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Katetam
19 yrs ago
Anyone have any idea why my 4 yr old suddenly since July (this summer) wakes up every night at around 3:00am screaming in her bed, or the gate we have at her bedroom door.... she insists on sleeping between my husband and I. I still have my little one in the crib in our room, so sometimes, she will wake up the little one if I don't succumb to her demand. And I have tried to put her back to her bed, I stay with her in her room until she falls back asleep.... but she always end up back in our bed before the morning...
I am really sleep deprived since then because our bed isn't that big, and I cannot force her to stay in her room ! It's like she's got an alarm clock or something. My husband doesn't think it's a big deal, or he thinks it's JUST a phase. I think if we keep allowing this... she will keep doing this as a habit.
Anyone had this experience?
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It could be night terrors. Try to find a way so that the most people can get the most amount of sleep. Maybe a pallet on the floor?
Good luck!
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smsm
19 yrs ago
how old is ur little one....it could be that ur 4 yr old is thinking that mom is sleeping with the LO whereas she has to sleep on her own...i have a 3 yr old who was sleeping pretty ok in her own room till she realised that her 4 month old baby sis is sleeping with momma every night and she has to sleep alone...waking up every nite and crying for me...doesnt stop crying till i go to her....i think its a phase and should pass...planning to make both the sisters sleep tog in her room...
dont worry things will improve...
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Maybe you're right. However, whenever I ask her why she needs to come to OUR bed to sleep. She says, I like YOUR bed. My bed isn't comfortable. I am thinking of changing her mattress... her present one is Ikea.... maybe she's older and heavier now, not comfortable?
We will move baby brother soon too .. to his own room..... hope this is really JUST a phase.....
I am SO tired.....and can sleep anytime anywhere.
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cd
19 yrs ago
Just buy yourself a bigger bed. I always loved the kids sleeping in my bed. My 5 and 8 year old still often do, especially if their dads away.
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Kimmi
19 yrs ago
Yes you could either buy a bigger bed or a little mattress for your floor. Hopefully its phase like your hubby says and eventually she will stay in her own bed. What I did with my 4 year old was start a 'star chart' and for every night she stayed in her own bed all night she got a star, if she got seven in a row then she got a little treat like an icecream or something. Mine now has just started to come to our bed again. I think its because she has just started primary 1. Im now thinking of buying a king size as my son co-sleeps with us too, hes 16 months. My hubby is well over 6ft, so you can imagine the bed is pretty crowded
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Buying a bigger bed would of course solve this problem, but so many people keep telling me DO NOT allow your children to start this "co-sleeping" habit..... so I don't know whether I should get to the root of the problem why she doesn't like sleeping on her own, or just get a bigger bed!
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Kimmi
19 yrs ago
Katetam
Do what you feel is right for you and your family. Alot of people dont agree with co-sleeping as they think the child will be in their bed forever, also alot of people are just not comfortable with it. I myself dont see it as a problem. Like cd I love my kids close as they are not babies/kids forever, time goes so, so fast and one day they will leave the nest and who knows travel abroad etc and you many not see them for years and years. Keep them close while you can. Give them the cuddles, love and reasurense they need when they need it. Be it day or night. We co-slept with my first child, shes now 5. She mostly sleeps in her own bed now as she likes her own comfort. We now co-sleep with my son whom is 16 months. Saying all that. Its not for everyone. Katetam. Go with the flow, see how it goes, do whats right for you and dont worry about it. You are NOT doing the wrong thing> GOOD LUCK
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cd
19 yrs ago
Agree 100% with Kimmi. And as a parent whose oldest is just about to fly the nest (she leaves for Uni next week), I can tell you that they really do grow up so fast. Its frightening how quickly the years have gone. So please do make the most of these 'young' years, if she's wants some extra cuddles for a few months then do it, before long she'll be at big school and so independant, and those special snuggles in bed will be fewer and fewer.
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we don't co-sleep but my 18 month old loves diving into ours first thing in the morning when he gets up. i guess the scent of his parents in a big comfy bed is very appealing!
if you are not keen on co-sleeping....and your kid is already 4, can you negotiate with her, say mummy and daddy need their big bed and she can come in during the weekends only as a special treat? i have no personal experience, just trying my luck here!
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