Posted by
bub
18 yrs ago
We've recently moved to a new place after 4 yrs, my children (both boys - 5 and 1/2, and 3yrs)go to new schools, its a new flat far away from our old residence, i have started studying full time and we have a new helper.
My elder son is very sad all the time, mostly crying for attention and gets easily bullied by the younger one, who himself is very quiet and meek at school.
Both the children were very playful and happy but now the scene is far from that.There are no friends here and they are irritable most of the time.
Was our decision to move wrong? It may not be possible to move back again, what is the way out, even if it is a slow process.
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bub
18 yrs ago
Not too long, we've been here only a month, but because of my time schedule i haven't been able do enough.I need to take immediate steps.
I plan to take them to the club and hope to find their age group kids, also am thinking of getting them together with other kids whose moms i know just a little bit.
can you give more suggestions!
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If your kids had best friends back at your old place, you can also get the helpers (even if your helper is new) to arrange playdates at a park half-way from your old and new place. The biggest problem for kids after a move is not so much to make new friends, but to have "lost" their friends.
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bub
18 yrs ago
i am taking steps towards amends i can make, so am planning to take the kids out to the pool today with friends who too have moved from where we lived before, ......... it was just a question of a phone call........ also i plan to study that 1 extra hour at my place of study so that the kids and the husband get ALL of my time when i get home. THANKS for your suggestions, these are making me feel better already, becoz i too have been very upset lately due to the adjustment problems.......... its good to have people to advise you!!
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i notice that if i am stressed and tense because of something, my baby senses it and it makes him cranky and clingy (this is a 19month old, so much younger than your tow), but i remember absorbing stress from siblings and parents as a child. So even though it sounds difficult, take a deep breath, straighten up, lighten up, smile and show that you are relaxed and sure that the moving was a good decision, i think your sons migh relax a bit too.
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