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qwerty123
18 yrs ago
if my husband tries to do the 10.30 feed it doesnt work! when he picks up our 5 month son the wee thing will scream and scream till i come in and then calms down. Will not take a bottle from him..is fine with him during the day when he is around.....any tips on how to get him used to daddy feeding him then!
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The only tip I can recommend is giving it time and breaking the pattern.
If baby doesn't want daddy right now, stop offering daddy for a while. In a week or two, baby will have forgotten all about why he is angry with daddy. Then you try again.
This works with older kids too btw. You just need a longer interval. Our favorite parenting book says more or less the following when 2/3-year olds scream when they should have their hair washed: "Don't wash it for a month (just use a damp cloth). In a month it's all new and exciting again."
We have a problem right now where #1 doesn't want to go to bed. She yells and cries and generally carries on. Last night we went to dinner and let our helper put her to bed. There were no tears and no fuss.
It's all about breaking the pattern.
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crj
18 yrs ago
axpat guy - THANK YOU.... our 2 yr old won't let us cut his nails for two weeks... he has claws... (and he normally is great about it and loves it)... we will do as you suggested and STOP TRYING... and maybe he will be interested again soon.... in the meantime will just hope he doesn't scratch anyone!
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Good luck!
Maybe if you have guests (that you know well) you can have them ask your son if he wants them to cut his nails.
This tactic worked great when our 2 year old didn't want her teeth brushed. We had guests that evening and I asked her if she wanted Gina (guest) to brush them. She nodded. Teeth were brushed thoroughly.
I'm not a child psychologist but as I figure it you have to allow them to back down without losing face. So if the kids has said "no" to both parents, eventually backing down means loss of face. But agreeing to someone else means that they are technically not submitting to your demands. ;)
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"my boy shares a room with his 1 year old sister. every night, he fusses for about 30 seconds before it's bedtime. he KNOWS, i'm not going to change my mind. AND i've introduced the "quiet game". we have to whisper and walk on tip toes so as not to wake baby sister."
That does work. Of course now little sister has learned too. She didn't say even wake up during big sister's tantrum. I don't know whether this is good or bad... :S
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