Posted by
mumof2boys
19 yrs ago
Okay I'm a self confessed lazy mum.
After reading all these threads I often laugh to myself because I just gave my 2 year old noodles mixed with chippies for diner to make him eat something!!!
Some days you all seem so perfect, and so anxious!!!
I love being a mum but I'm sure that we can all laugh at ourselves sometimes at some of the stuff we do when no one is looking.
So lets hear it, am I the only lazy mum in Hong Kong? who occassionally doesn't bath her kids at night and uses a wet wipe instead?
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haha. I like that PJ's at Mc'ds. people here can be up tight about things no??
My son was walking around barefoot at the mall today. forgot shoes.....he was happy though, (and I can justify my forgetfulness cause it's really better when they're learning to walk to have bare feet.)
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my confessions:
- when we come home too late for a bath but still want him in bed for 7pm, i just give the bottom a good wipe, his milk and off to bed...without brushing his teeth!
- he lives in his nappy when we chilling at home, i don't even bother with a t-shirt, luckily the weather is warm enough.
- i cook enough food for him most days to freeze portions but there are some days when supplies are low and he is too old for mushy jar these days so i have bought baked beans for emergencies to go with toast!
the list goes on......
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Totty
19 yrs ago
How i love this.....some Mums would have us believe that they're so damn perfect, yet they're the ones that spend more time doing yoga, having coffee mornings, shopping.... then with their kids.
Anyhow i digress (but feel better for it). My list:
- when mine we're babies and still being breastfed i would eat my dinner whilst feeding them and they would invariably go to bed with gravy or something else on their all in ones.
- my two frequently don't wear shoes in the mall.
- i loathe bath time sometimes so i make them wash each others hair (like watching monkeys)
- once forgot to give them breakfast due to me having a raging hangover (made up for it at lunch though, felt SO guilty)
- will let my guys watch tv just so as i can lie on the sofa and have a nap at the weekends
Reading that makes me sound an awful Mum, i'm actually (and i do say so myself) a damn fine Mum who spends as much time as i can with my two, work permitting. They know they're loved to bits, they know i'd do anything for them and they are my world. I don't think they'l grow up malformed beacuse of my occasional laziness!
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Thanks for giving me a giggle this morning.
I have a terrible teether....takes about two months of grizzling before a tooth will magically appear and we're in that stage. He's very late.
Cara, you just sound smart to me!!
TV while I nap on the couch is a standard sunday afternoon behaviour for me.....I know the playground is beckoning them but somehow I just can't get the energy up to go unless daddy goes too.
leaving the nappy on until it is falling off due to excessive wees has been known to happen on occasion. and yes my boys are lucky to have clothes on when they go out the door cause by the time mummy has put everything in her bag and managed to get herself organised little details like that can go un noticed. hehe.
Luckily they are still too young to remember anything right!
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
At least you guys try to bathe your children every day! Once I had my second, it became an every second day thing (unless they REALLY needed more). In my defence, I was in London and did not have help, but I never even tried to go back to the daily baths when we moved here. I am desperately trying to convince them that showers are more fun (without much luck yet).
My children also carry their own hand luggage through the airport. They got to choose their own wheelie bags and now they only bring what can fit into them on the plane. So far, so good, they love feeling like grown ups (albeit with Barbie and Superman on their bags) - but the day will come when they realise that the other children's parents carry everything for them.
Oh, and despite being one of those women who swore that her children would never watch TV - they now watch so much that my son's first few words were pretty much all the names of Playhouse Disney characters.
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right now still in the anxious panicked stage as i'm just three months into my first - am definitely guilty of eating breakfast, lunch or dinner while breastfeeding and dropping crumbs or spilling stuff on baby..the crumbs come off easily enough ...
i have a friend who's a mother of three - she has the first two to massage one foot each while watching tv. i think she's the best mum ever..
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crj
19 yrs ago
Reading this thread and laughing, while baby is crying... urm, better go feed her now :)
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ness
19 yrs ago
You can amuse a three year old for hours by taking the brush part off the vacuum and getting them to go around the carpet sucking up all the bits of fluff tinee tiny bit by bit. Obviously in a land without helpers. Oh and give them the sponge to clean the ring around the bath with shampoo while they are in there.
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Kmom
19 yrs ago
My almost 4 year old son can tell the difference between Cartoon Network, Disney and Nickelodeon based on the shows and logo! heheheheeh
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ness
That's so funny about cleaning the scuzzy ring around the bath. I'll remember that one.
