Posted by
hkchoichoi
19 yrs ago
if she is falling asleep with the bottle, on your knee, and then you move her to her crib only to have her wake up, that would definitely cause her to get upset. It's so nice and cuddly with you and so safe and warm, and then putting her alone in her crib will cause her anxiety.
The key for you is to try and get her fall asleep in the cot, and not fall asleep while drinking on her knee.
how many naps during the day and how does she fall asleep in those? In other words, does she fall asleep while drinking milk at those times as well? It sounds as if drinking milk is the way for her to fall asleep, and if that is the case, you'll need to break that association for her before it will be easier for her to fall asleep on her own.
If you let me know how she is falling asleep at all times, not just her bedtime, I think I may be able to offer some specific advice.
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Could you make the milk feed a little earlier or the bedtime a little later? That way you can break the association of milk = sleep and maybe prevent the milk coming up if she's had it in her tummy a little longer.
Also I would suggest not to let her fall asleep when she's drinking milk or straight after. That also reinforces the milk and sleep idea. A nappy change or reading a book is another small activity that might help inbetween the milk and sleep. It might take a while for her to get the idea but if you are consistent and persistant she will eventually figure it out.
Good luck!
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Scot -
give me a run down on sleep times during the day. Naps, when, how long, and whatnot.
also, once she does go down, it sounds as if she doens't wake up at all? until the AM? Maybe she's napping too much during the day or her naps are a bit off of her biorhythm.
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when mine was a little baby, if i gave him the bottle too close to the bedtime, he would fall asleep on the bottle.
so i decided to give it earlier as saralee suggests above. his bedtime is 7pm so by 6.15pm, i usually give his bottle, then we have a little play (nothing too excitng, we don't want him too excited to sleep) and then 6.45pm, he is in his cot, awake and he'll chatter/wind down and usually in bed by 7pm.
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hmmm...Scot - yours is a Gina Ford baby.
I think food sounds fine - it's a sleep thing.
you mentioned controlled crying - may I ask how you did it? Richard Ferber's method? I definitely think the bottle in order to settle her is going to make things worse in the long run, and for whatever reason, sleeping in her cot causes her to scream.
do you have one of those toys that make soft music when she sleeps? The fisher price aquarium that plays soft music and has soft lights.
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a bottle bit earlier then play and sleep not associated with bottle is definitely the way to go.
I was thinking that perhaps instead of leaving her in the room alone, you could sit by her crib, so she can see you, but you don't make eye contact with her, and see how she reacts to that. What you have described above with your son is Ferber - who states his methods shouldnot be used on babies younger than 6 months old.
But I'm thinking that if you are still in the room with her quietly and not looking at her perhaps she would settled down? But not pick her up. I think picking her up continually is actually prolonging the sleep process.
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HKC
19 yrs ago
I would recommend the Baby Whisperer Pick Up Put Down method. You need to buy the book really but basicallu when your baby cries Pick her up and put her straight back down until she stops, just keep repeating. It sounds like she is quite sensitive and needs the reassuarance that you are there for her, I would definately recommend buying the book, its much gentler than controlled cryng!
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