hi...my boy has been sleeping in the same room as us since born (in his own cot). yes..i know it is long overdue that he needs to be in his room.
now..i m considering to move him to his own room cos we are moving and the new place has a smaller master bedroom, which prompts me to seriously think about moving him to his own room. but the problem is i feel bad! is that normal? cos he does cry at night, often he falls back asleep when he sees us or i go 'shhh shh shh'. i feel bad that when he is in his own room, he wakes with no one, alone! and in the morning, when he wakes, i carry him to sleep between us..and we enjoy tremedously this very special moment cos he loves it and we do too. i know if he is in his own room, i can still carry him over...but i feel bad.... how to overcome this???
i have an option to hack a door between his room and our room in the new place. should i do that to have peace of mind???
unfortunately, he still wake at night and need feeding (once). will i be more tired to have him in his own room? he is genuinely hungry cos i can hear his stomach rumble. let's not talk about training him to eliminate night feed, presume he still need, will that be tiring for me to wake and go to his room to feed ? (he is bottle feed).
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no, no!! time to "train" him, really.. you will feel terrible and you will cry but it is for the best - and they always say that it is much much worse on you than on the baby.
Time he "moves" out - seriously! You have to stop the feeding and you have to move the babe out - tought, but has to be done - it will only get worse and worse, the older they are...
I would maybe just do one thing at a time - try to get him off his feed first, and once he is off - move him.. You really should not need to feed him at night at 14 months... He really does not need it - honestly - it is just his and yours (!) habit...
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well i agree with everything above and i might just add that i've read that the best time to move your kid out of your room is when (and if co-incidently it happens at the same time) you move house. cos they will have to get used to sleeping in a new environment anyway, might as well make it his own room!
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In the "misery loves company" vein, I can say that even with the kid in his/her own room from day 1 the mother tends to feel bad for him/her.
Will agree with the other posters. Time for a change. It will be tough, but mostly for you.
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there are lots of people in asia who sleep with thier child way longer than in western society...it's up to you just do what you feel comfortable with. if you like having him/her with you then you won't have this time again so just do what you feel is right for you and the baby. most co-sleepers move there baby to thier own bed around 2-3 yrs old gradually and it's not traumatic just depends on you and if you are getting annoyed or if you will miss him/her. they are only this little once so don't stress out and enjoy your time, and night time time as well.
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Our son slept inbetween us for the 1st 8 months and then in our room in his own crib until we moved from our one bedroom place to a 3 bedroom place 3½ weeks ago...so he now at 15 months has his own room. He was breastfed through the night at midnight and 4am until 11 month when I put my foot down and said enough and it took 4 nights to adjust him to the new regime.
onestly, why are you afraid to let him cry? It's all about willpower at this age. At 9 WEEKS of age, a baby has the phisiological ability to sleep 7-9 hours straight and if they wake to feed every 4 hours it's because it's a habit, not a need.
I let it keep going with my son as it was not an issue for me until he decided he was happy to go from 7am to 8pm without having boob, but wanted it at 8pm, midnight, 4am and 7am.....not my idea of a good nights sleep.
The very 1st night we slept in our new place, he slept in his own room and there have been no issues. He's woken a cried a few times here and there but it's been teething related rather than fear of abandonment.
Do yourself a favour and give him his own room as soon as you can. The longer you wait the harder it'll be.
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Completely agree with adele78. If you are afraid that he will cry, just wait until he turns 2 and really starts tightening the thumbscrews. You're the boss. Don't be cruel, but be firm.
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i think penny h is right. All four of us in our family went the family bed way and have turned out alright, all three in hubby's faily ahd their own bedroom and turned out alright too.
It's your baby, do what you feel comfortable doing, there is no 'right and only way' to do this.
if u like having him in your room, keep him in your room.
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"there is no 'right and only way' to do this."
Sure, but if you want to move the child, there should be no dithering.
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