poor tai tai

I am starting to feel the empty nest syndrome

lately, kids getting big and having their own interests and hubby busy with travelling and work.

Working again will not be the solution as I need to

travel along with my partner at times. Anyone out there who is in the same situation? What do you do in idle moments? I have called a charitable organization but they do not encourage you a lot to

participate. Any advises?

Yes, I know that feeling. Tried to volunteer at HK Dog Rescue? Or SPCA? They usually appreciate all the help they can get.

I know the feeling. I'm in similar situation except my 2 kids are still young. My husband travels alot. I stopped working 2 and a half years ago because I couldn't find the balance between work and family life. Work culture in HK really requires many hours!! I tried filling days with manicures, massages, lunch with old colleagues and volunteer work...but I'm getting bored with that life because I'm just not really into that lifestyle. Other people think I'm really lucky living a luxury lifestyle...and I do feel lucky....just brain dead most of the time!! Well, if u ever come up with something interesting to do...let me know.

TT mum, I burst into a smile reading that! I am over the whole manicures lunches followed by volunteer work...sometimes I go out for a girls night...and we drink,dance,have fun..and its all pure girls night only. Men do approach,but we know better,and our aim is to be out having a fun happy time.Other times we do catch up for a movie...but it all has to be juggled..must be hard with 2 small kids but..most socialising takes place at night...and how many cooking classes does one sign up for,all manicures etc.. to pass all those hours in a day?Think there should be a book club? Or a venue to hang out in,have a coffee,talk..or get women with similar interests and issues..and do something...tango lessons?Art appreciation? Pole dancing?Hmmmm...what does one do...? If you have any suggestions,do tell.

Hi Tt Mum, everything you have just jot done is exactly how it is with my life, but you have little kids - a little different in some ways. Also, with conversation with your partner, does he talk all about his work, work and what happen to work at the end of the day? I don't know if I am just being sensitive but when we talk I feel he is so self centered that he all talk about is his work.

Hi,


I am working fulltime so not in the same position. However, I have a little one and we hope to have more. I have often thought, what would I do if left work and then was in the situation you discribe. Here are my ideas:


- complete another degree or - part time / couple of papers at a time. *If you don't have a degree you can complete a bridging exam.

- search for charities (do an internet search) that need volunteers. Animal rescue, Women's Choice, the Elderly etc. There is a wonderful organisation called Ho Sum which matches volunteers with charities. Do an internet seach under www.ho-sum.com

- learn something new e.g. local language - Cantonese or Mandarin. My friend learnt Chinese painting and is now teaching it, she has 15 pupils she teaches weekly.

- really get into the gym / body awareness e.g. pole dancing as mentioned above (hubby would love that), have a gym buddy and commit to 2-5 sessions a week when you're in town.

- you could take the gym thing one step further and take a Yoga or Spin instructor course. The Yoga course for example takes quite a few months to complete and once you are done you can obtain instructor qualifications and teach. This is something you could do on a flexible basis with some gyms.

- learn professional level massage - hubby and the family will love this. Again you could take it one step further and take a part time beauticians course.


These are just some of my ideas, hope it helps.


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