Cheating Husband

We are both gwailos, have lived in Hong Kong for 6 years,my husband informed me after 30 years of marriage that he would be sleeping with Chinese women. I love sex, so no problem there. He did not want me anymore just them. I found out he had three on the go (definite proof not a myth), who did not know about each other and they knew he was married. I left him. He thought I was weird for splitting up with him. Just wondered if it was a problem over here, as I have heard of so many instances of this happening?

There are some who are highly skilled in pleaseing men. I've had a painful lesson.

happens everywhere worldwide.

Not too sure if you are actually posting here asking for advices,help or not.But one things for sure you are NOT weird.He should be the ONE who is rather weird!And he still got the cheek to tell you he's sleeping with someone else and find you weird....


Wonder if he's standing in your position how would he've feel.....Ummm

infidelity is a world wide phenomenon.

I'm sure its a case of the "exotic" Asian women seeming more appealing than the stable and comfortable parter of over 30 years!


I would not take it as a reflection of you and your investment in your relationship... given the scenarios you have described, its sufficient to say you did the right thing!


As for being weird... you're alright girl! The path ahead is more about what next for you and less about his predilictions!! So focus on you! :)

Yes it is a problem here, and elsewhere in Asia. Infidelity is certainly a world wide phenomenon, but a key difference is that even the sleaziest, old, pot-bellied, Western slob can find a cute babe to make him feel like he's Brad Pitt.


I see it as a kind of mid-life (age regardless) crisis for the men who fall into the trap of allowing their egos (and whatever else!) to be massaged to the point where fantasy takes the place of real meaning in life.


I'm not saying this is wrong - each to their own! - though it's terribly sad for the women they hurt.


I've lived in Hong Kong long enough to see the results time after time. The inevitable lack of emotional depth to the bloke's new 'relationship' leads to further infidelities - a constant chase after the next heroin-like 'fix' for the ego. A previously decent bloke turns into a superficial a**.


Some men wake up after a period, and realize there is more to life than stunted emotions and limited intellectual stimulation, however visually appealing the fluff. Some men don't.


Good for you Jonni, for having the guts to stand up for your dignity and take charge of your own life. I hope it works out for you.