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georgie10
19 yrs ago
Miss Four (just turned) has decided that she "doesnt like daddy anymore" and not interested in cuddling or kissing him. Nothing really different has happened to merit this. Dad is a pilot, away haphazzardly, and this is no different to her. She seems to be more independant now "I'll do it by myself" and "Close the door please. I dont want to be disturbed!" and the like! Dad as taken enormous offence to this and has taken it quite badly. Any ideas? Thanks in advance.
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Don't force the issue...this too shall pass.
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Kmom
19 yrs ago
yeah, normally not a big deal to 4 year olds who is trying to transition from being a dependent toddler to an independent child. If adults blow it up, then it becomes an issue. Continue the attention, love and support and as Ruth said, this too shall pass. It is a phase, most of the time very short and she will bounce back to her usual self in no time. Good luck
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
Been there too! As suggested above, try not to make a big deal of it. A few positive comments about Daddy, but don't labour the point. My husband travels quite a bit and I'm at home full time, so our daughter's a real 'Mummy's girl'. She really shows it when she's ill and only wants me. Cannot say that my husband isn't bothered by it, but tries to treat it as a phase. It's partl' 'I don't like boys' (did not want to invite boys in her classto her birthday party etc.). They do get over it.
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Georgie10, having seen your other post about smacking I wonder if this is the same Daddy?
If it is your ex that she is rejecting (and that you're refering to in this post) then I'm sure he's probably smacked her before and you've not known about it and this now helps to explain the rejection.
If it's your current partner (sorry, have no idea of your family situation and it's not clear to me) that she's rejecting, then it could also be a reaction to the way the other Daddy is treating her.
Either way, people have given you lots of good advice on you other thread.
Hope you get things sorted and Little MIss Four is doing OK.
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Hi Spicegal, Same Dad. No other signficant male. Yes, he is harder on her than I am but there is no excuse for his fit of rage yesterday and the way he took it out on her. I feel so sad for my little sausage. She had been soooo good all day and pleasant and charming and then all that transpired - well, what can I say? He is truly a disturbed man. And yes, I am keeping him away from her as I find him unstable. Thanks for your concern.
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