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bebe1
18 yrs ago
I am currently 5 months pregnant and would definately like to breastfeed.
I understand that there will be some sagging and reduction in size, which I am learning to come to terms with. After all, what is a bit of sagging when you have your precious child in return!!
My question is, and I don't think anybody really asks this is; do you lose some of the sensation in your nipples after months of breastfeeding?
It might be a bit too much info, but I am one of those women who derive quite a bit of sexual pleasure from the boobs compartment, and I wonder if anyone has experienced any difference in sensation in the area after breastfeeding.
Some women might find it bizaar that a mother-to-be would even ask this kind of question, but I would really like to know. I thought I would post it under 'Parenting Advice' since a lot of the women who frequent these threads would be experienced in breastfeeding.
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According to my wife - no!! And not a strange question, you are not expected to become a nun after having children!
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bebe1
18 yrs ago
evildeeds,
Thank you for your input on this! Just out of curiosity, how long did your wife breastfeed for?
Anyone else out there who can give me some insight?
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Not a bizarre question at all.
My wife chimes in and says that her sensation is the same as before.
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crj
18 yrs ago
From a woman.... who breast fed my first for 13 months and is still breastfeeding my second at 10.5 months...
While I am breastfeeding, I fear 'leakage' so, after a while came up with a good solution - wear a sexy bra to bed for sex!! Show off the cleavage, and any leaks go in the bra...
When done with breast feeding, I expect no difference from before in terms of sensitivity.
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While we're on the TMI train I will say that as a guy I personally don't mind a bit of leakage. No huge deal. It annoys my wife more. Other guys may feel differently of course.
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crj
18 yrs ago
The issue that many woman have, is that there are a lot of changes to your body... oddly, the change to boob shape and sensitivity is the least of it! You might have stretch marks, or fat where you didn't have it before...
This might lead to some embarassment or being shy about your body with your husband.
On the other hand, you might be more open with your husband since you have been through this amazing experience together, and he looks at you in much more awe than ever before with more love you both thought possible.
It is sometimes hard when you view your body as a vessel for babies and birth and feeding, to then view it as sexy...
There are also hormonal issues - some woman get very interested in sex after birth and while breast feeding, and say it heightens their enjoyment - while others are quite the opposite.
And our bodies, are AMAZING... for some reason, when you breast feed, your nipples will not be 'sensitive', and won't hurt (once you do it right and you and the baby are in a good position - which takes some practice), and when you have sex, your nipples go back to being sensitive for sex (albeit, with a bit of leaking :( It is like your body knows it has different roles at different times...
It is great to see two husbands reply on this thread, to hear what they think.
The reality is, while it is different for every woman, and every couple, it isn't bad, it is just different. It just might take some time to adjust to your new life as a family, your new relationship as a couple, your new body, etc...
Good luck!!
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crJ has summed it all up.
Change in size defintely. AS far as sensitivity goes, mine actually got more sensitive than less.
Leakage, yes, but hubby doesnt think have the slightest issue with it.
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Some of us guys are sensitive to these issues too, especially when we've been through the whole pregnancy and birth situations with our wives.
As axptguy said we don't mind a bit of leakage, it happens but we are still there being intimate with our wives. Eventually that goes away anyway and I think my wife is probably more sensitive in the boob area than before!
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bebe1
18 yrs ago
* evildeeds and axptguy38 -
Really good to hear all of what you have said, and good to get the hubbies' point of view on this matter. You guys are such supportive husbands to your wives.
* All the sexy mommas who has shared your insights with me -
It gives me great relief that sex can be as enjoyable (or better in some cases) post-partum. As for the leakage issue, I will keep your suggestions in mind (sexy bra, in the shower, etc.). I guess we just need to get creative with certain areas, and that's cool!
As crj said, I think that going through this pregnancy and childbirth together as a couple will make our love stronger than ever before. I already feel that my husband looks at me and my belly even more lovingly than before, and even sex has never been better. It is the thought of creating a new life between us that bonds us even stronger.
Phew.. this whole boob thing has been on my mind for a while, and now, thanks to all of you, I can put it all behind me and concentrate on being a better mom to my unborn child.
Oh, and next week, we get to find out the sex of our baby! So excited!!!
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Well hope it's a girl if you want a agirl or boy if you want a boy!!
do be prepared for the fact that sometimes you will want to have sex, but you'll be just sooooooooo exhausted.
and ofcourse that sweet babe that looked like she/he was indeep sleep will often go waaaaaaaaaaaaaa jsut when things get interesting.....
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yep! I think that IS the main issue - whether you would get around to having much sex after the baby!! you are soooooooo exhausted indeed - and we talking years I suspect, not months!! Good luck!!
