NOW EX.. had you experience this horror?

Boyfriend, send me an e-mail asking me to connect later at night on the msn, since he have to tell me something.


at night we connected and well... BTW he just come back from a trip from singapore.


conversation by msn

B/F :baby i just want to let you know that during my trip to singapore i when out every night with the boys and ...


me: what happen?


B/F : I got STD just a drunken mistake and i sleep with someone without protection


me: what????


I was in shocked and very engry ... of course I try to call but he didn’t answer the phone..


and you can guess the rest, this conversation was by msn and I told him off etc. when he come back from the trip I asked him as a joke if he sleep with any one since he mention that he when out very often...


of course next day first thing I did I when to see doctor and he told me right away ( if you B/F have it for sure you have it... did all kind of testing and get shoots antibiotics etc. seems like I'm ok now


my question is why guys (girls) wait until they have some issues (STD) to let their steady partner know that they sleep around without protection?

is in it in western world is common since to use protection...

this is very scary... why people cant be transparent

and at least protect themselfs


sorry about this but is way to embarrassing to share with people I know

Yes, it is common to use protection when fooling around, especially when you're cheating in the US. Especially in people who care about themselves and are intelligent. Why anyone would have unprotected sex with a stranger is beyond me. Perhaps they think that "it will never happen to me."


As far as your bf waiting until he had an STD to tell you he had been fooling around... well, that's not surprising. Why would he tell you and risk you dumping him?


I'm sorry it happened to you! All you can do is move on from here.

Oh, jeez, it's not an Eastern/Western thing, it's a "it won't happen to me just this once" thing, which is pretty universal. Perhaps in the West we have been a BIT more educated about STDs; but that really depends when and where, what with fundamentalists challenging the validity and nature of sex ed classes.


So, what was the REAL mistake...him sleeping with someone else, or him not using protection?

I'm not quite sure from your letter, but he told you he had STD after he'd slept with you after KNOWING he had STD, or just after knowing he's not used protection? All in all, either way it seems like three strikes for the guy in my book. That's an American idiom for he's OUT...

I hope you have both had an HIV test.

At least he did tell you he had an STD, and did not wait until you found out the nasty way, after you've caught it from him....

That part is somewhat reponsible and show that he cares for your health, whathever a cheat he might have been.

Thank him for that, and seriously reconsider your relationship with him (for me, he would be out, very likely)

Thansk all,


for your reply... well first just adding something to this issue

I agree with rechelhk ... in not where are you from is hoe ingnorant or living in denial can people be.

the situation got bad when during a sex... he remove protection saying thta he wanted me to have hes baby... which is totally nuts since at that time we were seeying each other for just few months.


And of course I run to see the doctor medication all kind of posible test thank goodness negative..


Mayita... I assumed you r female... I'm not very sure about your reply since look like you r either making funof the situation/ very innocent or think I'm stupid...

I don't think I want to go true this again and definitelly will stay away for good .


"At least he did tell you he had an STD," this is the forst thing doctor tell you to do when you catch STD BTW


thanks all again after all I'm out of it and clear and safe...

cheers

Xiamen, sorry i mis-explained myself...

Didn't mean to make any fun of the situation..... but someone i know in my familly had long term relationship (means that after a while they dropped the condoms and used the pill only) with a guy who, it appeared later, was infected with hepathitis B (don't remember the letter, though it's the one that is sexually transmissible).... and this guy never actually bothered to tell her..... so at least, pls. appreciate the fact that he told you... and whatever your future make sure to use condoms and don"t get kids with this wacco (at least until he's cured from his STD).

Btw, she did not catch anything bad, but i must tell you she felt really really bad from the moment she knew about his disease to the moment she got an "all clear" from the doc (1st lab test + 2nd screening a few months later to tackle the "incubation period").... needless to say she went for a high spectrum screening, incl. HIV.... with such a liar, you never know.....

Sorry Mayita,


I didn’t meant to be rude or anything, but just for you to know he remove the condom during the actual act

And that is why we got a fight, cuzz I’m very careful and clean and I heard allot of stories about diseases in asia etc.

Yes I should be glad he contact me, however he didn’t only cuzz ge got sick other wise he wouldn’t say anything

any way thanks for your concern.

BTW he still today recon that HIV is not a sexual transmitted disease but one can get it only via injection (I tell you some people never learn)

Just I learn my big lesion, thanks got HIV test was negative