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jyww
19 yrs ago
it sounds a bit silly...
i dont know why i could never really enjoy making love so far. no matter how excited i am before, as soon as men enter my body i feel the pain.
i met a wonderful man two months ago. He's been very nice and always respects me. Still i couldnt make it. i cannot stand the pain except there is one time that i was on the top which didnt hurt me but that's it.
do you think i have to see the doctor to check it? by the way, my first time really sucks: the guy who i used to love forced me to have sex with him(that's the reason why i decided to break up later) that was a horrible experience. so does that have something to do with my problem now?
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Totty
19 yrs ago
Ah your past 'love' may well have a big thing to do with your situation now.
Your new guy sounds totally lovely so just relax and know that he's not forcing you to do anything plus try telling your boyfriend what happened before and i bet he'll be as gentle as a butterfly.
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TC
19 yrs ago
...and also go and see your doctor for peace of mind.
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jyww
19 yrs ago
thanks totty and tc..hope i'll work it out soon
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jyww, i have to face similar problem but i didnt really have any bad experience. my boyfriend is nice and caring but still it hurts. the only thing i can do is to try to find a position that dont hurt me that much ie me on top. but yup, that's it...i think the reason is i am too nervous/ cautious (?) that i cool down very soon. however, the situation seems to be improving as he's really caring and wont force to get in...so, last time i seemed to be able to feel more and much less painful but still that i had to maintain a certain position. i guess you have to find a comfy position first and can try to feel it...i know it's not easy though as i am just learning too.
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my case is i dont think my bf is particularly big and he agrees too. the lubrication is enough according to his experiences. i am new to this as he is my first but he has many years of experience. if visit a doctor, i am not sure what kind of doctor i should visit.
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jyww
19 yrs ago
hi happydays. thanks for your post that i knew i was not alone(also same with you that I easily cool down:i fail to feel excited as soon as he stopped to wear the condom)..probably for some women it takes time to have wonderful sex..good luck for you as well
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MayC
19 yrs ago
I think it's good to get it checked out just for your peace of mind.
Sex has never been a problem for me for years... but then in the past one year, it has been painful EACH time. I went to see a dr and did some tests and found out I had an infection. I had to be put on antibiotics. Things improved for 2 months (painfree) but now it's painful again, so I'm on my second course of antibiotics.
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jyww
19 yrs ago
mayc thank you for the advice. i will go and see the dr as well...btw, is that easy to get the infection. what did your dr say?
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MayC
19 yrs ago
Well, the thing is, I never had this problem before I had my first baby and then after I had my baby, intercourse was extremely painful. I saw my gynae and he said that it was probably because I was too tired to get back into sex. I suffered for over a year thinking that that was the case.
And then hubby started to feel itchy (usually men don't feel this "itch", I must have had it tooooo long) so I went to demand a lab test. They did it and found I had a problem. There were NO signs except that sex was painful.
It may not be the case for you but it's good to get it checked (just in case).
According to my dr, sex could introduce foreign bacteria inside us which can trigger an infection. To reduce this, we have to "wee" or shower after sex. Then there's this humid climate we live in. It's just very easy for bacteria to grow.
If after going to the drs and he tells you that everything is fine, then you can consider whether or not your past experience or cultural factor has anything to do with it.
Good luck....
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