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Not to be the negative one, but I breast fed both of my children for 7-8 months each and lost most sensation in my nipples. My youngest in 3 and it still takes a lot for me to feel anything and I used to be very sensitive in that area.
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bebe1
18 yrs ago
jjhjmh,
If you don't mind me asking, at what point did u lose the sensation? Was it with your first child? Do you know if this happens to a lot of women?
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bebe1,
I lost some of the sensation after wheening my first. And I have to say, the feeling came back while I was pregnant with my second, but after wheening him, I seemed to have even less sensation. I do not know if this happens to other women, as I was never bold enough to ask, which makes this forum kind of nice. Honestly though, if I had to do it all over again, I still would breast feed. It was worth it for the children and I do still have some feeling, but just not as good as before.
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bebe1
18 yrs ago
Thanks so much for sharing your side of the story, jjhjmh.
I am sure at whatever cost, breastfeeding your own child is worth it.
If it does happen to me, I guess my husband and I would need to find another hot button that works! :)
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:-))
18 yrs ago
I have been breastfeeding for 3 out of the past 4 years (2 babies, with a gap in the middle) and am happy to report no loss of sensation in nipples. I also never have a problem with leakage since the first couple of months, when the breasts were overproducing.
The only problem I have is that when my baby is breastfeeding frequently, I need a break from people making physical demands of my body, which can make me less receptive to my husbands' advances... together with the tiredness issue, we definitely have sex less than before.
BTW apparently it is not breastfeeding but pregnancy which is responsible for breasts sagging. When pregnant, lots of the fat cells are converted into milk ducts, and then when the milk dries up (regardless of whether you start BF or not) the breasts will shrink. It might not be so obvious to someone who never breastfeeds because they will still have the pregnancy fat, therefore fuller breasts, compared to someone who breastfeeds for several months and then weans when they have lost the pregnancy fat.
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bebe1, if it really worries you, just dont breasfeed. I didnt, not even for one day - not for the reason you are worried about tho.. And mine two are in no way different from any breastfed babies. And it made my life a lot easier. It is every woman's choice - you dont have to do it if you are not sure or just do it for a few weeks..
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bebe1
18 yrs ago
:-)), -
Thank you for sharing your experience. I don't expect to be having a lot of recreational sex after the birth of the baby, as I can see from people around me that caring for a newborn will lead to exhaustion. But hopefully, we will be able to find some time for some canoodling and more... :)
For the sagging, I have also read somewhere that it is not due to breastfeeding, but is an effect of the pregnancy. Well, it isn't easy to be a mom... I have come to accept that as a fact....
ldsllvn, -
Yes, I agree that breastfeeding is every woman's choice, and I do not agree with people who criticize women who choose not to breastfeed. I am definately weighing out my options, but I think I would at least like to give it a try. Maybe a few times, a few weeks, months... who knows?
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:-))
18 yrs ago
bebe1, you obviously don't need any persuading to breastfeed, but just from an interest point of view, the way I look at it, why give powdered and processed food if real natural food is readily available at little personal cost?
I don't agree that bottle feeding is easier than breastfeeding. The latter may take more practice to get the hang of (depending on the individual), but once you are away then there is no washing up, no need to carry anything except nappy stuff when you go out for the first 6 months, and IMHO the babies cry less, perhaps due to getting their needs met faster and having fewer digestive problems. Plus there are proven health benefits to breastfeeding, and some research to suggest that it may even protect against diseases such as cancers in later life.
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:-)) that is your choice and there are other people's choices, learn to respect them.
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bebe1
18 yrs ago
I had not planned on making this thread become a debate on breastfeeding, or the choice not to.
I am well-informed of the benefits of both options and it is a choice I need to make. But like I said, I will probably try out the breastfeeding before I ever make the choice not to. Or perhaps, I may not even have a choice.. who knows?
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Loss of nipple sensation is generally not a common occurrence associated with breastfeeding.
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bebe1
18 yrs ago
Matilda, are there other reasons for loss of nipple sensation?
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I'm a breastfeeding mum of a 3 month old and I can say that if anything, there is a definite increase in sensitivity -- sometimes painfully so! -- but don't be discouraged, the learning curve is fairly quick!
My husband personally doesn't mind leaking breasts (but they do bother me at times!) Check out hot milk lingerie. I find the lingerie here incredibly sexy and they have suppliers in HK yay! http://www.hotmilklingerie.co.nz/
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bebe1
18 yrs ago
Thanks, Nashua852, but I was referring to the sensation AFTER months/years of breastfeeding.
oh, thanks for sharing the info on Hot Milk Lingerie! Their products look great! Will deifinately check it out closer to the due date..
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