Normal behaviour?

What is normal?

2 1/2 nearly 3, great at home.

Looked after fulltime by dad, well mannered, good sleeper, good eater, very articulate, however.... with other children? Madness! Its like he has just eaten a bar of chocolate (which he doesnt).

Only goes to one kids class a week at the moment (soccer) where he only seems to listen and act on half of the instructions.

We often feel lucky with our little man with such a great personality, however hubby is getting very frustrated at the seemingly unexplained hyperactive behaviour around other kids.

No, before you ask, he doesnot have any "real" mates as yet, we are relatively new to HK and not settled into a daycare or similar.

Anyone else with boys or girls of a similar age, any suggestions on effective parenting, to help guide him and calm us? We are concerned if we do nothing he may develop into one of those insanely hyper kids, that would be no good for him or us.

What's "normal"for this age?

He sounds pretty normal to me! I would imagine he hasn't had the chance to learn how to socialise with other children (and it must be pretty exciting to spend time with people your own size!)


How about joining some more casual playgroups (HKPPA well worth a look) and trying to meet with other kids for playdates at the park at home


Good Luck, @@

Hi Cara, Hi @@,

I just knew that if we posted on this forum chances are we would at least be able to turn to each other and say "ok so we are not alone". Thanks.

He does go down to the local parks every day, however the routine is with the park, not the people. He has no fixed playdates with other kids (his own size), this my intuition says does need to change.


Cara, we are based in Sai Kung - you?

OMG Team NZ I could've written your post myself.


My son is 3 and 4 months old and you have just totally discribed him. He's not so bad at playgrounds but get him together with his friends and he turns into a completely different child. Yet, he's such a good boy normally, so polite, so loveable, loves going to school, has great concentration.


I'm just putting it down to a phase and over excitement.


Welcome to HK!

TeamNZ


Here's a web site for HKPPA that might interest you in Sai Kung


http://www.hkppa.org/sai_kung.htm

Hi Trudy,

You made me smile!

How do you react when he is so different? Have you found anything that works? Other than a deep breath and another cup of tea?

Weeellll, we usually do warnings. For example I give him two and then if he's still being silly on the third I take him home. Usually he's not doing anything serious he just has a tendancy to go a bit giddy and run around which is fine and perfectly normal, but sometimes he just won't listen and he tests his luck so much that it becomes dangerous. LOL!

OMG, I had wanted to post a thread like this months ago but was hesitant because I thought we were very much alone on this one. My little girl is also a very fun, loving, and good-natured bundle of joy for us, and she was really good around kids up until she turned 2.


In her case, I did take her to playgroups and to the park on a daily basis, but even so she freaked out every time there was a crying baby/tot close by and just went hysterical, was clinging to me for her dear life. She acted so weird around kids, just very timid and very unlike her confident self.


Like Cara, I had a “blast” when we went back to the US and I had to constantly tell my girl NO NO AND NO, stop hitting or pushing away her younger cousins. I knew she wasn’t being hostile or anything but was acting out out of fear of younger tots being too close to her (space /control issue?). My sister wasn’t helping much when I told her about my girl’s feelings…she didn’t bother to keep her son away and he was getting smacked quite a bit. I was so tired of saying NO that on the day we were leaving US, I wanted so much to just let my daughter act out and not suppress her feelings anymore…thinking to myself “just don’t let your aunt catch you when you do it” (devil’s horns on my head).


My instinct was right when I thought my little girl’s strange behavior was fear-related because at age 2.5 years old now, she’s no longer hitting or being aggressive…instead she’s gone the other way…backs off and let other tots or babies take up her space and her toys and she’ll come running to me sobbing. WHAT is a mother to do???


Sorry, Team NZ, I didn’t mean to hijack your thread and sorry for not being helpful. Just wanted to share my experience and hope someone out there can help.