Posted by
KmanOz
17 yrs ago
You know for as long as I'v been alive I'v hated going out by myself to a bar or club. I have recently moved here from Aus and find myself in a position to do so because Im getting sick of doing nothing except for work.
When I'm out and know people I'm a very social person and have a ton of friends in Aus. For some reason I just don't like being out there by myself. I think I have some sort of picture in my mind that being out by yourself makes you look like a loser.
Can anyone give me any advise?
Help me out people ...
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Well, do you have any other interests besides going out? Plenty of sports activities have associations and clubs where you can find like minded individuals.
As for looking like a loser when going out by yourself, that all depends on how you behave. If you act somewhat restrained and don't come on too strong as well as don't get too drunk, you should be fine.
I was a road warrior for a few years. Going out to eat by myself was par for the course. I usually sat at the bar. You can always chat with the bartender. ;) Sometimes I sat and read a book. Often I'd strike up conversations with my neighbors, many of whom were also traveling. Being out alone doesn't make you a loser. It just makes you alone.
You can also bypass that whole "alone" stage by going out with colleagues at first.
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totally agree with that, there is absolutely nothing wrong with going out alone, and to be honest it is a way to meet people in it of itself.
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are you a guy or a gal? If the latter, it is more difficult to go out on your own. You could try something like salsa lessons. It is great fun and you can go on your own. There are salsa parties every night in LKF or Wanchai and you will soon see faces you recognise. It is a great way to meet friends. And it is safe for as single woman to go on her own. Many do. Most guys go there just to dance, not to pick up women (that said, guys -n there are lots of pretty women there...). When I first came to HK I knew no-one but I soon got into the salsa scene and have made many friends.
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Kiz27
17 yrs ago
Hey, you might want to look into joining something like Valley (has rugby, netball, hockey teams but no clubhouse so is cheap and very social) not sure if your a a guy or a chick... they have all standards of teams... you can never be too bad in HK, but is great to meet a bunch of new people. The australian Association also have mixers and stuff which can be quite handy when you first arrive.
One of the best things about HK is that most xpats remember what it was like when they arrived, so are ususally pretty welcoming. If you have any particular sports or interests, then let us know and we can probably point you in the right direction
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going out with work colleagues is your short term solution until you find your groove!
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You might want to look up or join the Australian Association - www.ozhongkong.com
They try to introduce new Aussies in HK to others and they have regular social events and gatherings. All you really need is to meet one person and you'll find that they'll introduce you to others and so on. Then you'll find you're meeting new ppl every weekend, until you settle down to a regular group of friends. None of my close friends in HK are or were colleagues, I met them all while out and about. Good luck!
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Thanks All
And thank you all for your comments. I have taken it all on board. Yes colleagues is always good but they are all Chinese and do their own thing.
You know I guess you take things for granted. Back in Aus its just a matter of going out and catching up with friends and its a no brainer, where as here (or anywhere new I guess) you have to consciously work at forming new relationships. It's hard work especially after puttting a solid week of work in.
BTW I am a guy :) Iv never been the type of guy that hangs out at a bar though and just drinks. I use to promote at night clubs when I was younger and it was a big part of my life. Im now in my early 40's and really don't want to go through all that again even though I know its out there. Im sure clubs are CLICKY here like they are in most places and I have clicked enough :)
Anyway, thanks again people ..
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". Back in Aus its just a matter of going out and catching up with friends and its a no brainer, where as here (or anywhere new I guess) you have to consciously work at forming new relationships. It's hard work especially after puttting a solid week of work in."
Yes and no. As mentioned since there are so many expats it does tend to be rather easy to find people in the same boat. We all remember what it was like when we got here and a lot of us are very welcoming and forthcoming. Heck, I can't remember ever making so many friends among neighbors as I have in HK.
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