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I think we all have lazy tendancies.
I give my kids ketchup to dip whatever food they have in it since they love ketchup * i hate the stuff never eat it*
In the mornings i let the nanny get the kids rdy for school so i can sleep in...
i give the kids a bath every other night which i think is really lazy of me. Its so humid in shanghai.
on the nannies day off i dont mop the floor i leave it for that day to let her clean it the next day. Its just so hard to mop at 8 months... so im lazy...
no ones perfect lol however hard we try to be. Raising kids is about learning to not be perfect and giving urself time to adjust. Before i had kids i was a neat freak. Clothes were washed daily, ironed daily. When i came home from work it would be clean, cook, clean then maybe some tv or play on the net. Now the helper does it all... its really made me lazy. I didnt have a helper back home i did it all myself.
Best wishes for all the lazy moms out there!!!
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@@
19 yrs ago
My kids once watched TV for a whole day while I had a massive hangover - even they started to get bored!
As for kids helping with house work, baby brothers and sisters I think that should be the norm! We do it all the time, kids help with everything from cleaning to cooking - it is usually lots of fun!
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before my kid was born, i thought i would never be the mum who plonks the kid in front of telly. and i did pretty well in his 1st year. he is now 14 months and we recently started watching sesame st and man am i grateful for the show! it's one hour long and he is hypnotised by the show for at least 30 mins, enough time for me to make a cup of tea and actually finish it and read the morning's headlines!!
i also do this, which a few other mummy friends have confessed to:
when food falls out of kid's mouth, especially in public and you catch it in time, when he doesn't finish his dinner........we don't throw the food away, we *gulp* eat it instead!
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Yeah same with the tv i think my kids watch enough Dora the explorer hehe. They really like it. I try to get one after school activity for them but some days im so tired *33 weeks pregnant* i just have them sing some songs and then write the alphabet.
I think its going to get worse after i have baby # 3..... /cry
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hahaha,i wish i can be a bit like you all and lighten up-i cant,that s why my back is killing me and lack of sleeps.
if she is dirty 3 times a day,i still bath them.i have to scoll thru one more time above and see what shoutcut i can try....lol
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hehe my two year old and 17 month old know Little Einsteins theme song by heart. the older one can sing all the words and the younger will come running from whereever he is in the house as soon as he hears it. Complete with the "pat pat pat Blast off!" hand motions for those who know the show.
yeah I'm a kindy teacher part time and I was shocked to find most of the two year olds I teach know their alphabet and mine is still saying. "acdemkl" or whatever random letters he decides are the right name for the latter that day.
I also was never going to have TV for the kids.
oops.
They also weren't going to eat sweets or chippies.
oops.
I also was going to be a super mum and wife and actually considered homeschooling for a while....
hahahaha.
Then I had two boys 16 months apart. Oh how reality hits!!
I love them.
My eldest has started to get his daddy a beer from the fridge as soon as daddy walks in from work. he did this spontaneously.
Now I'm training him to make me a gin and tonic.
hehe
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Oh and I also only bath every other night.....unless they smell really bad after getting all sweaty running around.
I figure in the old days people only bathed once a week so really I am a great mum in comparison no??
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
YES!!! I LOVE the beer thing! If only I could train my 2 to pop a champagne cork.......
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
YES mumof2boys!!! I LOVE the beer thing! If only I could train my 2 to pop a champagne cork.......
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Fantastic post!
Ours is only 8 mths but we have already started 'conning' her back to sleep on Sundays. If she wakes at 6am as is her norm, one of us will pop a dummy in until she promptly falls back to sleep until 8.30. Naughty but necessary!
I do recall my Dad trained us to give head massages when we were little. Think I'll resurrect that one when our girl's a bit older!
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I love this thread seriously every time i read the new ones i smile!!! Ur a genius momof2boys!!!!!!!!!!!
My mom had us giving her back massages and brushing her hair at i think 1yrs old. I wish i had done that with my 2 girls!!!
i actually thought i was a bad mom for doing the bath every other day. Now i dont feel too bad its a great feeling thanks other mommies!!
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Aaaah, I would love my little un to do the shopping!
At the moment it is my job to do the weekly shop (usually on a Sun morning with a raging hangover whilst hubby and baby snooze away in bed!)
