs ago
Maxthegirl, they are not scared of pretty girls, just they know where to find their 'match' (in terms of appearance, personalities and values).
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For me, everything is relative.
When they think Im pre-occupied, I think they are too relaxed or empty. But, we all understand ppl have different lifestyel, background, education, blahblahblah, so, no one has the right to overgeneralize Chinese gals as gold/mine-diggers and Latin girls as sexy and carefree bellas. Im glad that not all of the ppl heer think Chinese girls as vain and realist and some of us do think that girls overall in HK are nice and cool~ Yeah, In Chinese, we have this quote, "If sth is urs, no matter what, it's urs; if vice versa, then no matter what you do, how much u force to have it, it's destined to go away and left u forlorn." So, juz take it easy, guys and gals. I am not being an optimist or pessimist or anyone like that, juz, let it be~
Best of luck to all!!! Kuss Kuss
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Man , most, take girls as several kinds, maybe so nice and pretty girls can be only taken for fun but taken into men'life...
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Response to 'womanwithbrain' i like your answer the most. You are great, you hit the mark perfectly.
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jay2004: I took a look at your response more above.
Money is nothing. The greatest failure i have seen over the past 15 years has been individuals who have wealth and seem to be missing everything else. And the ones that do have wealth and do have everything else usually you never even catch that they have wealth until after.
I don't mean to beat up on this whole profit-seeking competitive economic way of life it has obviously bolstered improvements in humanity- the whole incentive pushes progress thing etc..
But for me, I measure my romantic life and economic 'success' as an utter and complete failure for some of the reasons you kinda note, I am in a strange stage in my life- I have 'some' wealth and have huge opportunities to grab more- but to be honest it makes me sick to my stomach- the whole thing and environment I see around me. I have decided to just leave it all- if I don't I will die I am sure of it. I want to make a fair dollar sleep at night and if I am lucky maybe find a woman that shares common interests and is not governed by wealth accumulation. There is no difference between a person who wants that and slavery. None at all, and slaves are not of interest to me.
My comment is not meant to offend--I guess my comment is meant to say I feel your pain but wonder if it is pain for you or just a pat on the back??? Or your personal 'realistic' take on modern romance?
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msbj
19 yrs ago
jay2004, that only means you are not lucky enough to meet a realy good girl i think, sorry to say that!
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jay2004,
Thank you for your response.
You may have missed my point. Money is 'something' if set in the right context as I duly noted in my message. And more on dynamic of dating- I agree that potential 'partners' do not go out and deliberately look for guys that are broke. But it can end up that way. I mean i can give you 2 examples off the top of my head. Dr. Phil and Dick Cheney, both pretty much broke (at least no great financial prospects) when they met their wives. Both individuals regardless of the fortunes they have amassed never got into what they got into thinking 'wow, if I do this I will be rich.' Although, Cheney has and does now, and probably did exercise that decision making power throughout his career after he got going. But, when he met his wife he said, 'I was pretty much broke, and she stood by me.' Really the fundamental question is what is the power and reward for the ruling principle you are trying to ascribe to life? Because if it is money- identifiable rewards become nebulous and schewd. Ask a son or daughter how they feel about mom or dad that were busy chasing down a dollar.
We probably could go round and round on this point. So- for me I can say money is nothing in the context I outline, and you can always say money is something to certain kinds of people and situations- My reply to that is of course- but that isn't everything.
I mean, I think it is easy to adopt a jaded one-sided view on the whole dynamic that you are noting above. But, that is not reality either. What you see vividly always hinges on the spectacles you are wearing. Btw, if you really do not understand what I am saying- I would encourage you to read more from George Soros- A man of amazing financial wealth (more than you and I will ever have) and wide insight on its power and enormous fundamental limitations.
I wish you a Happy New Year.
Cheers
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The feeling of rejection is mutual between guys and girls...even girls are afraid of handsome guys...So basically, handsome guys and pretty girls are unlikely to have ugly suitors.why? it's because the features do not match...they have a lot of suitors but those good looking ones. No one dares to go near almost perfect creature.
But if you try to inject courage in your mind, go near them and know them...They are normal people like everyone else, they aren't gods and goddesses!!!
Attitude is more important than outer attributes
So guys, do not be afraid of pretty girls.likewise with girls. That beautiful and sexy body hides beautiful and sexy personality...well, it depends on the person.
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tmhmy
19 yrs ago
Hi Chinese Gwei Mui,
i want to chase your girfriends. Any chance? Contact me at tmhmy@hotmail.com
ET
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