Homework

Hi,


I would like to hire a tutor to help my 9 years old son in year 5 at ESF with his homework as I've been trying to do it myself but we end up being very frustrate.


Thanks

Hi there,

Where do you live? Have you thought of posting a note in your building or your local Park and Shop? Good luck!

No matter how frustrating the situation is, you have to teach your child that it is his responsibility to complete his homework. Just let him bear the consequences of not completing the task.


Some ESF teachers are not strict and do not punish the students. But it is up to you to enforce some consequences so he will learn to take responsibilties. He will be going into secondary school soon and he needs to be motivated and independent. Hiring a tutor does not solve the problem. A tutor helps with weak students with additional teaching not with self-discipline!

i am agree with babswymak

my daughter is in y5 same as ur son but she always finsih her homework on sat day time after that she kumon class and some other thing also but i never force her to do her home she is happyly done her work and sunday she enjoying swimming and clcyingother stuff too eeven my younger one too coz i make them habbit u must have to do ur homework frist then play

i hope it take little time but u must force ur kids to do

I agree with letting her suffer the consequence of NOT doing her homework.


My 4 year old daughter is in the local school and she gets homework daily even in K1. There was one occasion when she just refused to do her homework. I said, "Allright, you'll just have to hand it back to your teacher and explain to her why it's not done." I put her homework back into her bag and she took it to school I also put a note in for her teacher explaining what had happened. When it was time to hand in her homework, she cried because hers was not done (her teacher called to tell me. The children had to hand in their work and my daughter handed in a blank page). Eversince then, she did ALL her homework on her own (well, so far anyway).


Good luck.

definitely agree that part of learning is becoming independent, and developing good self study habits, especially by year 5. i am a bit shocked to hear that a 4 year old is expected to finish their homework by themself tho...i encourage my year 2 students to try to finish their homework by themselves, but to ask mom or dad to help if they need it (parents should take an active role in their child's learning after all) and above all, to leave some time EVERY DAY for playing, hopefully outside...

"parents should take an active role in their child's learning after all"

Yes, I agree but it really depends... some homework we need to help them with, but not all.


I really like my daughter's teachers because they always tell the children WHAT to do with the homework so that when the children get home, they know EXACTLY what they have to do.


For example, my daughter takes out her homework and tells me that her teacher tells her to colour the biggest object yellow and the smallest one blue. I just say, "That's great, let's take out your crayons" and she does it on her own. I haven't a clue what she has to do most of the time because it's in chinese. I only say, "That's great, I'm so proud that you can do your own homework".


If, however, she has trouble writing an alphabet or if she starts a chinese character with the wrong stroke, then of course I'll help her.


I'm lucky that the teachers at my daughter's schools teach them how to do their homework before they come home so I am able to let her attempt to do it herself first before I go in and help. She seems to take great pride in doing her homework on her own. She REFUSES my help MOST (if not ALL) the time. IF I try to do her homework (and I only pretend to want to do her homework), she stops me and says, "Mummy, it is MY homework".


"above all, to leave some time EVERY DAY for playing, hopefully outside..."

Yup, I agree with outdoor unstructured play :-)

that's very cute! i can't wait til my girl is school age (8mths now)...sounds like your girl has a great attitude!

I disagree with letting kids learn the natural consequences of not doing homework - especially in HK. In the States, if you fall behind and don't complete your work, you are held back a year. However, in HK, if you don't complete your work, they will ask your child to leave the school. It's a very competitive environment, which causes a lot of frustration for parents of children with special needs who don't get the interventions that they would get back home. Also, if kids devise ways to stay undercover and learn how to get away with not doing the work while in primary school, then when they get into secondary school, they won't have the skills in place to get through it.