need help!

I need help! The other day my husband voiced his opinion once again after 5 years of marriage and I totally agree with what he said but I don't know how to change. I want to change.


That thing about how a girl changes to a woman. I don't see much of a transformation in myself. For example, if we meet someone I would be percieved as a very nice and friendly person. Someone who is always there for u.


What i need to become is an authorative figure like him. Least I should have the demeanour of a MRS..


I am too goody goody like girls. If there are guests for dinner. He says I serve a bit too much. Leave the food on the table people can take as they please.


In group discussions don't stop. I tend to stop if there is a difference of opinion. I don't like arguements. Even if I am right I keep quite to avoid fights. He says u with hold information. If u share u will learn more. I agree but I just cannot share with those who think they are too smart.


On an average any of my friendship lasts 20 days. After that just an observation people try to dominate and then I feel its time to change friends.


I am in my 30's. I hate some things that people do. He says I need to expose such people in front of the rest of the group. However I feel why create enemies.


Example : I had a friend who visited often once she came to know almost everything about how I run my house and finer details she moved on to make more friends. As of now we hardly talk unless she wants some info. I have the same problem with almost everybody.

Hi!


I am like u when it comes to serving people with food.! But let me give u a tip!Over the years, i have changed myself to a lot. It works. All u need to do, Simply follow these:

-When u have guests, place the food on table and say" Hello guys! food's all served". Pls. do feel urself as home and enjoy"that's it.

-Enjoy the dinner table with everyone and not keep urself bz with serving.U have a group of mature people on the table, they will not starve to death.

-U have to accept, difference of opinion always exist everywhere. Sounds like ur confidence is stimulised within u. I think he's right, if ur confident that something is right, don't give up! fall for it. Different heads/minds is the perfect place for arguments to breed, so don't get scared. What's wrong in arguing!

Peoply try to dominate u , coz u r nt confident of what u r and what u do.! Think, noone is perfect.U should be proud of yourself of whatever and who u r.Do'nt let people dominate u!Remember! Noone in the world has the right to RULE u!If this is clear, everything is.

-Noone is smarter! Everyone is gifted with talents and smartness in their areas, parameters.Whoever u r, what ever u r , u r the best for U!

-IGNORE PEOPLE WHO CONFRONT U!Think, they are none to u.

-That's fine! World does'nt stop with one or two friends! Move on! It's ok if she calls u to take some infor from u, which means that she finds you very informative and she thinks u have some talent and potentiality.

Think , u help someone! U welcome everyone, occasional, regulars etc.I do'nt think u should worry about anything.

In fact, ur friends do not deserve u !If they do not hang with you, it's a loss to them.They are truely missing out on something and someone nice.!

Need more help....most welcome.

sorry for the repeat click!

thanks a ton!