what is the general consensus on using the word "no"? my plan is to save it for dangerous/urgent situations so it doesn't lose it's effect. am i right? there are other phrases to use like "don't......" or "that's naughty......" etc. i am just interested to hear what other mums and dads do. (bubs is 11 months)
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I find i say "no" a lot to mine two... like Cara said "sit down" - i would probably go "no, darling, dont just on the bed".. no wonder it is their favourite word now! But then I understand all 2 year olds' favouritve word is "no" - whether you use it a lot or not - they will figure out what it means pretty quickly and will use it like it is going out of fashion - so I am thinking - dont worry to much about how much you use it...
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We use the word "stop" instead of "no"...followed by what i want him to do.
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4G
18 yrs ago
I would distract their attention and find something else to do with them, or very gently remove them from the situation , but all the time explaing why you did what you did .
When we explain I think it has more of an effect ,from personal experience.Rather than just shouting no .
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I love Barbara Coloroso's idea. Say 'Yes, later.' if they want something you don't want them to have.
Move everything higher in your home until they can handle breakables. Childproofing!
Never say the child is naughty or bad...say what they did was bad or naughty.
If they are biting you, give them something to chew on, for example. eg This is for biting, not mummy.
Be logical, take your time, don't punish, but do discipline(which means teach)
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There's "no" and "no". If you smile and laugh or frown and look mad the effect is quite different.
"Be logical, take your time, don't punish, but do discipline(which means teach)"
Oh yes. Having said that we do punish now that #1 is over 2 years. Happens very rarely though. No more than once a week but it's tapered off now that she has learned to be nice to #2. Also punishment is only a time-out. No beatings.
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Hubby and I were talking about this the other day.
Bub is mixed, so we decided that since there's no getting around using 'no' in every day conversation for major infractions ;) we'll use the arabic word 'la'. It's a theory, we'll see how it plays out in a couple of years (he's only a few months old hehe)
Also, yes can be just as defiant as no;
"Mummy can I have this toy"
"No, not today sweetie"
"YES, yes yes yes!
We're glad our youngest sibling decided to grow up since
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