moms and dads with 4 kids - part 2

hi, sorry for this "part 2" business but for some reason i cannot respond (i think something to do with my computer being a macbook). anyway, i really wanted to reply though so this seems to be the only way.


anyway, thanks for all the encouraging words about the 4th. i have to say after i had my 3rd, i told my husband we are finished. now that she is 10 months olds, i find myself wondering whether i will be satisfied with 3 as we have always talked about 4. but really, being that much busier with the 3rd was really overwhelming. i am, however, scared that as my 3rd baby gets older, i will come to regret not going for the 4th, especially if one always gets left out.


right now my 3 kids are all under 5 years. my eldest (boy) is 4.5, my second (boy) is 3 and my youngest (girl) is 10 months. i know for a fact that my life is already easier as my eldest son is a very good natured boy. he never gets jealous and always understands (or so i hope) that the younger ones need a bit more attention. he is never mean to his brother or sister and loves to play with them. my second one in general has a good nature except he is a bit more mischievious and likes to bother his brother. although he has somewhat of an independent nature, he also likes me to give him attention. fortunately he never wants me to put the baby aside for him, only that i hold him too. both brothers love their sister very much. my youngest is in fact the bossiest. it's hard to imagine a baby who doesn't walk or talk can already try to let you know who's boss! i'm getting the feeling that the second and third are going to have some issues with each other as they get older!!!!!


one thing is true though. the transition from zero kids to one is the biggest transition. and in many ways, having one child is the hardest as you have to be the sole entertainer for the child. i always say, if you're going to have kids, hk is the best place to have them since you can hire a lot of help you need it!! anyway, thanks again for the advice!

I dont want more after this 3rd one. i wish i had that drive but i just dont. I give you kudos for wanting 4 hehe. My oldest is the bossy one being 4yrs old, my 2nd girl is oblivious and off in her own lil world. Its amazing how different each child is. And 3rd is still in the belly not sure how hes going to turn out LOL. Anyway, i think its most awesome having multiple children.


If you really want to go for #4 i say go for it. You have both boys and a girl so clothes wouldnt be an issue at all in the hand me down part of things. the 3rd i had to go and rebuy all boys clothes haha and promised myself id only put him in girls clothes when sleeping or in the house. hehe my husband was ok with that hhaha!!!



Good luck dear!

I have to say that my four are VERY DIFFERENT personalities and it has been facinating watching them grow. They have all had the same style of parenting, nurturing, and sets of boundaries and yet are so different. One quality that they do share is that they are all very empathetic, diplomatic and good at compromising . When they were young we were living in London (so no helper) and life was organised like a mini army camp - everyone had their jobs etc made my life easier. It often resembled a scene from the Brady Bunch but with the fighting!

LOL!!!



I have to deal with my 2 girls differently due to the extreme personality difference. My oldest negociates with me on everything and my youngest is oblivious to anything around her so getting her to do something or asking her is nearly impossible. I love them the same but having to deal with them in different ways complicates matters. After this 3rd one comes i think things will change alot and perhaps for the better 2nd one will be more aware. She has started to become more aware recently which could be due to the pregnancy and me not babying her as much.