wonder if there's anyone out there who's kinda like me, HK chinese raised abroad and now having problems with traditional parents after return?
I suppose I'm not the only loser who still lives at home at the age of 26?
Anyway, my mum is not very happy with me seeing bf frequently. He travels a lot, so I thought I'd balance by living with him when he is here, and living at home when he is not here. I have no choice, she doesn't seem to understand.. they've met a couple of times before and like each other. The best theory is, "why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free"?? come on, the cow may or may not the milk regardless of it being free or not?!?!
Maybe it is a rather childish complaint for many of you, but I imagine I wouldn't be the only one with this problem? sigh...
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just live your life and show them you are adult enough to take care of yourself... while u can, try getting your own pad.
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No...that won't. Believe me, parents will always treat you as a child, no matter how old you are. And being Chinese, they will always think they have the authority and the right to run your life!
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I can take care of myself after being alone for 10+ years, which she seems to forget. Although I try to be adult enough to spend more time with her when bf is not in town, but seems like it's never enough. I cannot believe today there are still parents who believe that their daughters should "play the games right" by limiting herselves (excuse my village english, haha) to see the bfs, cos otherwise the boys would not want to get married with them!
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haha, i understand how you feel. I'm 19 at the moment (almost 20), born in HK, but was raised overseas my entire life. Especially after I left home for university two years ago, my mom is always on my back, especially when I'm back in HK for summer holidays. My mom still tells me that "nice girls" dont go out after 10 pm, and that men don't like girls that are "like that".
I don't have to put up with my mom not liking my boyf as I'm single, but she still nags me about everything else that I do differently from every other local HK girl. My advice is that there's nothing you can do about it, but put up with it. That's what I do. Afterall, all she can do is talk, talk, and talk some more. In the end, she can't control what you do.
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Heck, i know how you feel. Get a job, if u have one, Earn and save, Buy an appartment. They have no say... you are 26! U have your own life to live... I'm 17 and had him (my bf) since i was 12 without my parents knowing. When they found out they were furious but they could not do anything. Same goes for you, u decide to live ur life, they cant do anything!
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I think it's time to move out of your parents' place. Why not move in full time with the bf? Or does he have a problem with that?
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I like stay at home with my parents~ I love them so much~ I can't stay full time with my bf because I feel lose personal space to do anything that Iwant to do.
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thank god I am not the only one! you are right, the best way to solve this problem is to move out..bf invited me before but I said no, maybe im stupid? we practically live together anyway, so I don't feel the need to rush things. so are there any "smooth" ways to let my mum understand? I love her very much and want her to accept and be happy for me...but maybe I am asking too much. is it possible?
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