dear full time working mums. what time do you get home from work? do you get to see bubs before they are in bed and asleep? the very earliest i can get home is 7pm and bubba is already asleep!!! :((( it's hard...
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hi, so far I have managed to get away at 5.30 almost every day - rush home, do the bath, milk and book... It is very hard, I have been asking for part-time ( back in UK, I would have got it no problem, in the same firm) - here it is like asking to be sent to the moon or something...
It is very hard, and I think it is hardest on Mums (the guilt is just unbearable).. There is not much i can advise i am afraid? can you take work home - go home at 5 or something and then work a bit more once the babe is in bed? not ideal I know..:(
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lasez
19 yrs ago
I try to leave office at 6 sharp and get home by 7pm. My LO goes to bed around 8.30pm. Most of my friends put their LO to bed around 10pm. So to them, 8.30pm is very early. I would prefer to work part-time but it is not an option in HK. If I'm in the US office, then it is possible. There's nothing I can do about it other than accept that it is the culture of the company. :-(
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phsu
19 yrs ago
I leave the office around 5:30 and am usually home by 6. The kids go to bed around 8 and then I work from home if necessary.
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I try to leave around 6pm and get home before 7pm. Bub sleeps at 8 so I still have roughly an hour to take him for a short walk, bathe and nurse him. Yes it's hard and I hate to think I've missed his most active hours during the day.
Sashimi how old is your bub? Is it possible to push his sleep time a bit later so you can at least get to see him awake? My bub is on Gina Ford and for the first few months he slept at 7 too. A few weeks before I get back to work I tried to gradually adjust his sleep time so instead of 7-7 he now does 8-8. It won't do any harm from my point of view.
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The guilt of not spending enough time with the little ones is the worst. I'm getting completely stressed out if I get stuck in a traffic jam and get home even later. Most days I make it between 6:30 and 7pm. I extended his sleeping time from 7:30 to 8 than 8:30 pm. He's 2 yrs. now. He wakes up a 7 am and we do bfast together than he brings me to the bus stations. That gives me some quality time in the evening and morning. He sleeps 2 1/2 hrs at lunch so the 8:30 pm to 7 am it good enough for him. Try to extend you little ones bed time bit by bit.
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i would like to push bubby's bedtime back to 8.30. that would be perfect. however, he is only 3 months old... and he is just not lasting till then. he's not much of a day sleeper but i will try to get our helper to get him to nap more during the day. will this help? or is he just too young to have a 8.30 bedtime?
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You may try to push back 10-15 min every few days to a week. See if he can adapt to it?
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Hi,
My bub is 4 months tomorrow, I went back to work nearly a month ago and have found it very hard. I get home around 8:00 / 8:30pm, bath & feed bub and put to her bed by 9:30pm. We managed to push the time out by having bubs have a sleep at 5:30pm for 30 mins or so.
I would love to be part time - but if I even mentioned it the sharks would start circling and my career at the firm would be toast. So every morning I wake up at 5:30 / 6:00am feed and play with my bub and come to work at the same time as I did before she popped out. I'm exhausted but what choice does a new mum have who has a job?
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Oh & I am breast feeding - so feed babe 3 times during the night 9:30pm, 12:30pm (ish) & 3:00am.
I express during the day...feel a bit like a cow :) The pumping during the day helps me to feel closer to her.
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@@
19 yrs ago
I am so impressed by all of you women!!! I believe what is important is what you do with the time you do have.
You may not be able to be there with the children all day but at least you make the most of the time you do have.
Don't feel guilty, your babies know you love them and they also get a great role model.
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jele
19 yrs ago
Thank you @@!
I work also and have 2 children. But sometimes when you listen to non working mothers, you feel very sad. You just think "oh, I see them only few hours per day; I am really a bad mother for them".
But NO: we must feel confident: we are very good mothers also.
I remember for my children, I was arranging their "timetables" to mine. They were sleeping longer the afternoon, and like this I can see them.
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hi I envy you all working mom..for now im joblesss, still searching and wanted to give my daughter a good future. Im a single mom and woul want to give her all the best that i can give. So lets be thankful if we have work. Take care!!
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MayC
19 yrs ago
I'm a working mother too because it isn't possible for us to live on a single income. It is VERY hard especially when my job is fairly demanding.
Initially in the earlier months it was really hard but it got easier when she turned 2 and went to afternoon school.
When she started afternoon school, she would only nap after school, from 5pm-7pm. This meant that I could see her from 7pm - 10.30pm (the time when she would go back to sleep again). It's so much better now because I get to see her more but it's also VERY exhausting for me. I come home at 7pm, gobble my dinner in 5 minutes, feed her, take her out for a walk and do as much as I can with her. If she goes to bed at 11.30pm, that's the time I take my shower and get myself ready for bed. But it is worth every minute of it. Still it is exhausting.
In the earlier months, I would take a cab home from work at lunchtime so I could see her. Sometimes I would come into work REALLY early, at 7am so that I could leave early too. There was also a period of time when she would wake up early at 6am, then nap in the afternoon. I would then adjust my working time from 12noon till late at night.
It's worked for me. Although my helper is with her the whole day, she still wants mummy ;-)
The biggest issue I have to deal with is my exhaustion. As a result of trying to do too much, my wedding ring now slips off my finger so easily. I really have to work harder on finding a proper balance so I'm not overworking myself to due to mother guilt.
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I gave up m job when my bub was born. Now he is 7 months old and I will be returning to work in 2 months. I feel alot of anxiety about being separated from him and leaving him the care of a nanny. I always worry that he will feel that mummy is abandoning him. Especiall now he has started to become very attached to me, reaching out for me whenever he is distressed.
I am very worried that I would not be able to handle the separation anxiety.
;-(
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@@
19 yrs ago
Dear Germaine,
If you have no choice but to work then you really need to give yourself a break.
Your babe may struggle with you leaving in the morning but 5 minutes later will no doubt be distracted and quite happy.
If you have to work, you ARE doing your best for your baby and family. Try and think of what a balanced life you will have, work and family.
Make the most of the time you have with your babe when you can, 30 minutes a day of quality attention. I'm at home with my children but not all of the day is quality time, it's shopping, cooking, school runs and so on.
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