Pattern of behaviour

Hi everyone,my son is 3-1/2yrs, he doesn't bully, but he has this best pal of his who actually hits him,boxes, kicks hiom etc, and my son wouldn't do a thing, he doesn't talk much with outsiders as much he does with us, I keep telling him to talk back and tell his friend not to hit, but he won't say it. On the other hand I was called by my son's teacher and told of his method of playing,he wouldn't talk much but when anyone is playing he would slowly creep in and start to interfere in their game by slowly moving the blocks or put some toy in between and interupt their game but not rough very slowly, take a toy and not give it back and when the other kid gives up then he wouldn't be interested in the toy anymore, teacher says it won't be good in the long run. He does the same with his older sister, attention span woudn't be for too long and then when he's fedup he would start destroying the game,making noise etc.I'm always teacing him, I can't remember any instance where we played without any interuption from him, & i end up scolding him!How should I deal with this behaviour. At times I feel he wants to join in the game but no one knows it because he wouldn'talk,he would only show it by actions.

Whats actually bothering me is his style of playing with other kids, would opnly share if he wanted to, he wouldn't comply with how the other kids want to play, but very silently and slowly without a tantrum and fuss. Will this behaviour get better with age?

He might benefit from one on one time with you or your husband. Sounds like he is looking for attention and finding that bad attention gets more of a reaction. Take him out alone and do fun learning activities with him or in a group with other kids his age. This too shall pass, but please try to accommodate his needs soon.

Thanks Ruth,

I am a sthm, i give a lot of my time to him. May be as u said he wants to be completely alone with his parents and get complete attention. We'll try that. Cheers.

Hi Missmuffett - I have replied to your other thread - I see you posted these quite some time ago and was wondering how you and your son are doing?