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does serving instant noodles for dinner to daddy ( coz I spend so much time looking after my little one ) counts? and oh now that bubs is crawling all over she gets to clean my floor w/ her top. my excuse when hubby gets home and find the bed not done, ( my imaginary "Maria" the helper didn't show up today!) and yeah I'm training her to watch DVD's, I think she'll learn how to sing her ABC faster from it.
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baby's room is the safest room in the house - no furniture besides the cot with carpets and pillows to pad the walls. so when we have a hangover, we feed him his breakfast and we all go to his room, he has enough toys to amuse himself, we'll try to sleep on the floor as he crawls all over us......
i didn't cook a single meal after i popped until baby was introduced solids....we survived on takeaway.
i never make the bed anymore, my excuse is my kid doesn't give me a chance to as he jumps on the bed the minute he sees me doing it!
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Well guys I feel so cheered up reading your replies. I'm not alone in this crazy world after all. glad to know there are some other pragmatic hearts out their who can relax the rules when no one is looking.
Am in the middle of buying our first house and looking for new jobs.....so the stress levels are high right now so really happy to read all your stories.
thanks guys.
( I haven't made my bed since my helper started...felt guilty for all of two seconds and haven't looked back!)
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This is hilarious!! I love it!
OK, how about 2 minute noodles for lunch...every day! My daughter loves them and refuses to eat anything else...unless it's nuggets & chips from McD's!!!
And she loves 'frankies' - you know those canned c*cktail franfurts you can buy. Breakfast! Some days I get tough and make her have toast as well!
She loves unloading the washing machine and helping to hang the clothes. You're supposed to give them jobs to feel useful aren't you?
My son, superwet hanging off him nappies - not an unusual sight.
TV - where do I start?? My daughter walks in from school and says "Mum, my shows please"
Our afternoons are planned around whats on - baths are when Kuzco is on (we don't really like that), [Kuzco is not on on the weekend, no cue so sometimes we forget], son has dinner while Kim Possible is on and daughter will ONLY eat while Mr Bean is on!!
My daughter also cleans the bath whilst in it (this she started on her on, I have just kept it going).
And the list goes on.....
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Nula
19 yrs ago
I used to love putting the kids in the blow up pool with some soap and shampoo to clean themselves with so they wouldn't need a bath in summer.
Also pre helper if their clothes weren't too marked or smelly they would get put back in a drawer of clothes that had been previously worn which could be more than 2 days.
I also used to make up a huge stew which would be lunch and dinner for a couple of days just served up with either pasta, toast, rice or potatoes to make a change!
Not to mention baked beans on toast with a multi-vitamin for dinner.
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yes, to reduce the laundry load, if he has been wearing denim shorts, i do a smell test - we usually wear it again the next day.
i don't really fold his clothes - only his "fancy" ones. the stuff he wears at homes, pjs, cot sheets, flannels...they all get stuffed into the drawers. if not they "rest" on his floor for him to play with.
nula - i am with you on the stew....a lifesaver!!
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I wonder what those almost perfect looking moms do when nobody's looking. How I envy those women wearing their hair down, walking in high heels w/ bubs in tow! ahah buttered pasta, scrambled eggs, more instant noodles are my lifesavers. when fallen hairs starts to cling on baby's clothes its time to sweep the floor! here's a big one, its ok to walk around the mall in stained top as long as baby is in tow!
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For sure with the clothes!! Unless there is an obvious stain or an obvious odour, they are definitely up for another wear. If it's to school we will wait a minimum 2 days (fair amount of time I feel to be washed and back out in circulation - Not that the teacher probably notices or cares!). If it's just around the house, you can get 3 days out of shorts/jeans I think..
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Lazy mum confession...
I MAKE DAD TAKE CARE OF my little man everyday SUNDAY with the pretext that he doesn't really get to hang out with dad all week as he sleeps at 7pm everyday. BOYS ALONE time so that I can go catch that important movie with the girls or head of for some pampering. AND... dad gets the morning wake up calls too based on the same reason ;-)
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OK I think the whole lazy mum or forgetful mum thing started as soon as I gave birth to number two.
I couldn't figure out what was wrong with him on day 3 when he wouldn't stop fussing.....I had forgotten to change his diaper for nearly the whole day before I realised!! And you're meant to be the expert with number two right!
Also discovered feeding lying down by day 2 was going to be a much more relaxing way to spend the next many many hours of breastfeeding. I even fed lying down during the day and would just snooze while he ate the whole 7 months I fed him.
