sorry, two questions in one here...
after successfully sleep training bubs (8 months) with the pick up/put down method, he has gone back to frequent night wakings and i am not able to settle him unless i pick him up and rock him - until he falls asleep. so basically it's all screwed up again. i am very sure that these sudden night wakings are due to his separation anxiety kicking in. so what do you do when this happens? i've had to sleep with him on a mattress on the floor (in his room) for the past 3 nights. so can you sleep train while they are having separation anxiety?? and also when i tried to train him the other night, he cried until he vomited. i really don't want that to keep happening... what can i do?
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These things come and go. Our daughter went through it 3 times IIRC. First at around 7 months, then 10, then 15 or so. It's as if they fall off the wagon.
Do the same things you did last time and in time it shall pass. But be tough (mostly on yourself). He is trying to control you (it's natural) but you need to let him know who is boss. Show that you love him but firmly ensure he gets to sleep "on his own". Making him dependent on you now only causes trouble later.
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changes all the time - just when you think you cracked it - something else happens like teeth, colds etc etc - knocks them out of their routine. Got news for you (not so good I am afraid!! sorry!) - ours are still like it at 20 months... Some good weeks some bad... motherhood, huh?
He should not be used to you sleeping there tho - hence the separation anxiety... Maybe let him cry a little - you know 15 min, then go in for 2 min, then 15 min again?
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it happens but first of all:
STOP ROCKING YOUR BABY
it will do you no good in the long run.
i wouldn't sleep with him on the mattress either - my toddler is almost 2 and we've only done that once when he was extremely sick.
what i would do is lie next to him when he's in the cot and you on the mattress and gradually try to move further away every night...i understand the need to reassure him but at the same time, don't make things worse in the long run by introducing poor sleep associations. he might decide that he will only go to sleep next to you next time.
good luck.
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yes, normally i could just pat him back to sleep without picking him up and that worked perfectly. however now (just in the last two week) he is putting his arms up to be carried and if i don't pick him up he will cry so hard until he vomits!!! and if i lie down on the mattress without him he will just keep crying. it seems my voice and reassurance just isn't working anymore... i was worried that when they are having separation anxiety that is not a good time to sleep train?? or just continue as usual...?
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Children are quite capable of crying so hard they vomit. Some cry so hard they faint (at which point the problem solves itself). The important thing is not to give in. While of course you should check for poo or whatever, if you give in you just make it worse in the long run.
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