Girlfriends

Why are relationships with female friends so much more difficult than those with male friends?


Recently, I have been so disappointed by two female friends.


Girl #1 moved here when her boyfriend came over to do his MBA. When her boyfriend had difficulty finding a job upon graduation, I spoke to a good friend in investment banking who eventually helped him to find a job. I even helped her fine-tune her resume and cut out job ads for her. But when I had some problems at one point in time, she tried to take financial advantage of me by offering some "help".


Girl #2 and I are flatmates. I often treated her - dinner, drinks etc- and even cooked extra portions for her when I prepared meals at home. When I go on business trips, I also remember to buy her a gift. But I've caught her using my things without asking for permission on a few occassions. She also stole some of my cosmetics recently.


Sometimes I wonder what I did to deserve such "friends". How can someone be so unlucky to keep getting such "friends"?


Any thoughts anyone?

For starters I have often found that 'flating' with other girls leeds to disaster .... even when you have established a close relationship first its something about woman and their territory lol

You seem a bit like me - bleeding heart always thinking of others first, trying to make others happy even at the expensive of yourself .....

Dont get me wrong this is not a bad thing its good but it means you may need to be a little more selective on your friends to make sure they do not take advatage of your nature

Maybe those girls are not really your friends rather some leech who're just there to take advantage of your helpful nature. I've known women who saw the opportunity of getting some previledges being my friends and it was all bonding and fun in the beginning. I even looked past at the many times they have taken for granted some important moments in my life, telling myself that if I am a real friend, I would understand. But when trying real times came, they were nowhere to be found.


Doesn't it always makes you feel good to be able to help a friend even if you get nothing in return? But I think we have to be able to set limits as to how far we can help and lend a hand because unfortunately, there will always be people (friends & family included) who will not find it enough to be able to eat on your hands, they will reach out to finish your whole arms too.

You sound like a great person and it's only natural you expect others to treat you the same way as you treat them. Unfortunately there are many who will take you for granted and not give you the same support back, but that's not why you are so nice right. Being a nice, unselfish, thoughtful person comes naturally to you which you should be proud of in this day and age where people have become so out for themselves, greedy etc. Although your kind nature makes you an easy target for others to lean on or use, don't let that change you because you are perfect! Don't take it personally and keep being the great person you are and you will meet other great people just the same. ps... just because you're so nice doesn't mean you can't tell someone how you feel!

female to female... always has opposition... PRIDE than withthe opposite sex... Distance is key... Try the distance