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Nula
19 yrs ago
I thought of some others - I have a play doh ban in my house because I hate cleaning it up.
When they were little I would encourage creative playing outside. Drawing on the drive with chalk so that the car would rub it off or the next rain storm or they could with a "special" scrubbing brush. Painting was done with water and all different sizes of paintbrushes on anything outside. We called it magic invisible paint!
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Painting with water - fantastic!
Have found the best way to entertain my little one is to sit her down with a piece of paper. She could sit there for hours crunching it up.
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cd
19 yrs ago
I think you're being too hard on yourselves. If you were living in the UK with no helperto leave the child with or tidy up after,then nearly all the 'laziness' ideas are actually the norm. Children learn to help you with the shopping from an early age, in fact many supermarkets in the UK have small childrens trolleys, once they start toddling they love helping with the laundry, unloading the washing machine, passing you the pegs, even washing up plastic plates and cups at the sink. Helping with the gardening, putting their toys away etc. Its not laziness on your art, in fact its good for the child, better than teaching them that the helper is there to pick up after tham all day long which is likely to turn them into spoilt brats. Also bathing everyday is not neccessary, washing hands and face is fine. And as I do all the washing and ironing, unless something has a visible stain or is really sweaty it gets worn again.
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trudy
19 yrs ago
Another one who's kids watch far too much TV!!!! My son often stands up in class and gives them a little performance of the Thomas theme tune. They're very impressed that he knows it word for word *Blush*
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OK, I have another confession. I'm still breastfeeding my 14mo son because I'm too lazy to 1. Wean him; and 2. Make bottles.
And before you tell me he can have milk now, he is allergic and has special formula. This allergy is my standard excuse for why I am still feeding him but no, just lazy!!.....oh, and I like feeding him ;)
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I think you are all very sensible mums!
Pat yourself on the back for making your life and their lives so much easier!
I was nodding my head to so many of these...ah, the good old days!
cheers from Ruth
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MY neighbour used to have her 3 children in their panties hose each other when she's watering the garden. She'll wet & apply body shampoo,let the kids run wild with a hose for a while and then wipe them up. She extend the invitation to my daughter and I have a task less for the day.
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Okay new confession....I never steralised bottles. And actually made my kids get used to room temp milk cause then I didn't have to take time out heating it in the microwave in the middle of the night.
Okay big lazy confession and this is for real.
I fed my eldest outside on our front patio and let him learn to eat the messy way.
After he was done I hosed down the patio ( and him if it was hot) and we were all done.
haha I remeber those days and wish I could do the same now with number two but we're in HK now and it's not really the done thing right!
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Totty
19 yrs ago
Kids currently watching the box becuase i want 10 minutes peace and quiet.
Does that make me lazy, selfish or worthy of 10 mins 'quiet time'?
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
10 minutes???? You've got a long way to go before you get to call yourself lazy!
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My sentiments exactly Mrs! my kids watch at least 1 or 2 hours a day or even if they aren't watching it's on making noise.
haha 10 minutes quiet time......last time I left my two year old by himself watching TV while I had a wee nap when my baby was sleeping.....
He proceeded to crack 12 EGGS into the rug and mush them with his feet and hands all over the rug and sofa...
Seriously the worst day of my life, hubby was out and I went white with rage. couldn't speak to my son so shut him in the room and spent about 2 hours trying to clean up and get rid of the egg smell.
I can laugh about it now, but now I will never close my door and nap while Mr. 2 is by himself.
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Ha ha, I've just come back from a break and this thread is great!
My lazy confession is that I made my LO do baby led weaning because I'm too lazy to make food for her and food for us - so basically she never ever got a puree or mushed up meal but was straight onto "solid" solids! Friend think it's cos I'm a bit of a "greeny" but I know inside it's cos I'm lazy!!!
Also on our recent trip what toys my 15 month old couldn't fit in a tiny rucksak that she was capable of carrying didn't come with us!!
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to all the lazy mums on this forum,
months back i read a book by stephanie calman titled confessions of a bad mother. it's really light reading but enjoyable and reassuring to a lazy mum like me :)
anyway, in the book she mentioned a website she started and i found it this morning! it's like this thread except it has a dedicated website. enjoy and have a good laugh!
http://www.badmothersclub.co.uk/jsp/index.jsp?lnk=000
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